This girl told me that i am her dream man, soulmate, the one that has shown her more love than anybody else including her family and she thinks i am the love of her life. She is currently in a relationship but said it was going bad. And a few months ago she was starting to feel guilty about it.
Started blocking and unblocking me countless times me whilst there was LITERALLY no valid reason for that. Never argued, never fought, was always lovey dovey. In the beginning she said she did it cause she couldn't handle it anymore. Said she was figuring out a way to end this so she could continue with me, one step at the time.
Mind you, i was never needy, never pushed. As a matter of fact always gave her her time, space and showed her compassion and understanding. She led me to believe and indicated that she wanted to be with me.
In March she called me (10 min convo) to tell me that she decided to work things out with her current boyfriend. I asked her if she told him everything and she responded with "that is not my problem". Ice cold convo whilst trying to avoid everything, leaving me hanging completely. Out of the blue!
Few weeks after she sends me an ultra long text, about 30 paragraphs longs and it said "she has been crying every day for 5 weeks straight and not only did she lose her best friend but" and after i read the word "but" she deleted everything. Leaving me hanging again.
Confronted her face to face a few weeks after about everything and she mentioned that she isn't even in love with the guy anymore and they don't have any sexual relationship she just has a strong emotional connection. But she is very confused.
5 days after she calls me while on vacation with her family for about 3 hours. First hour she was crying constantly. Telling me that she misses me, misses my voice, misses laying her head on my chest, that i am an unbelievably great man and after the way i treated her (which was super mature) when we spoke there is no way I would lose her.
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I’m going to be honest with you. If she is in a relationship while saying these things to you she is incredibly immature and undisciplined. You shouldn’t even worry about if she likes you or not. you should be focused on the fundamental aspects. While it is true that she could like you a lot it’s unimportant. She is leading you into a situation that someone who cares about another person would never put someone through. It shows that she is selfish and residing between two men to try and comfort from, instead of committing and putting in the work of either to get to where she wants to be. She is blocking you because she has no mature relationship with her emotions. It could be possible that in some moments she is enjoying her relationship with the other and block you to keep you from interrupting and then unblocking you when it goes bad in the other to find comfort with you. However she has established a relationship (albeit a toxic and unfaithful one) and that’s the one she will rely on more. You need to open your eyes and quit letting this woman lead you into this tragedy. How do you know if she leaves her current relationship to be with you that she won’t do the same to you later. Don’t be naive. Her actions are clearly immature and takes a lot more than tears and loving words with you to grow out of. Do the smart thing.
First and foremost thanks for the detailed input! Second, i think you hit the nail right on it's head. She is seemingly indeed incredibly immature and her way of communicating is avoiding at all costs hence the continuous blocking and unblocking. It completely caught me off guard the first time. Everything you said is totally right. I was totally blinded by being in love and already imagined a future in my mind. I had the cliche "The one" feeling with this one which i never had with any of the girls I've been with which made it so much more special in my eyes and blinded me even more. It's an extremely sour and bitter pill to swallow. She completely rocked me to my core because of the "what ifs" and the all the unanswered questions i still have. Even if this is by far the most hurtful experience i have ever experienced i thank you for your words and honesty, it helped me more than you think and i am sure i will come back a few times to read your post, especially when it hits me again.
I’m glad you are taking it all into consideration. Trust me i know what it’s like to be led into this feeling of being in love only for it to be unstable and ultimately fail. All the what ifs and future planning/daydreaming makes you feel like the relationship is set in stone. Losing it all invokes the same feelings of grief when a person experiences loss. Everyone heals differently I read your update that said it’s been months but don’t feel too bad. This is very normal. It’s definitely hard to swallow and your head and heart will look for other options maybe to salvage or bring things back to life, but it’s a good idea to understand that the future you had in your head was never guaranteed. Allow yourself to grieve over the loss of this potential future. Keep yourself busy and don’t let this change you as a person. You seem like an incredibly kind person and deserve way better. And it is definitely out there. If it’s any consolation i’m envious at how well you’ve opened your eyes to this because it took me a lot longer to get to the realization you have by now. You got this!
she is playing you to be her next meal ticket. snap out of it.
Don't think she necessarily did, she truly had feelings for me. Based on all the crying and time we spent together.
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