I met this cute autistic girl at work who behaves unpredictably, is this common for girls?

[Anonymous]

This girl is 19 , and we’ve been working together for a month now. She’s autistic, never talks much , just replies to everything with a short answer, never initiates a conversation. I asked her out to dinner and she says yes, then later she thought it was a friends thing and pay for her own food. I asked her if she hangs out of anyone and she says doesn’t. After a while i asked her out again when she was free and she rejects me and then friendzones me. I was always helpful and good to her, never made any mistakes or said anything wrong. She never says bye to me and rarely says hi. Then one day i leave my job and came in to say my farewells to her, she says it was nice of me to do so. Then i went to hug her and she used her arms to block me and says dont hug me. I asked why and she says it makes her uncomfortable. Just want to know if girls are usually like this, cold hearted, rude, or if it’s a rare case.

[Apulu_Imback]

It's not being cold hearted, it's called creating boundaries. And since she is autistic, she takes her personal space and friend circle really seriously. Commonly, an autistic person is not really comfortable with touches and it usually makes them uncomfortable and you have experienced that by being pushed by her when you hugged her. Autistic people tend to be unpredictable because of their short straight forward answers. And they tend to be clear about their feelings so if she says no then better stay as her friend, nothing more. If you were good with her then that doesn't means that she have to like you back. Aren't friends good with each other too? Well, you love someone through your feelings and heart, you behaving good to her won't make her love you but only create a good impression about you.

[Anonymous]

I think it would be common for a girl like her.

[Anonymous]

Dude, even though all women react fairly unpredictably, she's autistic man!!

[clampfan101]

Aren’t you 30-35yo?

[KrakenAttackin]

She's not into you.

[Anonymous]

As so

[Opinion Owner]

Someone who has atusim, yeah we r a bit all over the place 🤣