I'm a civilian worker at my local police department. I have a crush on this one female police officer who I think she bake more. How do I open her up?

[Anonymous]

I'm a civilian worker at my local police department. I have a crush on this one female police officer. Every night I see her, I wait by the window for when she departs so I can say hello to her. She says hello back. On and off I tell her she should do something therapeutic like 'baking,' but always says she doesn't really bake. Occasionally before or after roll call, I go up to her and tell her that baked cupcakes and I saved you a piece. She says "oh, really?" This week, if I see her, I'm going to try to fatten her up with some homemade Pignoli Cookies and Homemade Oatly Milk. I'm trying to get her to loosen up or open up more. Not everything can be about law. I want to know what this female cop is interested in that doesn't have to do with crime. But how do I open her up?

[SakuraBlossoms87]

First off you could NOT be working in a worse environment than a police station where majority of staff are VERY knowledgable in LAW to be pushing your agenda on a woman. Are you LOOKING to get arrested & charged with sexual harassment or what?

As for the rest of your idea.

STOP trying to push your agenda. HAVE some RESPECT. If she likes you, she'll talk to you. Shoving baked goods in her face is just going to get her CREEP alarm going.

And if you continue with your DISRESPECTFUL behavior of trying to FORCE the issue it is eventually going to get to the point you're fired & potentially even criminally charged.

Talk to her like you would a NORMAL person, a friend, etc. STOP FORCING THINGS.

Nevermind not everyone thinks baking is therapeutic.

I'm a damn good cook but I don't care for baking. I'll do it, but I don't enjoy it. My therapeutic pass times are painting, photography, etc. For all you know her therapeutic pass time is the gym or hiking or reading or a gun range.

[Asker]

Actually no. She's more so a "whatever/go-the-flow" kind of girl. She sits home and sleeps and watches whatever is on TV. Well, that's what she brought to the table when I asked her what she did on her vacation off from work, lol. I didn't go any further than that as far as forcing stuff, lol.

[Asker]

Also, I think you should know, I'm not a sex machine like many men. I'm not looking to get in this female officer's pants like so. First off, I'm not married to her. Second of all, she don't even know me, and I don't even know her. To get stuck paying child support as a reward for me making her a mother would be a dumb outrage, lol. We're just human beings.

[Anonymous]

It's important to respect your colleague's boundaries and personal space, and not to make assumptions about what she may be interested in or try to push her to open up in ways that she may not be comfortable with.

Instead of focusing solely on your own interests and desires, try to get to know your colleague as a person outside of work. Ask her about her hobbies, interests, and experiences, and listen attentively to what she has to say. Show genuine interest in her as a person, and respect her boundaries if she's not comfortable sharing certain information.

It's also important to consider the power dynamics at play in your workplace and to avoid behaviors that could be perceived as inappropriate or unprofessional. It's okay to have a crush on someone, but it's important to maintain a professional and respectful relationship in the workplace.

Ultimately, it's up to your colleague to decide how much she wants to open up and share with you. It's important to respect her boundaries and decisions, and to focus on building a positive and respectful working relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.

[misogynistic_pig]

In a work situation, it is important to maintain an appropriate level of professionalism and respect towards your co-workers.

If you are interested in the police officer, it is best to try to establish a friendly and respectful relationship in the workplace and allow things to unfold naturally.

You can try to get to know her better by participating in group activities with your coworkers and by talking to her informally.

If you have the opportunity to work on a project together, take the opportunity to work well together and demonstrate your ability to be a good coworker.

It is important to note that it is not always appropriate to have a romantic relationship in the workplace, especially if there is a difference in rank between you and the police officer.

If you decide to take steps to open up to her, be sure to do so in a respectful and appropriate manner, and always keep the boundaries of your relationship at work in mind.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I am a 100% asshole creep that walks into a workout supplement store to ask the fatty buff dudes where their steroids are at. I'm not joking... I pretend I'm the Joker from Batman Returns and in the grocery store and hit on the girl bagging my groceries as I pretend I'm the joker. 100% don't give a fuck asshole.

You sound kind of weird to me dude. Just saying.

[spartan55]

What makes you think she has any interest in you?

[In_Trance]

Not a good idea