What's your opinion on a guy who's obssessd with a girl who rejected him?

[Anonymous]

Dumb?

[Anonymous]

It happens with both genders. I have a ladyfriend who was dumped by a guy. She's dating another guy now and whenever she runs into the other guy in public she still goes all to pieces over it. She can't let go. And it's really hard to tell in cases like this how much of it is "love" and how much of it is "love" vs. "Wounded pride"/ "obsession".

I'll advise any guy in this situation what they need to do is get the hell away from her disappear for 6 months have 0 interaction with her. Clear his head. If he thinks of her ONLY remember her bad points. Separation should straighten him out. After a while he'll come to realize there is nothing special about her. She's got a vagina. But so do 3.5 billion other women on this planet. Move on!😆😆😆

[Asker]

But if she rejected him to his face & then casually walked away

[Opinion Owner]

My personal opinion is it doesn't matter HOW she rejected him. Some guys will say she wants you to try harder. I say F*** that! S guy should have more respect for himself than that.
I don't think any gut should obsess over a woman. As I said there are 3.5 billion on the planet. There is no reason to.

[Asker]

What if that's the only woman who gave him any time of the day?

[Opinion Owner]

How did she give him any time of day? You just said she rejected him. Did you mean she's only woman who seemingly showed him any attention? Because that's easy. My answer is still the same. A man KNOWS his worth. No woman or amount of women determines that.

[Opinion Owner]

Some women are better at manipulating men than other women. That doesn't make them good women. A good woman will respect you. Never tolerate disrespect from ANY woman.

[Asker]

Forced interaction slowly turns into some sexual interest

[Opinion Owner]

What's your point? I mean if you KNOW a person is a con man do you start trusting him just because you're say, stuck on a subway or elevator with him and can't go anywhere. Ergo you forced to interact with him? No! Because you know he's a con man. You got to learn to play her game and throw it right back at her.

[Asker]

Guy was 19

Female was 31

[Opinion Owner]

Well the rejection is understandable then. Unless a woman is feeling OLD or unless the guy is exceptionally charming women do not typically digest younger men. Certainly not over 10 years. Younger.

[Asker]

Ah that's where things get tricky

If the older woman went behind his back to constantly talk about his looks/"size" to other woman? Signs of attraction? IYO

Constantly staring at him

Making "comments" about him in his presence

[Opinion Owner]

She sounds really pathetic.
It sounds to me like she found a guy she thinks she can control. Is she right? She also sounds incredibly immature for her age. If she rejected you it sounds like 1. You dodged a bullet. 2. She WILL be back. That I'm sure of.

[Opinion Owner]

Don't give this slag any serious consideration man. I promise you at best the only thing she has to offer you is and STD.

[Asker]

My father wasn't in my life then & by chance I met her & she complimented me & looked at me/said things that made me feel wanted

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. You're not going value in yourself in so eone else man. Or let me say it's rare. You need to be enough by yourself to be any good with someone else. Because you'll always need them to validate you. God created you. So you're perfect in his eyes regardless. You need to know and believe that.

[Asker]

You think she was slightly attracted to me? Or just grooming me?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think it's relevant. With women with f***ed up priorities like her how could you tell. People like that use people. So there's really no such thing as attraction to them. It's all about power. What you look like never came into play. You were tribute to her. She needs you, to give herself feeling of value. That's how I know she'll be back. Because at some point she'll want that lift again.

[Asker]

I was 19 then

I'm 26 now

I've gotten taller/broader/my voice has gotten deeper

[WanderingLoveWizard]

He's not dumb, he's just blind.
I'd tell him that even if she was to somehow convince herself to be with him, she wouldn't show him an ounce of respect and the relationship would leave him broken and confused.

[Thatpearl26]

It seems like I have found my 5th could be stalker on G@G! 👏

My opinion would be that he is desperate and shouldn’t focus on it to much. Especially if she doesn’t return his feelings. Move on. “Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.”

[KingslayerC]

What's with all the stalker type people that come to this site? I have two stalkers right now from this place. I swear the search algos must bring these types here.

[Anonymous]

Why would a guy be obsessed with a girl who rejected him?

[Asker]

Never heard of a case of this?

[KingslayerC]

Completely stupid. He's hurting himself and creeping out the girl. He should go to the gym, get some fresh air/sunlight and go to social events.

[Asker]

But she rejected him purposely & just casually left

[KingslayerC]

All the more reason to avoid her

[Jmmmfi4]

You literally just described me. I've been obsessed every single day for 6 years now.

[Asker]

Who was she?

[Jazzy54]

He probably thinks she’ll change her mind.

[Asker]

Is this common

[Jazzy54]

Is what common?

[Asker]

To be obssessd with a girl who rejected you hard

[slatyb]

Sad. He should move on.

[Agape93]

Dangerous and pathetic

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes. Waste of time.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Classic simp

[Asker]

Not even close

If he actively avoids every other female he encounters except for that one? Does that make him a simp?

[Fromdusktilldawn]

yea, if he is obsessed by one chick and doesn't accept being rejected, that is simping