This woman claims to be a victim of narcissistic abuse. Real victim or actual narcissist?

[Anonymous]

Victim

Narcissist

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I experienced physical and psychological abuse all my life before I left home at 20.

I don’t say I was a victim, I don’t like to refer myself as one.

I grew up with a depressed sadistic narcissistic person who had 3 modes, neglect, abuse, love. Everyday was a new day and everyday I was scared to wake up and find out which version of her woke up that day.

When she was loving, she was very much loving, she sacrificed herself for our happiness. She never got herself anything, so we would have food and decent education. She sacrificed her whole life for us. But she was unhappy and she had dark inclinations, which only displayed itself in the worst ways. She was supportive and accepted me, always supported me through it all. I could always be very honest with her.

When she was neglectful, she was very much so, sometimes she’d sleep a whole day, so she wouldn’t see us, she’d only wake up at night when we had been go e to bed already.

When she was abusive, she was very much so, she hit us chairs, the more you cried, the harder she hit, she spit in my face for not wearing the dress she chose for me, she called me a whore, when I had not even kissed a boy. She hit me as hard as she could and then asked me “Why I was crying”, If I couldn’t answer, she hit me more. She was controlling, I had to even tell her when I was going to the bathroom. If I got any Bs she threatened to kick me out, she even did once, she kicked me out at 10, because I got B, I was hiding next to the door of the apartment, because I didn’t know where to go at night. After 15-20 minutes she decided it was enough of punishment and she pet me in.

I crawled to the sofa and was hiding behind it.

More importantly I was hurt, how could she love me so much one day and hurt me so much another day.

I grew up and grew up with lots of hatred and aggression, I figured out, I either had to let it all go and forgive her or I’d turn out a horrible person who hurts others.

I didn’t want to hurt anyone, so I forgave her.

Telling my story, doesn’t even make me cry anymore.

She made me a strong person, I am who I am and my story is what created me.

One day, when we had a fight at home, I was arguing with my dad and my mom step between us

“Leave her alone, that’s the monster we created. She’s our monster.”

Am I a monster?

I don’t think so.

I think I am a hurt person, whose trust was betrayed daily by the people who were supposed to love her.

Yes, maybe I didn’t grow up to be a perfect human being, but I chose to be good, I chose to be kind and I chose to answer my abuse with forgiveness and kindness, to protect the weak, instead of abusing them.

That doesn’t mean the monster doesn’t live inside me, there is, which is chained and caged by my better side.

I try to be good,

I don’t victimize myself, I decide who I am, not my past, not my childhood. I have a choice and I choose to be a good person or die trying.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She might be both… But it’s important you are not hurt with her communication. Protect yourself.

[Srose66]

When people are hurt they want to be heard. Seems she's been hurt and that's what narcissists do. Awareness is coming to light. Narcissist seems to be the 13th Zodiac. I believe I'm with one now. Had to put distance between us. He hates reciprocation. Hates he has a hard time manipulating me. I'm Aquarius and survived a narcissistic mother. I didn't realize it til 6 years ago age 51 she pulled last gaslight. I googles why. Narcissistic mother abuse came up. Saw my entire life flash. Explained all the beatings, name calling, demeaning and so on. Now I knew. Now I could accept what I could not change now I can change me and what I allow or don't. Victims need to be heard and believed. These narcissists are so evil it's disgusting they exist.

[boggboss]

Impossible to say from this 1 text blog with no context

[Lady_Heart]

Check mate. Favorite word for my narcissistic ex. Its always about winning than understanding.

Anyways you can't diagnose someone being narcissistic based on that. Its a very big accusation so better to check throughly

[perpetial]

Entirely possible that she was abused and is acting out. Narcissism abuse makes you go crazy. But she said there are witnesses to him being abusive so ask for the proof since she says it exists.

[leahzrc]

I dont know the full context but she was probably a victim

[Anonymous]

No way of knowing anything from reading that.