What does it mean when a girl blames you for her mental health issues?

[Anonymous]

I decided to date a girl and I ended up being the scapegoat for her mental health issues prior to the relationship she was exposed to child hood trauma where her parents would argue and best on each other. In one of her previous relationships she was sexually manipulated into performing certain actions which is rape but she wouldn’t acknowledge that for what it was she was still friends with the guy on social media. So fast forward to our relationship she’s abusive towards me in our relationship from the beginning I’m playing nba 2K22 with her and she’s losing and she hauls off and slaps me in the head I pause the game and say do I need to leave what the fuck was that. She immediately burst into tears saying she doesn’t know what came over her. Well this continued on in the relationship where she hit me again. I was bending over to pet my dog and she thought it would be funny to knee me from behind. She has bullied me for my ocd, any issues I have from my autism and when it comes to the physical abuse she says I bring it out of her and I have caused it

[Finchie40]

Well the fact that she is hitting you is your answer to kick this bitch to the curb where she belongs and move on from her , she can make every excuse in the book for her actions , but the truth is you don’t need to tolerate it what so ever. Next time she lays a finger on you slam her ass to the ground and look her straight in the eyes and tell her if you ever lay a finger on me again you better hope you wake up in the hospital. There is no excuse for abuse period and you do not need to tolerate it what so ever , whether she has mental illness or trauma from her past it’s not your problem period , tell her to go get help or this relationship is not going to last

[Anonymous]

Because she's damaged and you should dump her. She needs to work her own shit out before being in a relationship.

[Asker]

But everyone is siding with her and I’m the real victim

[Opinion Owner]

Another reason you should dump her

[Asker]

She ultimately dumped me

[Opinion Owner]

Then she isn't your problem anymore. Just move on

[haana]

you need to remind yourself, it’s not your responsibility to heal her childhood trauma. She should deal or her own, work things out with her therapist. I’d say walk away, two damage person won’t heal one another. You can’t fix someone else if they want to stay broken.

[Asker]

The relationship is over but I’m scarred cause she was physically abusive towards me and people see her as the victim

[haana]

i bet your and her have same circle of friends?

[Asker]

Yes and she has also poisoned their brains

[haana]

hey don’t be afraid, if you been long enough with your friends, they’ll know whom they should trust. You just carry on do your own things. You do you ! And please cut her off ! Don’t see her again, and take care of your mental health !

[jeffend888]

It means move on faster than you have ever moved on before.

[Anonymous]

It means she is an abusive manipulator. She won't change because she is broken. It's sad, but you should get out.

[Anonymous]

She's showing g signs that she does NOT take responsibility that's a definite red flag.