Is it goofy to use emoticons when texting women?

[ManOnFire]

I mostly mean like smiley faces or sad faces. I know that women use emoticons more than guys do but is it goofy if a guy does it back often? I'm one of the few men who does have a habit of using them. All the chicks I've texted never seemed to care unless they just weren't saying so?

Is it goofy for a guy to do it often?

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm not a fan of them, even when texting my friends. But then I'm older so I guess it depends on your age as well.

But it depends, I would use the female in question your texting as a guide: if she uses emotes, it's fine.
If she doesn't, don't use them.

[ManOnFire]

Also a good point. I'm pursuing an Asian lady at my job and she never uses emojis when we text. Maybe I shouldn't either.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Oh, I didn't know it was a coworker!

Definitely no emotes then- keep it professional, unless she's a very close friend or as I said, she uses them first

[ManOnFire]

Oh we're very friendly, and she invited me to her birthday party later this month. I'm working on sex or a relationship with her lol. Either one is fine.

[GGasks]

When a guy texting me uses a emoticon a huge red flag for me goes up. Not because it’s goofy or immasculine but because for me it looks like a way to butter someone up. To start leading up to talk that I wouldn’t appreciate

[Levin]

What kind of talk would that be? ;) :O :P

[ManOnFire]

@GGasks Mmmmm... o... kay.

[GGasks]

It wouldn’t lead anywhere. Cuz I wouldn’t want it to

[Exterminatore]

I think texting women is goofy. I think calling them and setting up a date and not talking to them until said date is what you should do.

If you must text don’t use them. Leave her guessing what you meant.

[heartfelthippie]

Applause for the man who is gentleman enough to call a lady to set up a date! A man who actually calls definitely gets my attention. Well done.

[Exterminatore]

Thank you.

[ManOnFire]

@heartfelthippie @Exterminatore I didn't say anything in this question about only texting to date and not calling. It was about when you're both interested in each other period and are already texting.

I'll do you one better: how about not calling at all and actually asking her FACE TO FACE how she would feel about doing something some time, which is what I actually do with every woman and prefer it that way so I can see her face and read her body language.

[heartfelthippie]

Yes, VERY good stuff. :)

[heartfelthippie]

@ManOnFire, the face-to-face asking out is very impressive. That's the kind of thing that makes me weak in the knees and think, "Now that's a man." Well done.

[Exterminatore]

@ManOnFire

Why text? The point is to go out on a date. That’s my point. Texting back and forth unless. Unless you’re already an item it seems silly to me. All mystery is taken away. All challenge is taken away. I think that’s horribly boring to most girls.

For me if I’m talking to a girl, I first get her number. I want her to wonder if I’m going to call, which I will in like 5 days or so. Then I will not say “how bout we do something sometime.” I’ll say “let’s meet for sushi at Chomps at 5 pm next Monday”Then I get off the phone and I don’t call or text.

That’s the point of a date. You do your talking then not over a series of texts with someone you are interested. You actually physically go out together. If I’m not on a date with a girl I’m interested in or asking for a date, I’m not talking to her.

This may be a generational gap thing.

So to answer your question I thing it’s tacky and silly. Set up a date and get to know each other in person. There is no reading of body language nor voice inflection or tone of voice with texting. I want to see the other persons body language.

Unless she’s your girlfriend, don’t text. Then only for quick conversations. I’m a busy dude. I damn sure don’t want her thinking I’ve got nothing going on. You wanna get to know me, you go out with me, otherwise I have stuff to do... unless your my girlfriend.

[Exterminatore]

@ManOnFire

I hope I’m clear head. My point is weather or not you use emojis or whatever they’re called I think texting a girl is dumb, like I said unless she is already your girlfriend and the conversation is quick.

That was my point. Emoji or not texting girls your not already f*cking or in a relationship with is dumb, and even if those criteria are met it should be done SPARINGLY.

Make sense?

[ManOnFire]

@Exterminatore NOT texting a girl just because you're not fucking yet or not in a relationship yet? No, that doesn't make sense. Dude, most women are texters, and a lot that I've known were very comfortable with that. As I said before, I prefer to ask a woman face to face on a date, not call and ask. Texting is just what you do to keep in touch and have small chats.

The point of this question was if using emojis as a guy was goofy period, whether fucking/relationship is happening at all.

[Exterminatore]

I think it’s a generational thing maybe.

I get maybe I deviated some from your question. I know you just wanted to know about the emojis. I just look at it in the broader context.

Dates are what you do to keep in touch and are a great litmus test for if the girl likes you or not. Otherwise you could be sitting there texting away and her ego is getting larger and larger for all your attention, yet she doesn’t care about you.

I think it revels to much of yourself too.

So use the emojis I suppose. I don’t think anyone would look down and it would maybe help make clear what you mean as tone of voice is not present.

I guess where I was going with is it to me texting a girl in that way is just crazy to me. I don’t want her thinking we’re pals.

Must be a generational thing or maybe even just a me thing.

[octopusrebellion]

I've always gotten a great response from women using emojis - you gotta be playful with 'em... emotional context is important for humans in general - particularly important for ladies...

[ManOnFire]

Yeah, exactly why I like to use them.

[octopusrebellion]

Yeah - I've actually asked women about it... too many dudes lack strong emoji game haha

[ManOnFire]

That is true.

[Anonymous]

No, just as long as the person doesn't over do it. I mean I've been talking to this guy and he doesn't use it too much but when he uses an emoji it comes out even smoother than he already is lol. Like when we were in the middle of talking nonsense and then it goes back to when he first saw me and how he said he was too nervous to talk to a “pretty girl” etc and i asked him you shouldve just talked to me im not that pretty to make anybody too nervous, then he said something like “are you kidding me? You’re gorgeous 🤩”. I don't know he just knows when to and when not to use jt lol. Meanwhile me on the other hand either uses it too much or not use it at all... depends on my mood

[Opinion Owner]

Overall emojis do improve dry af convos and the conversation would seem more interesting too its like putting more emotions than whats already there

[PasticheGrizzly]

When my boyfriend and I started texting he used them more than me. It’s just a conversation enhancer. He’d also send me paragraphs of text and pictures/videos of him doing stuff like making pancakes.
I found it endearing and cute. And I started doing the same thing too lol.
Normally if one persons using them the other will match the intensity. At least with my experience.

[StarsInTheEyes]

I think it'd be adorable. Since texts are just words, without any type of facial expression, it makes the conversation lack emotion. I find it pleasant to read texts with Emojis. Just don't overdo as a habit, meaning several Emojis in a row. If a guy usually doesn't text several Emojis but occasionally, for example, when talking about certain topics, then it's okay to me.

[Natt_s]

I personally like when guy uses emojis (like not all the time and when it's not a response with only an emoji), but it depends on the girl. If you're in your 30s texting with the same aged girl, she couldn't have to like it.

On the other hand, you shouldn't care what the girl/guy thinks. Emojis are used to brighten up the conversation and sometimes they can say more that words. Keep using them :)

[Monicaa7690]

i actually think it’s more fun and shows the guy has more of a personality. just don’t overdo it and make your whole convo pure emojis. that’s somewhat cringy and will repel a woman than attract her.

[ManOnFire]

Okay good to know.

[Anonymous]

I use them all the time. Sometimes people seem bland when they text without emojis. But that’s just me... I mean... I texted my boss with smiley faces xD

She was cool with it though
I don’t text my current boss with smileys though. She seems like she wouldn’t be cool with it lol

[SuzyB]

It depends how well you know her, if you just started chatting maybe not, if you’ve been in contact for awhile, sure.

[ManOnFire]

Good point.

[YHL6965]

I personally hat when people use emotes all the time because it makes them not sincere. I only use emotes when I really feel like smiling or winking. Some people use emotes in every message and that is just annoying.

[ManOnFire]

Yeah, I'm like you.

[mandy97]

I am just going to say it... noo stop god, u can use 5 in total max and 2 per convo. Crying laughing face, blowing kiss, pervert face and maybe the normal smile or the fire

[Frangipaniandlotus]

It shows you like to express your feelings/ want to make me aware of your current feelings. It is positive. Its not goofy. unless you intentionally make it be.

[BluesheepOwl]

It lightens the mood and it's nice to see. I think it's a different story if the guy is laughing at you or making the girl feel bad or putting her down while using a emoji. Then it's like f you bro lol

[queenfreddie]

I don't think so. I personally like when a guy uses them, because then I feel like they actually have emotions and aren't just stone-faced, looking at the screen when I text them.

[Crocuta_Hyaenidae]

But what if I'm stone-faced all the time?

[queenfreddie]

A lot of girls don’t like that. Girls like guys that actually do show emotion.

[Lilyanony]

I love it that's what they're there for. I mean there are so many now to fit the whole conversation. 😊

[Anonymous]

I used to do this. Now I’m very careful not too. It’s a beta male characteristic to overuse emoticons.

Emoticons are like cuss words. They need to be appropriately timed and if you do it for the hell of it starts to make you look stupid and immature.

[Aizou]

I find that emojis add personality to an otherwise robotic statement/sentence. After a while, you just have to show some emotion. 😅

[BleachLovesMe]

No, if a guy don't use emojis with me, that's an instant turn off.

[Saarr]

Noo, I don't like it when they don't use them. It's the only way to make sure you understand each other (to know someone is serious or not)

[heybooitsme]

Not goofy just sounds more friendly and excessive emojies make me see the guy as childish

[Mickey9999]

No. It’s enjoyable and playful. Not to be over used of course. It’s just a playful flirtiness

[DublinRollerGirl]

I use all kinds of things to illustrate my posts and emails.

[CJC1993]

If she uses them and as long as you're not over doing it then its fine

[BlueWalker]

I use them all the time with both genders. lol Oh well! 😉😊😋🤪

[Safa01]

They are good, especially since you can’t see the other person’s face and body language. But not to be overdone.

[UnknownGagsUser]

I like when people use emoji in texting.. especially guys I think it's nothing bad about it

[MimiHashima]

Nope. Seeing my guy be expressive would be nice too.

[us3rn4m3x]

I like it when they send emotions so I know in what tone the text is.

[TacosRAwesome]

I like it because the only times when I don't use emoticons is when I'm only talking to someone to be polite.

[Lance1965]

Texting is kind of goofy anyway but using emoticons all the time, I don't know but it seems childish to me if they are overused.

[blossoming]

i dunno this one guy used to use them with me and he asked me out and i found it goofy but keep in mind i wasn't into him and i rejected him... if it was a guy i liked and was into it wouldn't be that goofy as long as he doesn't overuse them haha

[Anonymous]

I love to use emoticons and I don't care if they like it or not

[Alice2398]

Slightly but I do it myself at times as well. I'm okay with smile or laughing faces but I find it proper cringy when guys use one's like these 😜 😍 whilst texting. I automatically think fuckboi

[thatguyfromtoronto]

well in that case 😜

[Alice2398]

@thatguyfromtoronto tse1.mm.bing.net/th

[thatguyfromtoronto]

im glad im behind a screen otherwise if i did that emoji in real life, ud probably kick me in the balls 😖

[Alice2398]

@thatguyfromtoronto no I'd just cringe and ignore you 😅

[thatguyfromtoronto]

wow that's worse 🤯

[Dark93]

If used sparingly its fine. Helps convey emotion and intent.

[Juxtapose]

A "real" man wouldn't care how others perceived what he did unless he was trying to manipulate them.

[Aynsof]

I generally find them goofy and something that should be used sparingly
But I cannot speak for women they may see it differently

[john075]

No.
it is fun. It is more readable than simply writing. And it's a game to find new ones and surprise the other.

[Browneye57]

It's even more goofy to try to establish some kind of relationship by texting. It's a giant fail, for a LOT of reasons.

[ManOnFire]

We're talking about when you're ALREADY getting to know each other, not form a relationship on texting. Texting is just what comes after you've made the moves. Sorry man, you usually have some good points but I think your answer here was the fail this time.

[Browneye57]

That wasn't your question.
The question was about emoticons - and they don't replace real emotion you can read when you actually TALK to someone, and body language is completely missing. So you miss out on at least half of what's being communicated. Which leads to misunderstanding and confusion. How many times have you seen someone take a completely different meaning on what you said in a text?
So the questions here are constant as to the confusion about their relationship becuase most of their communication is by texting, or instant chat, or some messenger.
And that's why it's a fail.
If you want to use cutesie icons go for it. If you try hard enough you can be just like a girl. :)

[ManOnFire]

Yeah, that was my question. Everyone else here is understanding exactly what I said in the details.

[Browneye57]

You're really not that bright are you? LOL Oh well.

[_-M-_]

I don't mind emoticons at all, I use them too sometimes.

[_-M-_]

If a guy is using emoticons while texting me, it's totally fine.

[LuWe22]

No. I use them too. And I like to send hearts to my boyfriend and he text me kissing emoji or hearts too.

[SSuar19]

I think it's a good thing, can better describe the purpose of writing

[Babygirl_S]

No I find it cute and it means you are a human with emotions.

[joethemoe912]

I think it's obvious, it bugs me when girls overdo it.

[BellumEtPacem]

I don't think it's goofy. It's just expressing oneself through visual aids (Emojis, Emoticons) 🙂

[Crocuta_Hyaenidae]

I am caught between knowing that I come off as abrasive and knowing that emojis make me look friendlier in text form---

and thinking emojis look childish, trendy and silly in a way that doesn't suit a practical, blunt old dinosaur like me at all.

[boulshyte]

only use it if ur tone might not be picked up. i find it annoying when guys do it for no reason or when it isn't used right and ends up being confusing.

[CarpetDenim]

It’s goofy for anyone to use emoticons unironically

[Anonymous]

It's a generational thing. It's a turn-off for me, because it strikes me as immature. I'm 40, though.

[ManOnFire]

I like women in their 40s. The woman I'm texting right now is about to be 40. Guess I should never use it for you lol.

[Pinky_what_why]

lol tbh cute i guess once it's not a lot

[natashamk108]

I honestly don't prefer them.. I like to stick with these :) :( :/ ;) ♡

[ManOnFire]

Those are the ones I mean.

[heartfelthippie]

Those ones can be fun and flirty in small doses. It's when a dude starts putting all kinds of random pictures that I have to Google, that I get rather annoyed.

[natashamk108]

Sorry they changed.. I mean like the colon and parenthesis kind of things

[Zip1277]

I'd make sure to use less than she does.

[NicolaD]

Not a problem - an emoji saves a lot of words!

[Titanic1912]

My girlfriend and I use them all the time.

[Kayla45]

Yes, I think so.

[ManOnFire]

Wow. One of the few females to feel this way lol. But I appreciate the honesty.

[tartaarsaus]

I don't know. I like emojis

[kitty71]

We all do it even to men

[SketchForger]

Well I use "lol" and "XD" but that's mostly it.

[Anonymous]

Nah I think it's sweet and cute.

[KurreÅkeKarlsson]

I have never used one unironicly.

[danigurllll]

Goofy? Yes.
Goofy in a bad way? Not At All!!!

[spartan55]

It's sorta gay for guys to use those I think.

[Anonymous]

Depends if the girl you’re texting is using them