Girls, would you give your number if a guy you found attractive approached you like this?

[RickyvOosters]

So, today I was in a hurry and didn't really have time to stay and chat, but I saw this absolutely gorgeous girl, and I really wanted her number. I thought to myself, what if I just walk up to her, ask if I'm interrupting anything, introduce myself, and say that I'm in a hurry but wanted to ask real quick whether I could have her number. But my nerves got the better of me and I kept on walking.

So, assume that you found this guy attractive, and you were single, and he did this in a very natural way, would you give you number, or would you really need a longer conversation to even consider giving your number?

yes

no

[SueShe]

No, I am sorry. I would never ever give my number to a random person that I don't know for a number of years. The reason?

I am fully aware that the only reason for a person to ask for a number is to eventually get into the pants of that target person.

You find that girl "attractive" but you have absolutely no clue whether she is a criminal, is married with children or has a contagious disease. Therefore, the only reason why you ask for that number is because ultimately, you want to be intimate with her.

What if that person has no personality or a weak character? Today's society is only geared towards hooking up. It disturbs me to no end that one always wants to have everyone's phone number. That is actually the main reason why I never take my phone with me.

[RickyvOosters]

This may come as a surprise, but getting into the pants of a beautiful girl is the last thing I have in mind when I spot one. The thoughts going through my brain are usually "she looks interesting", "I wonder what kind of person she is", "I wonder what she likes to do in her spare time" etc.

I think one of the reasons it's so hard for men to date nowadays is because of this warped image girls have in their head of what guys want. Sure there may be guys like you described, but I happen to think the majority is the opposite of that.

[SueShe]

OK, let's pursue the first part of your reply.

Now, you find this girl interesting and she agrees to give you her phone number. What comes next? Are you going to give up on her since you have the phone number? Of course not. What will happen next?

You will ask to have a coffee and then? Then you would probably see if you can continue to contact her and if she agrees, what would be the next step?

I will tell you what the next step will be. It will be to try to see if you can maybe give her a kiss. Then what? After that kiss, you may think, hmmm, maybe that I can try to go a little further and that brings us to what I stated, to what the ultimate goal of asking her phone number really is, no?

[RickyvOosters]

I understand your point of view, but I'm afraid I have to disagree. Your assumption that my ultimate goal after obtaining a girl's phone number is to solely engage in physical intimacy with her is simply not true.

As someone who values meaningful connections and relationships, my interest in getting to know a girl goes beyond just physical attraction. Look, it's important to acknowledge that physical attraction can be a part of initial attraction for some people, and it's natural to appreciate someone's appearance. I'm a human after all, and I cannot control how I feel. But the main purpose of asking for her phone number is to continue the conversation, get to know her better, and explore the possibility of building a deeper connection.

If sex eventually comes from that, of course I will welcome it. Unless you're asexual, it is only a normal and natural thing to desire. Besides, engaging in sexual activity is extremely important in any relationship and can help partners bond emotionally and physically. But in no way would I ever try to force or speed up the process, and would only want to do it if both parties are consenting and comfortable with it.

[Anonymous]

i wouldn't give my number out like that, would need to talk more to feel more comfortable