Why guilty about getting plastic surgery done on my face?

[Anonymous]

I have an ugly face, I have very unattractive features. My nose is too big for my face, my lips are too small for my face, I have nasolabial folds, slanted forehead, recessed upper and lower jaw, etc. I want to get a nose job, lip flip, inject fat into my nasolabial area and forehead but I feel so guilty about this. I don't know why, I mean I am doing it for a good reason. (To feel good about myself and to find a husband)

OK a little backstory to why I want to get plastic surgery done:

I have 6 younger siblings and they are all good looking enough to be models except for me. I am treated as less than my siblings by other people because I'm not beautiful like them. My friends leave me to go hang out with them, guys I like like my sister instead because she's beautiful.

NO matter how good my personality is they will never consider a relationship with me because my face is ugly. Literally no guy has had a crush on me ever. EVery single guy I have known in real life has liked my sister, I know the name of every single one. (I am good at spotting when someones like my sister because it has happened so many times. Their eyes and body language says it all). Some guys have even told me they liked my sister and have pretended wanting to be my friend to get closer to my her, ditching me when it happens.

I mean the other day me and my sister was at the store and this guy came up to my sister, starting hitting on her and told her she was so beautiful while I was just standing there never been hit on by a guy. Literally being told I am ugly with other words.

Another time a guy hit on my sister as well and told me to go away.

Guys never pay attention to me, they will not even look at me. BUt my sister gets stares and double looks all the time.

I want to be pretty too, I want to have a boyfriend too, I want to be treated well too, so why do I feel so guilty about saving up for plastic surgery?

Updates

9 mo

Sorry I meant *Why am I feeling guilty about getting palstic surgery done on my face*

[BadApple69]

To change your looks because of others looks is the wrong reason. You are spending too much time comparing yourself to others. You are young and your face will continue to change. Plastic surgery isn’t without risks, and the few I know who have had it just keep going back for more. Which means to me that they are never happy with their looks.


Now… from a guys perspective. Sure your sisters might catch my eye, that doesn’t mean I want to date them. At that point it only means I want to bang them (sorry for the crudeness just being truthful). The reality is there are many concerns with good looking girls… first as a girlfriend a guy will always be fighting off other guys. Many guys won’t even approach good looking girls because they feel the girl is too good for them. I have heard stories of good looking girls not being able to get dates.
Enough about that….


My suggestion is don’t try to be someone else by changing your face… just be yourself. Be happy with who you are and when you do that… others will be happy with you too.

[Meropatrick]

Ok first people will treat even good looking people badly. My sister is good looking and she was treated bad by our mom for Some reasons that r not very clear. Women treated my sister badly, angry incels treated her badly. Do i want to just take your mind away from the victims mentality. Everyone gets treated badly if they dont have a clique is support and r too nice to put up with BS

Secondly so what if you did plastic surgery in life you must do whatever makes u feel better or become better. Its not bad. Poor people become rich, unhealthy people seek treatment to be Healthy so why not get a surgery to Look better and feel better

[Asker]

Thank you. WIll guys refuse to marry me if they know I have done plastic surgery?
Also good looking people still have it easier because they can actually find relationships and they have it easier to find jobs. My goal is to get married, but not one single man has ever liked me. I will soon be too old for men, I need to find someone now or else it's over for me.

[reds-noro]

Maybe because it makes you feel 'fake'. You will likely grow over that feeling, but I don't know that for certain. Just an assumption.

[Asker]

Is it wrong to get plastic surgery?

[reds-noro]

No, not really. If your beliefs say you should not enhance your body through unnatural means, then you shouldn't get plastic surgery. If your beliefs do not say that, there is absolutely nothing wrong or evil about plastic surgery at it's core.

[Anonymous]

Okay, so you didn’t get the plastic surgery yet, thankfully. Plastic surgery isn’t going to fix low self esteem, it just opens the can of worms to obsessively get plastic surgery to fix every perceived imperfection. That’s why people end up looking like science experiments. You don’t need plastic surgery. If you want to post a picture I could give you an honest assessment on if you’re a heinous beast or not, but I’m assuming you’re completely normal and just a bit insecure.

[Meropatrick]

Some people does it and they do feel better. The answer is moderation. Get 1 or 2 surgeries to fix Something. Sometimes just a bad nose can ruin your face.

[Opinion Owner]

@Meropatrick That’s tremendously bad advice.

[Meropatrick]

My father is a plastic surgeon. He had many patients who says he changed their lives. Many have better dating life and better jobs how can this be bad?

[Meropatrick]

If u beauty wasn't important u wouldn't see people paying millions to see a beautiful face in a movie. Explain why most - not all-actors and actresses r good looking

[Opinion Owner]

@Meropatrick Your father is a ghoul if he preys on the insecurities of lonely people.

[Meropatrick]

Well u better stfu u POS and not insult someone elses father. He is a man worth much better than u

[Opinion Owner]

@Meropatrick Yeah, convincing insecure people to permanently disfigure themselves to line your own pockets is a worthy man. Fuck off you little loser and fuck your creep mad scientist father. How dare you try to talk this poor woman into completely unnecessary surgery.

[Asker]

I've already been told by soo many people that I'm ugly online. I need to get plastic surgery in order to get married. Would it be wrong for me to get plastic surgery?

[AngryCarl2]

Well I can't advise you without knowing the extent of your facial deformity.

[Asker]

I described it to you.