Is he pissed that I fell asleep while texting?

[Anonymous]

I was texting back and forth with this guy on Wednesday evening. It was our first time chatting. Then I fell asleep during texting. Now he left me on delivered for 4 days. Is he mad at me?

I dm a guy him first because I found him interesting. He was asking questions about me like where I live and what I do.
then I fell asleep and his last he sent me 23:40

I then replied to him the next day 2pm. My reply wasn’t a question more like remark about what he said.

almost 4 days later I’m still on delivered. Did he get mad at me?

Updates

5 mo

Bumpp

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I wouldn't stress about it too much if I were you. Guys can be weird sometimes.

It's possible he's a little annoyed that you fell asleep on him since it was your first time talking. But falling asleep during a text convo isn't that big of a deal, we've all done it before.

A few things could be going on - he might be busy with work/school and not had a chance to respond yet. Or maybe he got weirded out that you fell asleep so fast, some people can take that personally.

I wouldn't assume he's straight up mad, but he may have lost a little interest if the convo got cut off awkwardly. My advice would be to leave it for now - don't double text him. If he's interested, he'll get back to you in a few days.

And if not, then who cares? On to the next one! Don't overthink some dude you just started chatting with. Play it cool for now and try not to stress, I'm sure it's no big deal. Let me know what happens!

[Asker]

He’s actually med student. But it’s almost 4 days and I’m still on delivered lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah damn, a med student? That's even more likely why he hasn't gotten back then. Those guys are always so busy studying and shit, probably barely has time to sleep let alone text.

I'd give him a break on the no response since he's got way more important stuff going on than chatting with you, no offense. But yeah 4 days of leaving you on delivered still ain't cool.

I'd say either shoot him one last casual text being like "hey future doc, still alive under there?" and if he doesn't reply within a day or two then fuhgeddaboutit. You don't wanna be bugging some stressed out student, feel me?

Plenty more fish and all that too. I know it's whack to be left hanging, but you did your part reaching out. Keep it pushin and hit up some other guys, I'm sure one will hit you back quicker than grandpa Med Student over here. His loss!

[Asker]

But he has time to view all of my stories?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, seeing that he's viewing your stories even though he hasn't replied in days... that would be annoying for sure. A couple thoughts:

- Med students do sometimes take breaks to scroll social media, so he may genuinely just be casually checking stuff when he has a minute.

- But it is a bit rude/disrespectful if he's actively watching your stories and then not taking 2 minutes to reply to your message.

- Honestly he might just be one of those flakey guys who likes the attention of social media interacting but doesn't actually want to put in effort for a conversation.

- If it was me, I'd probably leave him on read after sending that follow up message. Let him chase you for a change if he's actually interested.

- Don't stress about one dude! Plenty more fish. Might be time to move on to guys who will reciprocate your effort and interest.

Try not to let it bother you too much. You did your part by following up - now leave the ball in his court. If he steps up, great. If not, then you've lost nothing in the long run. Keep your head up!

[Asker]

Yesterday I sent him a link. He opened my message in 10 minutes and liked the message

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh wow really? Dude that's even weirder then. So he's clearly seeing your messages right away if he opened it in 10 minutes. But still can't take 2 seconds to reply?

I don't know man, seems like he's playing games or messing with you a bit. Like why bother liking the message if you're not actually gonna respond to it? Seems kinda rude if you ask me.

I'd say don't double text him, but you could call him out on it if you want. Like "hey I noticed you open my messages right away but never reply, what's up with that?" And see what he says. Maybe he'll have a good reason.

But if I were betting, I'd say he's just not that serious about talking. Some people just suck at communicating properly. Up to you if you wanna keep chatting with someone who seems like they're playing games already, or move on to someone who actually wants to talk. Don't let him waste your time!

[Asker]

It was just a link to a petition

[Asker]

by the way he’s studying abroad and he’s coming soon to our country. Soon afyer couple of months he’s going to move fully here to work

[Asker]

He’s coming today here to visit his family. We’ll see if he’s going to contact me..

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah gotcha, so not even like a fun link or anything. Just totally out of nowhere. What a weirdo. Why even bother liking the message then if he's not gonna reply?

I'll tell ya, there's some freaky dudes out there who get a kick out of keeping chicks waiting or leaving them hanging, like it makes them feel powerful or something dumb. Not saying that's definitely what's up with this guy, but his behavior is certifiably bizarre no matter what his excuse is.

I'd say don't even give him the satisfaction of a big "goodbye" message. Just unfollow and block him on everything so you never have to waste another second thinking about his nonsense games. You already know he's not gonna change - few weeks from now you'll see him liking some other girl's stuff while leaving her on read too, I guarantee it.

Consider it a learning experience - now you'll know what kind of red flags to watch out for with guys in the future. You can do so much better than this clown, trust! Now go live your best life without him bringing you down. You got this!

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm this changes things a bit. Even though he's been acting super flaky so far, the fact that he's moving to your country soon opens up some potential I guess.

If I were you, I'd probably give it one last shot to see if he actually contacts you while he's in town visiting family. Like maybe post an Instagram story about something fun happening in your city tonight, and see if he reaches out to come join.

That gives him a low-pressure excuse to tap back in without a big "WE NEED TO TALK" kinda message. And it spares you having to reach out first again after all his BS.

If he passes on that opportunity though, I'd say he's for sure not worth your time regardless of moving soon. You don't need the stress of waiting around to see if he's actually gonna make an effort once he's here full time.

But who knows, maybe homeboy just gets nervous chatting with you from far away and will step his game up now that he's in the same place. I wouldn't count on it, but it's worth one last subtle shot before you write him off for good in my opinion. Just go in with low expectations!

[Asker]

I definitely won’t reach out to him. So you think my link was weird? It was about petition to sign for a cause relating our field wherr we both work..

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah, your link wasn't weird at all. Sending someone a petition related to your shared field just seems like casual friendly conversation.

This guy is the weird one for how hot and cold he's being. Acting all intrigued then taking forever to respond. Checking out your stuff but not actually interacting. Like make up your mind, dude! Either you're into chatting or you're not.

I wouldn't read too much into your link choice. His behavior has been off from the jump, before you even sent that. You did nothing wrong, he's just playing games for some dumb reason.

I say don't reach out again, like you said. If he happens to hit you up while he's visiting family, cool. But don't hold your breath. And DEFINITELY do not go out of your way or lower your standards to try getting his attention. You seem chill, you'll find someone better who won't keep you guessing, I'm sure of it!

[Asker]

So he probably just isn’t interested?

[Oliverlogan263]

Based on his actions so far, yeah it really seems like this dude just isn't that interested. I know it's always hard to tell for sure over texts, but come on now - leaving you on delivered for days while still checking your stuff? That's BS game playing.

If he was actually feeling you, he'd make the effort to chat back and forth. Might be a little slower since he's abroad, but he wouldn't just straight up ignore your messages for so long. That's not how you treat someone you wanna get to know.

I'd say don't waste any more mental energy trying to decode his moves. He's shown you loud and clear he's not reliable with the communication. And why would you wanna deal with that stress anyway if things were to go further, you know?

Like I said before, if by some miracle he hits you up during his visit, I guess feel it out. But I wouldn't count on it or stress about it. Keep your chin up, focus on people who aren't wishy-washy. You seem cool - you'll meet someone way better who gives you their undivided attention, easy. This clown ain't worth the mind games.

[Asker]

Should I just remove him from my instagram?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, I'd say just unfollow and remove him from Instagram. No point keeping some flake who isn't interested in following you anymore.

It'll save you from accidentally seeing his stuff pop up on your feed and wondering what he's up to. Or if some other girl ends up on his page and you gotta see that. Spare yourself the mind movies, you know?

Plus removing him is lowkey sending a message that you're not sitting around waiting for him to finally hit you up. Shows you're unbothered and moving on to people who actually want your attention.

Don't trip about being "rude" or whatever. He lost the right to be in your life when he started playing games instead of talking to you straight. One click is all it takes, instant stress relief!

Go enjoy your summer without wondering "what if" about this clown. I'm telling you, so many other people out there who won't leave you questioning like that. On to bigger and better.

You got this, just hit that unfollow button and boom, he's outta sight outta mind. Proud of you for not putting up with his nonsense!

[glennos89]

Ask him... He might think you were intentionally not texting him back anymore because you weren't that interested in him. Just tell him you fell asleep accidentally and that you didn't want that to happen.
If he is really interested in you he will understand

[Asker]

But I already dm’d him first that night

[glennos89]

I don't like to say it but there is always a possibility he isn't really that interested in you as you like him to be. Attraction to other people finds its own way we have little to no control on who we are attracted to and who not.
Honestly... If he really really liked you he wouldn't let you wait that long

[Asker]

Yeah it could be that he isn’t interested. He was viewing my stories on Friday and Saturday but on the other hand he’d med student…

[glennos89]

You deserve someone who does care a lot about you! I would advice you to move on

[Asker]

It was out first chat ever lol it’s not like we know each other

[glennos89]

Why are you bothered by it then? You must have liked him enough to invest the energy into it trying to find out right? 😂😋

[Asker]

I did think he’s interesting and our onvo on Wednesday was nice. He was replying to right away etc. Also he’s been viewing all of my stories and often very quickly

[glennos89]

Love is in the air I can feel it ❤️😇

[Asker]

How lol?

[glennos89]

Just say something like

... Hey dude, srry that I didn't respond anymore all of a sudden. I fell asleep accidentally so forgive me for that. I enjoyed our conversation and I would like to continue where we left off because I wanne get to know you better...

[Asker]

I actually sent him today a link. He opened my message almost right away and liked my message.

[glennos89]

What kind of link?

[Asker]

It was link about a to sign a petition for a humanitarian cause

[Archferret]

Move on and forget him you have other things to do too

[Asker]

Yeah but do you think he’s pissed at me?

[Archferret]

does he matters?

[Asker]

No but I just wanyt to know?

[Archferret]

then Give him some space

[spartan55]

Yet another texting fail... what a surprise