Women, are you with or against the idea of your man/partner/husband/boyfriend having female friends?

[MementoMori777]

I know where guys stand with this for the most case but not women, many women say they are insecure if a guy doesn't want their woman around male friends but that's not the case, we just know how guys think and we know how it can effect things because guys think with the wrong head most of the time and they don't always respect boundaries of a woman and its why I personally have a problem with it because I know I can trust my girl but not those guys around her because they can cross boundaries then I gotta stomp heads and stuff so I rather not her have any male friends, its to prevent things so... where do women leave off with this, do you care if your guy has female friends?

Yes

No

Other

[Apulu_Imback]

She better be friends with me. I'm supposed to know about all the female and male friends he has. If she is his friend then she should be my friend as well because we both are now one soul with two bodies. Same from my side. He should know my male friends and get along with them. Actually I have a really close male bestie, we have been friends for over 5 years now and I don't think that I can leave him for a boyfriend whom I would have known for less time so I do understand being bestie but I approve it only if it was from a long time, before I even came to him. His female friend should be his long term best friend and should become my friend too.

I'm fine with acquaintances, as long as they keep their distance.

But the main thing is, I don't even have to worry about this, cuz I ain't getting in relationship soon.

Single is so good to leave.

[MementoMori777]

Single does have a lot of benefits but I guess the question is for when you get someone I guess 😂

[Apulu_Imback]

I don't see that 'someone' anywhere *putting down my binoculars*.

[MementoMori777]

Well you definitely won't find him by watching anime, I'll just say that 😶

Foreal tho, it's not something you can predict, it will just happen and catch you off guard.

[Apulu_Imback]

Nah, if I don't find him reading romantic novels or writing a poem then he isn't mine.

[MementoMori777]

What if he's writing a poem of how he hates romantic novels? 🥴😂

[Apulu_Imback]

Poetry is romanticism in it's own way. No one can write an ugly poem. Romance is one of the most beautiful element of poet, it's not a poem if it's against romance.

[MementoMori777]

I can give you a run for your money real quick with that one, want a bet

Roses are red, violets are blue, I need money so I will just sue

I am broke, moths in my wallet, get a haircut just rockin a mullet

I can keep going 😂

[Apulu_Imback]

This isn't poetry. Just because you can rhyme few phrases, they don't become a poem. Where's the beauty here? All I have see is cheapness.

[MementoMori777]

Exactly it's a wack poem, I prove my point 😀

[Apulu_Imback]

No, I don't consider this as a poem. Others may enjoy this but for me this is kind of disrespectful towards poetry. Just like ripped jeans is a disrespect to denim.

[MementoMori777]

I was just joking tho, I wasn't trying to be disrespectful but I did notice the change in your vibes, mybad you can delete it

[Apulu_Imback]

Nope it's fine. I'm probably over sensitive about writing and music and I know I can be bipolar about these topics too so don't mind this. Just don't repeat it again infront of me, even as a joke. You can joke about me as a person and I would still laugh but I can't seem to accept jokes regarding music and writing since I am super serious about them.

[MementoMori777]

Yea I guess that makes sense, I'll keep that in mind so it doesn't happen again 🙃💯

[Apulu_Imback]

And you know by nature I'm not that funky person so yeah. We're good now.

[MementoMori777]

Yep 💯🙏

[provokeesmokee]

I am more worried about men who only have other men as friends. That's a red flag for me. They're likely not to know anything about women if they have no female friends.

Plus, I like having guy friends. I want a potential boyfriend to have girl friends.

My mother is the kind of insecure, abusive asshole who limited my father's contacts with women. He can't even smile at female coworkers he has worked with for years in the presence of my mother - she thinks smiling at a woman is "flirting". No, she is not normal. She is so insecure she once quit a job in 3 months because "people are too nice".

Women who control their boyfriends like that are not girlfriends. They are abusers.

[MementoMori777]

You buggin lowkey 😂

[Finchie40]

It needs to go both ways or it won’t work , if your girlfriend has male friends then she can’t complain about you having girl friends period , Having opposite sex friends in a relationship can cause a lot of conflict and trust issues , it’s usually best to distance yourself from opposite sex friends when getting into a relationship out of respect for your partner the same way she should do for you , Friends in general can cause a lot of conflict in most relationships , Your partner needs to be your top priority the same way you need to be there’s or it will not work , Your friends should never come before your partner period , when you start choosing your friends over your partner your relationship is doomed period

[MementoMori777]

Clearly it has to be both ways tho 😂

[Finchie40]

Exactly or double standards come into play and that’s when shit hits the fan

[MementoMori777]

Yea, there's no such thing as a one sided relationship, effort has to be equal

[Finchie40]

And trust me I had my fair share of one sided relationships with selfish Girls’s that only really cared about themselves , so my ass is staying single until I meet a non selfish girl period , that wears my shoes the same way she expects me to wear hers or her and I will only last a short period of time , i take commitment seriously , if a girl wants to be to be loyal to her she needs to prove she is loyal to me I no longer tolerate selfish girls’ when it comes to commitment, Most people want their cake and want to eat it to , it’s always Great in the beginning but once the infatuation period runs dry the relationship eventually turns to shit when she decides she all of a sudden wants to be selfish again , her way or no way , I just kick those girls back to the streets where they belongs , if my cock isn’t good enough for her then her vagina won’t be good enough for me , Most girls ‘ like to treat their man like he is a punching bag expecting him to always give while she doesn’t have to do shit , Girls like that will never experience true love , they will be used as whores period.

[humanearth]

No me and my wife both have separate male and female friends.

[Anonymous]

If he was friends with her prior to being with me then for the most part I’m ok with it. I think the nature of their friendship comes into as well though, because it’s so rare for men and women to be strictly platonic from start to finish. Seems like somebody always catches feelings or wants to reveal them when they see their friend is pursuing someone and don’t want to miss their own chance. Trust is a key element as well. I’m not one to be insecure or threatened by another woman, simply because I know my boyfriend would never put me in a position to question his loyalty. But for a woman who doesn’t get that reassurance I could see how an opposite sex friendship could rattle her.

[MementoMori777]

I'm glad yous see my point cause it's true people just dont have the respect for couples like they should, nor the pure intentions of friendship

[jennifer_bloom]

If I don't trust a guy not to cheat on me - I would not date him so yes he is allowed to have female friends. He is not allowed to have a female best friend that is more important than me that he talks to and sees more than me but I won't date a guy that doesn't agree to make me his most important female outside his family and his bosses at work. He's allowed to choose his mother or his sister over me but he is not allowed to choose his drinking buddy over me.

[MementoMori777]

That actually makes sense lol

[Anemone978]

I don't mind if he knows girls and hangs out in groups but he ain't allowed to have girl best friends or hang around girls I don't like. Because just like men know how men think I know how evil and two faced girls can be so the ones I don't trust it is because I know what they are.

[MementoMori777]

yea see, finally someone that gets exactly what i mean lol

[sage2021]

Because of history l wouldn't trust him to have a female friend. I am the only female he needs! There is no reason for another woman in my relationship with him. And I better not catch him lying about it either!

Ha! Me, Stud Muffin with the women 🧐

[MementoMori777]

This is a good mindset, it's how It should be in my opinion.

[EmmaMary]

Both my husband and I have many friends of the opposite gender... Within our marriage it's called mutual trust.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough

[midnightmoon05]

Friends/acquaintances okay…. beyond that…no.
I had lots of male friends when I was single…they are just a lot more fun to be with than girls.
Once I have my SO…. my male friends become my SO’s friend as well respectfully.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough

[Singing_Hollow]

I dont have a problem with it because I trust him but also he is at that age where all his friends are married and so most the girls he does see are married to his best friends and we all hang out together. Any of my guy friends I introduce him to.. he also trusts me and I wouldn't break that trust.

[LazerBean]

I trust my husband's judgment when it comes to friends, just like he trusts mine. We both have the same standards for the sort of people that we associate with, and we mostly share the same friends anyway.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enoigh

[MementoMori777]

Enough*

[Nikki1989]

I have male and female friends. My husband has male and female friends, and we have been socializing with each other for many years without any issues whatsoever.

Pretty sad when you can't be friends with people who ARE your friends.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend doesn't mind when I have guy friends. But I choose to not have guy friends (except for my middle school buddies) because some of them love to really flirt. As a result, I do get a little bit worried if my boyfriend ever has female friends. Not because I don't trust him but because I don't trust SOME of the females. But we wouldn't restrict each other because I trust him and he trusts me.

[Opinion Owner]

I also agree with you about the boundaries. Some people don't respect that.

[MementoMori777]

That's a good choice you made for him, it's highly respectable 🙂💯

[Sirenboobzilla]

He's a grown man. If I have trust issues or insecurities that's my problem. I'll trust him until I'm given a reason not to

[MementoMori777]

You didn't read what I said did you?

[Sirenboobzilla]

I did. What about it?

[MementoMori777]

You trusts other women around him? the trust issue is never really with the lover

[sunflower00]

My boyfriend and I both have friends of the opposite gender - not our absolute closest friends but very good friends. It is completely fine and I do not worry about it at all, I trust him and I’m sure he trusts me too

[Anonymous]

I'm fine with boyfriend being friends with girls because he's told me before that I'm the only girl that has his heart plus I'm not the jealous type

[MementoMori777]

That's cool I guess, nice lol

[Lauliss]

I don't care. If he's with me, it's because he loves me.

[MementoMori777]

thanks for answering the question 😂

[Spongebobssocks]

i don't care. i should be able to trust him so doesn't matter to me

[Anonymous]

Yessss tried that before and it went left! So hell no he can’t have any female friends

[MementoMori777]

I'm glad you see my point lol

[Oreodere]

The important thing is... Does HE believe that platonic friendships can happen between the opposite sex and whatnot? Because I do believe in it. It's best to be with someone who agrees with the same thing on this topic.

[gothbxtch]

with

[LavLavLuv]

No..