My younger female coworker (who has a live-in boyfriend she may or may not feel financially dependent on) flirted with me (compliments my outfits, intelligence, offers to fix my collar 3x, touches my face, follows me in the parking lot.)
Therefore I got her 1 on 1 and told her how I might like to get to know her at some point if she was available but she hurried & left the conversation before I finished drawing the boundary lines i. e. not while she’s in her situation. Since I didn’t get that out before she rabbited out I messaged her a bit more; she was responsive but messaged first & never asked me about myself. I figured she wasn’t interested and quit messaging after hinting that I was gonna shut up.
Months later she starts hitting me up starting conversations only to immediately ignore the time boundaries I put in my messages (ex. I say I’m busy until Thursday but she can contact me about the jacket she offered after; she comes to me first thing on Wednesday and goes “sorry I didn’t bring it.”) Wut?
Finally I get tired of her bugging me at work for attention and we have heated words which ends with her interrupting me saying essentially “be quiet and go home.” Then she unfriends me and says “we’re not friends just coworkers I’ll only talk to you about work.” I say ok because I’d rather us not talk at all and figure she clearly has no interest.
Not even 3 weeks later she’s approaching me when no one’s around asking if I know her friend and when I answer that I play tabletop with him she goes “oh I play that too.” In my mind I’m like “lol not even 3 weeks and you broke your own rule” but I’m still going to respect what she said until I hear different.
Since then (4 months) she hasn’t bugged me like she used to or messaged but she seems to be looking at me when I’m not looking and is now acting kind of nervous & alternately sighing/gazing or looks away/head down & avoiding me. Why? What’s her deal? I won’t chase someone in her sitch but I would like to learn.
