Women keep sending me this emote 😍 and then dissapearing after. How would you interpret this?

[Anonymous]

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I just think of those like they don't mean anything. Women's compliments rarely mean anything since they're trying to be nice. They flatter just about everybody. They might even tell a guy with one leg and one arm hobbling around with a twisted face that he's handsome just to make him feel better. They don't say it because they wanna fuck him. So their compliments are largely worthless.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Like a boss who tells everyone they did a good job, even the slacker next to you who barely did anything. That's a nice boss but it makes his compliments worthless because he'll compliment practically anybody.

[Asker]

I'm not into casual sex, nor do I have insecurity issues. I actually like how I look and its gotten me enough attention to not worry about that sort of thing, so I doubt it was meant that way.

My first thought was she just didn't bother to read the profile before sending it.

[Asker]

Really not liking this whole "hookup culture" nonsense.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

She might be sweet and have taken the time. Just in my limited life experience, I think it's always better if our goal is to get a woman to gauge her responses when we're being the most active. So I interpret this context as meaningless given the absence of what I did. I didn't move strongly enough to make her response clear to me. So some emoji with hearts popping out means nothing to me since all I did was passively post a photo of me. I didn't touch her, kiss her, dance with her, ask her out -- actions where I can get more info about how she really feels.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Me neither with hookup culture but the guys who navigate do have a primal understanding of how women are like. They don't have a deep understanding usually, but primal is better to start with than deep.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Guys who understand how to navigate hookup culture understand bait really well from a fishing analogy. Deep and genuine guys usually have the best fishing boats. These guys have no fishing boat. They got shit just duck-taped together barely resembling a boat. But they have the best bait, and that's the most immediate and important thing to get the right catch. There's stuff to learn from these guys, even if your goal is to reel in and keep a fish forever and love it for the rest of your life.

[Asker]

The context for my situation is it's on a dating site, so it's a matter of these women liking me, messaging me with that emoji, and then ghosting before they have a chance to respond.

[Asker]

before I have a chance to respond*

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I've never tried the dating sites (kind of a geezer TBH) but I hope there's still something applicable. Women's responses are unreliable when you don't move in. Move in and they become more reliable.

[Asker]

I'm not looking for hookups, I am deep and genuine, and very specific on my profile, and I do want to keep one girl forever.

I'm not sure what you mean by bait though? To me looks and having stuff in common are the best bait. My profile is designed to weed out bad "fish" while attracting the rare keeper types.

[Asker]

What do you mean by "move in"?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I think there's something to learn from your shallow and idiot buddies who just wanna tap some ass. Don't learn their motivations but learn how they get dates. They have a skill at it, and this is a skill matter. It's not a matter of genuineness. The world around us defies that idealistic notion. It's a matter of skill. But you can utilize the skill you gain from them to noble purpose to secure the love of your life and your wife.

[Asker]

Yeah but... the types of girls they get are boring and stupid.. :(

My type of girl would tell the shallow idiot guy to "go fuck himself" So I'd only be ruining my chances.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I don't know how to do this online but there's moving in physically. When a girl says you're cute, you can (very carefully and with the gentleman's inclination to stop whenever it discomforts her), touch her arm, then maybe her thigh, then work up her thigh, up her skirt, kiss her -- you know, "moving in." You pay attention to what the woman resists but you go in there. You make things happen. That sounds almost rapist but I am not talking about that. I'm not talking about stepping over the boundaries but exploring them. When you interact with a girl you explore the boundaries.

Don't cross them like some caveman. Don't lung across to the passenger's seat for a kiss. Walk her out to the steps of her home, and in the night air, do something bold. Dance with her. Spin her around. Hum a song. Pull her close, and pay attention to her face when she's close. If she's smiling or even looking at you longingly, give her a kiss right then and there. Always be willing to abort. I think that's the difference between a gentleman and an assaulter. One is willing to abort any time and always trying to know when to do so. The other has no abort button.

[Asker]

Thats moving too fast, I'm not ok with touching that soon. I'd need to be friends first to trust her, and get her tested before allowing physical contact.

In the past, in person, the girl would always touch before asking, I always attracted the women who go in for the move way before I felt safe doing so, It made me uncomfortable, I'd end up going to the doctor over being kissed without my consent, So I've never had to consider learning how to "move in" in that context. Thankfully I never caught anything, but the idea of just "moving in" in that way, as soon as she shows any interests, that sounds terrifying, My focus in person was how can I get them to slow down...

I switched to online dating because it avoids that risk element problem, and becaue I'm picky and I want to pull from the entire country rather than just locally when trying to find a girlfriend. But I'm having no luck online, I was open and honest about myself, my personality, what I want in life, and in a partner, and it feels like I'm only like for my looks...

[BungusHighFivePizza]

That's tricky! I'm used to conceiving of the guy as the one taking actions, and doing it right if he's sensitive to the woman's response. To melt her with his touch, so to speak. But one thing I think that is a harsh truth is that this is all a game. Real love can come from the game, but it's all a game.

[Skylarlight]

She’s messing with u