Is it normal that I'm not attracted anymore to my crush?

[Anonymous]

Today in my crush sports class he taught me some moves in wrestling and locks and escapes, Then he taught me this classic pin where you lock your opponent arms under your legs and sit on the his neck, and I managed to escape within a minute, but when we changed roles, he couldn't escape at all. He tried really hard and struggled but couldn't push me at all, it went on for like five minutes until he gave up and told me to get up and I saw that his neck was really red and he was embarrassed, we haven't spoken since. Does that make sense that It made me much less attracted to him?

[_Maya_]

Well he isn't your crush anymore if you aren't attracted to him. What does it matter if what I think about it. You are less attracted to him and that's your business. Doesn't have to make sense to me because this is about your feelings about him and not about mine or anyone else's view of the situation. If I said that doesn't make sense it changes nothing of your feelings towards him. You can feel how you want. That is only for you to decide and you alone.

[Asker]

He also said he felt that it was disrespectful that I watched TikTok while he tried to get free instead of motivating him and telling him he can do it

[_Maya_]

Alrighty...

[ShadowYamihiro]

Crush is just a crush, Taste changes and so do we. There is a difference between having a crush, liking someone, loving someone and being in love with someone. You can like and love people in many different ways but you can only be in love in 1 way. He was simply a crush and now he isn't. There isn't much else to say about it. We all had crushes and now we matured, our tastes has probably changed and we accepted it and moved on. Its not like we were in love with someone and we got heart broken or anything. Simple crush is temporary until you find what you are subconsciously looking for in life

[BarryLiverstone]

Makes sense to me. Seems like you feel like he isn’t as capable of protecting you now, and that could be why you lost some attraction as you pinned him and he couldn’t escape. Is that right?

[Asker]

I guess yeah

[BarryLiverstone]

Then ya I can see why you are less into him. You must have thought he was stronger or more able to defend you against someone bad. But if he can’t escape from you.. it’s like you would have to defend him. Is that true?

[Asker]

Yeah pretty much it was just sad to be honest he wasn't even close to escaping if I'm being honest

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh he wasn’t even close? But then how did you feel, like did he struggle and did you feel pity for him

[Asker]

Yeah just waited for him to give up

[BarryLiverstone]

So that’s not attractive. You felt sorry for him and saw him stop fighting. When you start to pity someone that’s not a good vibe

[BarryLiverstone]

Think he’s not speaking to you for a particular reason?

[Asker]

Maybe he is waiting? I guess he is still embarrassed because when I got bored and waited for him to give up I opened TikTok and he heard it and was really embarrassed so he started trying to get free like crazy but it didn't really help him I stayed on his neck lol

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ya I c

[provokeesmokee]

Makes sense, yeah. Sounds like he waited too long to try getting out, lol, but he taught you well!

But it's also kinda unfair. Holds and locks are difficult to set up in a proper fight, so him not being able to break out of a set one isn't really the biggest deal.

What's more telling about him is how he avoids you, now. If he weren't embarassed, that'd be better.

When I teach a student something in martial arts and they execute it well on me, then they did well. As the teacher, my pride means nothing without the success of my student.

[boggboss]

Sure

[In_Trance]

Yeah