Well I've been seeing this girl for a while and she was really into me. Suddenly, she started to ignore me and return my messages late without a reason. When we talk, everything is great again, but we can only talk if I initiate it. Do you think she is testing me or sth?
Dude, I have no idea what your relationship is like with this woman or what she could be doing or not doing. So, I hate to give a straight answer.
But in general, when a man or woman or any person starts doing this type of thing its shady to me. It usually is a start of a process that leads to other issues, but by the time you get to the real problems they have already conditioned you to accept their behavior and normal and right.
When they start to pull away like that, I usually give them maximum space and just wait and see what they do. You pressure then into discussing it and it can easily go wrong... in most cases they are not even aware they are doing it. But when you press them on it then they can react poorly.
Best thing you can do is just ask her, tell her you are getting a since that she is pulling away from you and you are curious what that could be about?
I want to say from my experience, this is the exception and not the norm.
I only dated one woman who did this, not because she disliked me, but because she was afraid of love. She would test interested suitors by flirting and suddenly ghosting them and watch as they understandably became irate and frustrated with her behaviors. This validated to her they werent worthy of her, giving her a sense of control and garnering her a reputation of being a bitch and asshole. She was perpetually single.
I realized her behaviors were rooted in unhealed childhood trauma. Love was not openly expressed in her family and she was sexually abused at an early age. She can't bring herself to love someone because for her, no such thing existed. Not developing excuses for her behavior, but at least letting you know its more complex than you may think.
Nah she's prolly ghosting. Sorry, bud. It sucks.
Did you say anything weird, direct, or sexual before she started pulling away?
If no, keep in mind sometimes you aren't the problem. Sometimes people just don't have the bandwidth to be decent people, but it doesn't reflect on what you did.
to me that is annoying that pissed me off if a guy am in a relashionship does that butif its just a started crush a guess guys and women do that to each other to see if u will come after them so they know u really do want to be with them an not use them but getting ignored annoys me
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I only ignore when I’m done with you for good. I don’t play games. I can only tell you how many times I’m done but when I’m done done, I just walk away and guaranteed you will never ever hear from me again. Even if you try reaching out, I will treat you like you never existed. Can’t expect me to just be there for you forever when I’m being treated like shit.
😂 on the other hand, she’s busy with other guys. Sorry. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Treat her the same way.
She could be…
1. More interested in someone else.
2. Trying not to look desperate.
3. Playing mind games and trying to get you to chase her because she wants the power in the relationship and resorts to manipulative tactics to obtain it.
It could also be another reason, but those are the 3 that come to mind.
Let’s just hope it’s scenario 2.
Only thing that would be tested there is my patience. No, no tests. If I ignore you I really really don't like you
If she play games she deserves to lose. So take the true option she ignore you because she found another guy more interesting now. You are old news.
I think that she's just not that into you, but is afraid to tell you that.
Even if this is a game, do you really want to be with someone that just randomly ignores you for long periods of time?
After they sense you are committed to them they stop going to much effort.
Nope. Sounds like she lost interest but can't come up with a good reason to justify ending it.
Its not a test. Its her telling you subtly her disinterest.
They test me by keeping poor time on the drums.
Girlies play those games constantly! Ignoring is the easiest of all to handle.
I'm sure some of them do. The same ones that post questions like "Why can't I find a man?"
She is either shit testing you or banging some other guy.
You can't forge a relationship with messaging.
If a girl is testing you, she's not attracted to you. Women don't test whom they're attracted to you because they're afraid of losing you.
You’ve likely lost her interest in some way
she used you to go to other men with more money
Sexy Neglecty~
you're 38 and you only just learned this?
No...
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