You go to your girls place and the toilet seat is up, red flag or not?

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Assume no male roommates, kids, etc

ArrowheadSW · Accepted Answer

LOL Worse yet... I sent my girlfriend at the time, a bouquet of flowers on her birthday. When I went to her place that evening to pick her up for dinner, on her coffee table was the bouquet that I sent her, plus a much larger bouquet of flowers. I didn't ask her about it because I didn't want to spoil the evening, but she broke up with me a few days later.

So I guess the guy who sends the larger bouquet of flowers, wins? LOL

I found out later that she had reconciled with her ex. This was over ten years ago and she has been married and divorced twice since then. Go figure.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Red flag! If she's too lazy to put it down, she's not worth the effort.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

You must be Delusional my man, please for the god's sake Cut these craps... sounds like conspiracy theories to be fair... every little thing is out to be AGAINST YOU/GET YOU/CHEATHING/KILLING/STALKING/FUCKING WITH SOMEONE ELSE, etc, etc... i don't even understand how many of you even survived up to this age? 🤦‍♂️

RavenQuill · Answer

When you clean a toilet, you need to leave the seat up for a while so underneath the seat will dry. Otherwise, bacteria have a perfect place to grow (cold, dark, and wet), and cleaning the toilet will have been pointless. If she had thrown up, she likely would have cleaned up after so the cleaning thing still applies. Sometimes period blood gets on the toilet, so again with the cleaning thing. And there's also the fact that someone (not a lover) visited. A coworker, family member, friend, literally anyone.

magiusX26 · Answer

yeesh! are you trying to be sherlock holmes and investigate every miniscule detail of everyone's lives here?

the toilet seat could be a huge list of things/people. a male family member visited, a neighbor, landlord, friend or friend's friend, maintenance worker (cablen electrician, roofer, plumber, etc) . yes it could also be a miniscule hint at cheating. either way, this level of insecurity and lack of trust will doom any hope of a meaningful relationship. seek proffesional help and/or just stay single. this also reflects poorly on your choices as to whom to date.

Sodomite · Answer

So listen, you walk into your girl's pad and see that goddamn toilet seat up? Well, don't get your panties in a twist cause it ain't necessarily a red flag. Maybe she was scrubbing the bowl with bleach and forgot to put the seat down, or maybe her mom came over to take a dump. But hey, if she's living alone and got herself a wild streak, she might have had some company earlier and didn't bother to clean up after her man left. Just remember, the next time you use her toothbrush, you might be tasting more than just minty freshness... you dig? Now if you'll excuse me, I gotta finish this game of chess with Adolf Hitler before we start our nightly gangbang. Toodles!

nonyabeez-wax · Answer

Does she have a dad, brother, nephew, uncle, or grandpa?

You are aware that they can all visit her and forget to out the seat down...

If you already suspect something, and this happens EVERY TIME, or she's an orphan, and not a transvestite, then you might be on to something.

But otherwise, chill.

libsaretards · Answer

Not a red flag by itself, but it would make me alert to notice other clues, if any, that another man is in her life. I would not make a fuss or even mention it, but I would keep an open mind. Besides, maybe her father/brother recently visited and forgot to put the seat down. I would need more to go on.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Damn, this is a whole new level of insecurity right here.

Nirmroth · Answer

I would accuse her of cheating, while screaming and weaving my arms around. Bonus points if you curl down to a ball and cry in some corner. If that didn't brought the point across to her how insecure you are, I don't know what will honestly.

DARKCLOUD1945X · Answer

Lol I live with 4 women. in the household and was always told to put the seat down. So not only do I put the seat down I put the cover down too, so they have to lift the cover to pee as I have to lift the seat to pee. They bitch that they have to lift the cover.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes, because that means she likely flushed and aerosolized the stuff that was in it when she flushed it. If it was after cleaning, probably not terrible. If not, there might be little fecal matter contaminated droplets that dried.

Sorry, my inner clean freak took over.

smne35 · Answer

You got to be really insecure if you are requesting a raised toilet seat with your girl cheating on you that's time to seek help red flags earning, now if you find condom wrapper or the used condom itself that's different

Red_Arrow · Answer

Oh good grief!! It is obvious she enjoys peeing standing up. If it was down that would be a red flag because it would mean she is hiding that from you!

Robocod · Answer

Maybe she likes to pee standing up like a man, lol. Looking for red flags is a reasonable thing to do, but search for the realistic ones

EmmaMary · Answer

Fucking Hell... Is there really nothing more important in one's life than this load of Bollox! smh

Sasha0426 · Answer

I feel like people are purposely trying to find ways to accuse their partner of cheating. Like…. I need someone to explain why that is. Is it to cause problems or something?

JacobJordan · Answer

if the bathroom is freshly cleaned the seat should be up. if the bathroom is not freshly cleaned I'd ask

Singing_Hollow · Answer

LMAO if you jump to 'cheating' then you insecure AF and need to get a grip.

dynamicyandere · Answer

What if she lifted up the seat for you because she knew you were coming over? 🙂

integrale77 · Answer

Could be any number of reasons unrelated to cheating. I'd disregard it

TomMarks · Answer

She may have put it up knowing you would most likely be the next one to use the bathroom and probably be too lazy to.

tfan1 · Answer

Do you smell cleaning solutions or notice the toilet is Very clean - no hairs, urine splatters etc?

exitseven · Answer

I would not even think of that but now that you mention it, she is cheating.

RingOfFire · Answer

She's a whore. Dump her and don't look back.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

She's allowed to have guy friends, so what if they came over and left the seat up.

robocop666 · Answer

When you leave the seat up it ventilates throughout the room. This is unhealthy.

Anonymous · Answer

Not 100% she could’ve had a male utility worker come over to do something

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Probably had the seat up to clean it.

Siri137 · Answer

I'd say so, yes.

lightbulb27 · Answer

But are you sure she’s really a girl?

JesseJayNeak · Answer

I'd put it back down. It's not really a big deal

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Hilarious but I don’t think so

Mansearching · Answer

Could be she just cleaned it.

clubboss · Answer

She is a whore, no more discussion.

AviatorTom · Answer

Did you meet her brother who just left?

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

U need to hire a detective

Sparkie460 · Answer

Some people leave the seat up. It's not a red flag

legalboxers · Answer

insecure much annon

Unit1 · Answer

Really?

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Not a red flag

You go to your girls place and the toilet seat is up, red flag or not?

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