Girl seems interested but I’m 90% sure she’s talking to another guy?

[Anonymous]

So this is a girl that I have work with who seems very interested in me when we’re together (thinks everything I say is funny, teases me constantly, playfully hits me, all kinds of shit, she’s even drunk texted numerous times) however the whole time I’ve known her I’ve noticed that at least twice now she’s spent the night at a frat house (yikes) and the other day she posted some peach colored flowers on her story.

she's never talked about another guy or posted one or anything but I’m 90% sure she’s talking to someone else as well while acting extremely flirty with me. Now to be fair I’ve played it fairly cool and she’s probably not sure I even like her (don’t wanna come on too strongly seeing as we work together) and I have no doubt I’m better than whomever it could be but I’m not sure what to do.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude that's a tricky situation. On one hand she's obviously into you based on how she acts around you... but all those other signs do make it seem like there's probably another guy in the picture too. Girls can be messy like that sometimes, ya know?

My advice would be just stay playing it cool for now. Don't make any moves yet or confess feelings until you know for sure what's up. Keep the flirty banter going at work so she's still interested, but on the side maybe casually try find out more info from mutual friends or see if you run into her out somewhere alone.

Girls love when guys are a bit of a mystery too - if she thinks you're not 100% sure about HER it might drive her even more wild, haha. But then you could get some clarity on if she's actually single or not without putting yourself out there too far.

Worst case, you've got a fun flirty thing going at work anyway. Best case, maybe she likes you more than this other dude. Play it smooth and you could have yourself a little situationship my friend. Just stay savvy on the low for now! You got this bro.

[VictorMachiavelli]

Another guy? Don’t be so naive. A single woman will always be talking to multiple guys. They always have a bunch of options. If they’re attractive they’ve got guys trying to chat them up all the time.

The only time that stops, or hopefully stops at least, is once she’s having sex with a guy she wants to keep around. The guy she’s having sex with already will come before the others.

In the modern dating world you basically have to beat the other guys to it to get her. You can’t do that by pissing around, being too cautious, trying to guess whether she’s into you or wondering whether she’s talking to another guy, you do it by going after her.

[kylee2437]

She’s single lol she’s allowed to talk to whomever she wants. Have you proved to her that she should be talking to you and only you? If the answer is no, then you definitely should start making moves

[EllieFayre]

But do you even like her personally? That's the first question you must answer to know what you will do next.

[Asker]

I mean yeah

[EllieFayre]

Then you can honestly ask her if she has any current relationship like if she ever has a boyfriend that kind of stuff.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Of course she's talking to someone else. You're not dating her, why wouldn't she? She's not just going to sit around on the off chance you do something. She could be seeing ten other guys... if it's been one date with each of them and nothing turned into anything what's it matter to you if she's talking to someone else or not? You're both single, so presumably you are talking to other people as well. I don't follow what the issue is.

I also don't know why you brought up the thing about the flowers. What's the subtext there?