What should I do next cos I do not know really?

[Gluggerz]

I was talking to this girl before and it seemed like she liked me but in the end she changed her mind and just wanted to be friends so I moved on with her and unadded her on everything.

A day ago she added me on Snapchat again and we talk and she seems happy and stuff, she adds extra letters to her texts and stuff. I ask if she wants to meet at college Monday and she says sure, she then asks ‘wyll’ and I say you’ll have to wait till Monday and I have to be mysterious and she does the same when u ask and we joke around, but later on she sends me photos of her so I can lookout for her. A day after at like 5pm I message her and we catch up and chat and then at like 8pm she leaves me on opened and she hasn’t reached out or anything and I don't know what to do next so I could use some advice 👏. I was really looking forward to meeting her irl on Monday cos we’ve never met irl before and I don’t wanna not be able to meet her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude this is kinda confusing for real. On one hand she seems into chatting and catching up, sending pics and saying she wants to meet. But then leaving you on read and not replying more is a weird move. A few things you could try:

- Don't double text her or reach out again yet. Give her some space and see if she gets back to you in the next day or so.

- If she doesn't reply by Monday, I'd just say something casual like "aight well lmk if you still wanna meet up later" - puts the ball in her court without coming on strong

- If she does meet you, don't act too excited or expect anything yet. She could still be on the fence so play it cool

- You gotta be prepared she might flake even after all that. Some girls just like the attention but don't actually wanna commit to plans

- Try not to overthink it too much - these games girls play will just stress you out. Try to keep your cool

- If nothing pans out, just move on and start chatting other girls. Don't waste your time if she's gonna be wishy washy

Hope it works out man but cover your bases just in case! The more cool and confident you seem the better chance you got I reckon.

[Gluggerz]

We didn’t end up meeting up cos she wanted to hang out with her friends but we snapped each other and talked and stuff. Icl i’m confused on how she feels cos sometimes as I said she’s into chatting and stuff but sometimes she leaves me on delivered for a while and doesn’t even open it, she doesn’t text me first anymore either. What do u think I should do now cos it’s getting annoying for me and I don’t wanna be seen annoying in a way if that makes sense, but thanks for the advice :)

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo man I feel you, that is annoying when a girl is hot and cold like that. Sounds like she might still be on the fence about whether she really sees you as more than a friend. My advice would be to back off a bit for now so she doesn't think you're too desperate.

I'd say snap/text her a bit less frequently yourself, and don't always be the one double texting if she leaves you on read. Let her wonder what you're up to for a change, you know? Meanwhile focus on your own thing - hit the gym, hang with your boys, play some ball.

Keep it light when you do talk, don't bring up feeling confused. Let her come to you and ask why you're not around as much. And when she does, make plans to chill 1 on 1 again, but don't trip if she flakes or tries to make it a group thing.

The less available you seem, the more she may realize what she's missing out on. Give it some time and space and see if her energy changes. If not, then you saved yourself wasting time on a maybr. You feel me?

[Gluggerz]

Yeah thanks man, I was wondering tho how often should I text and snap her. The only chance we rlly have to meet college wise is on Mondays. Do u think that she’ll start wanting to message me more and stuff by being more distant in a way.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo bro, when it comes to texting and snapping a girl that's kinda playing games like this, I'd say don't overdo it but don't completely disappear either. A few times a week is probably good - maybe send her a quick snap on your story she can view, or toss her a casual text every couple days. But you don't wanna be double or triple texting her if she doesn't reply right away.

As for seeing her at college, I'd say focus on your own thing when you're there and don't go chasing after her. If you happen to run into her, chat for a bit but then let her come to you after that. Playing a bit distant and making her wonder what you're up to might just pique her interest again.

Girls can be fickle, so don't make her the center of your world. Keep doing your own shit and she might start to realize she misses talking to you more. Just don't come across needy or desperate - act like you've got plenty of other options even if you don't, lol. Play it cool, be a bit hard to get sometimes. Hope this helps man, lemme know what happens!

[Gluggerz]

What game do u think she’s playing anyway. Also so don’t offer to meet up with her or anything like that and don’t message her a lot. Would messaging her like 2 times a week or something be alr. Also I’m worried about becoming a bit distant and how distant should I become cos like what if she doesn’t bother to reach out or anything

[Gluggerz]

Also I got left on delivered yesterday where we talked before normally but after I said good night she didn’t open it or reply so that’s kinda annoying. Plus today we talked a bit and then she suddenly stopped replying and hasn’t even opened my message that I sent her like 3 hrs ago so not too good

[Oliverlogan263]

From how she's acting, it kinda seems like she's playing games and maybe likes the attention but isn't fully committed to anything more. Leaving you on delivered and not always replying shows a lack of real interest in my opinion.

I wouldn't message her more than once every 3-4 days. And keep it casual, don't be like "we should hang!" Just chat briefly.

As for being distant, don't blow her off if you run into her but stay busy with your other friends too. Don't hover around her.

It's risky to get too distant in case she loses interest totally. But you also don't wanna be at her beck and call if she's not consistent.

Maybe see how it plays out over the next week or so of messaging less. If she still leaves you on read, I'd take the hint that she's just not that into it man. Not worth chasing someone who's not reciprocating ya know?

Tough call, just do your thing for now and see what happens. But don't stress over it or change your plans for her if she's flaky.

[Gluggerz]

Okay thanks, I get it and thanks for the advice. I’ll message u if that’s cool if anything happens :)

[Gluggerz]

Nvm bro turns out she has a boyfriend and only wants to be friends. Do u think I should block her ir remove her or what do u think I should do

[Oliverlogan263]

Sure definitely man anytime you can hit me

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn bro, that sucks to find out she's got a boyfriend! No wonder she was being so flakey. I'd definitely just remove/unfollow her on everything if I were you. No point wasting your time on a girl who's already taken, ya feel me? Don't need that drama. And I wouldn't completely block her since you still see her at school, but just detach yourself online. Now you know where you stand, so move on and don't message her first or anything. If she reaches out just keep it polite but short, don't get sucked back into whatever game she was playing. Her loss - you'll find a girl who's actually single and into you for real bro. Stay up!

[strateguy632]

on Sunday try phoning to confirm the date Monday.

[Gluggerz]

So just call her without asking, I was gonna text her today to ask if she’s alright but yeah I might try that

[Gluggerz]

And I don't know really if it’s a date 😂