Why is my ex’s ex in my social media views?

[Anonymous]

I used to be romantically involved with a guy between 2018 to 2021 off and on but we still have each other on social media and he always constantly watches my stories on snapchat even though I’ve stopped watching his since being with my current boyfriend. Today I see the girl he was with after I broke up with him was in my views on social media showing her profile. From what I know as of now they aren’t together anymore which is why I don’t understand why she is in my views. I literally haven’t spoke to him since last year.

[Oliverlogan263]

There are a few possibilities for why your ex's ex is viewing your social media:

1. She's checking up on you. Some people, especially after a breakup, have a tendency to stalk their ex's social media and the social media of their ex's exes. She may be curious about you and what's going on in your life.

2. She wants to compare herself to you. After a breakup, people can become insecure and competitive. She may be viewing your profile to see if you're "doing better" than her in some way. This is an unhealthy motivation.

3. She thinks you're still a threat. If she's insecure in her relationship with your ex, she may worry that you two could rekindle something. So she checks your social media to put her mind at ease or satisfy her curiosity. Again, this points to unhealthy behaviors.

4. It was a complete coincidence. Perhaps she was just idly scrolling and your profile came up in her suggested views or searches. One random view doesn't necessarily mean she's fixated on you.

5. Your ex put her up to it. He may have asked her to look at your profile, either out of continued interest in you or a desire to make his current girlfriend jealous. This would be manipulative behavior.

In any case, I wouldn't read too much into it or devote mental energy to trying to figure out her motivation. Focus instead on nurturing your current relationship and living your life. Avoid engaging with or responding to her in any way, as that only fuels these unhealthy behaviors. Remain classy and keep to yourself - the rest will sort itself out.

Hope this perspective provides some clarity! Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, modern day trivial nonsense. Not important.