Does mansplaining help women?

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DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Last time I was accused of mansplaining I was on a week trip with a woman.

It was our first weekend trip together. So, I was telling her how I like to make coffee. What type of coffee to buy, how much water to coffee ratio I use. Basically, two scoops to ever cup of water.

She says to me, "do you really thing I do not know how to make coffee, you're literally mansplaining me."

Of course, this did not offend me in away, because she was 100% correct with her explanation... NOT!!!

I was like of course you know how to make coffee, but I was just explaining to you how I like to do it, because for me it yields the best cup of coffee, the way I like it. So, I just assumed you did not know how to make coffee the way I like it, since I never expressed to you how I do it.

Now mind you, I had made coffee for her before and she commented on how good it was. So, I was telling her the type of coffee I buy and how I use it to make a good cup of coffee.

She still acted all insulted as if I had just verbally dressed her down. So, yeah, I told her straight accusing a man of mansplaining is 100% sexist honestly. Do you honestly believe men are never womansplained? Because women do it all the time, but we do not get all defensive about it. I mean how else are supposed to know what woman like or want if they do not tell us?

I asked her let's say if I was woman, and I said the same exact things, would that be mansplaining? She said if I was woman, I would not of approach the subject like that at all. I said if i was woman you would not be a ski in Tahoe right now. So how else am I do explain how I like my coffee other than just telling you? I mean if you want me to act like woman, then what date a man?

So basically, her accusing me of mansplaining, feels like her gaslighting me into an argument, when honestly, I was trying to be thoughtful and nice. Oh, boy when I said gaslighting she triggered.

I was like see, gaslighting, you do not like me saying that, and i can understand how that feels... especially when you do not think you are gaslighting. So that's how I feel about being accused of mansplaining. mansplaining is triggering word for men, just like gas lightening apparently is a trigger for her.

Yeah, we just agreed to disagree... it didn't work out in the end. And she never made me a cup of coffee ever for the 6 months we were dating. But she always loved drinking my coffee every time I made it.

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Effably · Answer

If done to be condescending? No.

Very often I find that mansplaining is just genuine care and wanting to be helpful. Men often default to a military style manner of explaining things, that is: Explain it in such basic terms that even a child would understand without needing to have anything clarified.

That of course, will easily be seen as condescending and patronizing. Albeit when a friend of mine does that I know they generally just really want to be helpful.

But mansplaining in itself is not useful. Easy to call something useful that though.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

I guess if l were to mansplain to her why l am taking the time to mansplain, it is ok.

Look, not all of us that mansplain do it to be a dick. Hell, l find myself mansplaining to men that would have no clue on about certain things I do in life. Like my job for instance. Someone that doesn’t do what I do for a living can’t appreciate what it is l do.

Sometimes l mansplain something as opposed to giving just a rude yes or no answer.

Mansplaining is just a common courtesy.

I am mindful when talking to women and do my best to gauge if she would even know more about the subject than me.

I caught myself trying to explain to my date once about GPS mapping. Totally forgetting she spent time in the US Navy. I quickly shut my mouth and apologized. I also pointed out that she most likely knew waaaay more about GPS mapping than me.

genericname85 · Answer

well since women constantly make the argument that only a woman can understand women, mansplaining should be the mandatory mechanism that women have to use in order to ever understand men. and that is according to their own completely idiotic logic, not mine.

236color · Answer

No it's not helpful. The definition of "Mansplaining" is the unnecessary or sometimes just plain wrong explanation of something by a man, to a woman, that she didn't ask for.

Anonymous · Answer

Mansplaining is just another word for "condesending" only this made up word is sexist toward men.  But no, being condescending isn't helpful.

Anonymous · Answer

Some. Some women you just will never reach. And some guys wouldn't be qualified to even explain to preschoolers how to finger paint. 🤣

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. Not helpful.

Wonderingguyy · Answer

I’m a man and even I hate mansplaining 😆

MaxUsefull · Answer

Mainsplaining made this world 😂😂😂

Miah05 · Answer

Not really

BumbleStix · Answer

Is that a thing

Riverdog · Answer

No just no

Anonymous · Answer

lol no

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