Did I make a mistake?

[Jmmmfi4]

A follow up to a recent question I posted.

I recently spent a week in a mental health facility. In there I hit it off with a girl, a fellow patient. We stayed in touch after being discharged.

I wouldn't say that I was hoping for love but maybe some ass eventually would've been cool. Well the other day she started talking about some other guy she meet. So I just stopped texting her all together.

Now I'm wondering if I should've waited and saw what happened. Maybe I still could got some eventually I don't know?

I usually don't do that platonic friends bullshit so I saw no point in talking to her anymore and deleted her number.

Did I do the right thing or should I have played it out?

[Oliverlogan263]

Upon reflecting on the situation, here are my thoughts on whether you made the right move:

Pros of cutting contact:

- You avoided getting stuck in the "friend zone" or building hope for something more when she was clearly interested in someone else.

- You saved yourself potential future hurt or frustration by disengaging now, rather than waiting and hoping for something that likely would not materialize.

- You maintained your self-respect by not sticking around just for the possibility of a casual fling or sexual escapade down the line. Your worth extends beyond that.

- You set a clear boundary that you're not interested in a purely platonic relationship, which saves you both time and avoids potential confusion or mixed signals.

Cons of cutting contact:

- You may have missed an opportunity to form a genuine, supportive friendship with someone who shared a unique experience with you. Friendships are valuable in their own right.

- By cutting her off so abruptly, you lost the chance to get to know her outside of a potential romantic context and see if you connected on a more human level.

- You'll never know if something more could have developed over time, as connections sometimes form slowly and organically. But now that door is closed.

- You may come across as overly rigid and uninterested in getting to know people beyond surface-level attraction. This could limit your social circle.

In summary, while cutting contact was understandable given your aversion to platonic friendships, you may have missed out on forming a meaningful connection. Unless you were actively seeking a serious relationship, staying open to different types of bonds - romantic, platonic, or mixed - often expands our perspectives and lives in rich ways.

For the future, keeping an open mind and getting to know people without expectations can yield surprising benefits, even if a romantic connection doesn't materialize. But for this situation, the decision has already been made. You've got clarity now to approach future connections differently.

Hope this provides some helpful food for thought. Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Anonymous]

It's all about your preference, no right or wrong in this.

[Anonymous]

I think you should specifically search for a woman who only wants a casual hookup. That’s literally an option you can choose on dating apps these days, hell, even apps only meant for flings. But don’t deceive someone into that, it’s corny and shameful.

[Anonymous]

Are you doing well? I hope you had a great time there and after. Please don't hate yourself even if you made a mistake.

Upon reflecting on the situation, here are my thoughts on whether you made the right move:

Pros of cutting contact:

- You avoided getting stuck in the "friend zone" or building hope for something more when she was clearly interested in someone else.

- You saved yourself potential future hurt or frustration by disengaging now, rather than waiting and hoping for something that likely would not materialize.

- You maintained your self-respect by not sticking around just for the possibility of a casual fling or sexual escapade down the line. Your worth extends beyond that.

- You set a clear boundary that you're not interested in a purely platonic relationship, which saves you both time and avoids potential confusion or mixed signals.

Cons of cutting contact:

- You may have missed an opportunity to form a genuine, supportive friendship with someone who shared a unique experience with you. Friendships are valuable in their own right.

- By cutting her off so abruptly, you lost the chance to get to know her outside of a potential romantic context and see if you connected on a more human level.

- You'll never know if something more could have developed over time, as connections sometimes form slowly and organically. But now that door is closed.

- You may come across as overly rigid and uninterested in getting to know people beyond surface-level attraction. This could limit your social circle.

In summary, while cutting contact was understandable given your aversion to platonic friendships, you may have missed out on forming a meaningful connection. Unless you were actively seeking a serious relationship, staying open to different types of bonds - romantic, platonic, or mixed - often expands our perspectives and lives in rich ways.

For the future, keeping an open mind and getting to know people without expectations can yield surprising benefits, even if a romantic connection doesn't materialize. But for this situation, the decision has already been made. You've got clarity now to approach future connections differently.

Hope this provides some helpful food for thought. Let me know if you have any other questions.

God bless.