How do I find out more about her tattoo?

[Anonymous]

one of my female friends got a tattoo earlier this year or at least that was the first time i actually saw it , never did figure out exactly when or the story behind it. its on her ankle so i saw it during the summer when she was wearing shorts , but she's never really mentioned anything about it , it just sort of appeared , there was also nothing on her social media about it either and she wasn't following any tattoo pages on her insta. but she does for sure have a tattoo i saw it with my own eyes

i always wanted to ask about it but never have the nerve and wonder if maybe its not her only tattoo as often girls like to get them in places which are harder to see , so maybe she another one somewhere else if she is now into tattoo's

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey man, I feel you on being curious about her tattoo. A few low-key ways you could try finding out more:

- Compliment the ink next time you see it exposed and casually ask when/where she got it done. Gauge her reaction.

- Bring up tattoos in general one day and ask if she's thinking of getting more work done. She might offer up deets.

- Could say you were thinking of getting your first tat and ask what her experience was like getting pierced/inked. May share the story.

- Look through old photos if you're friends on social - any posts around the time it could've been done?

- Last resort, ask mutual friends if they know the deal, but be cool about it so it's not weird.

Play it smooth though dude - don't come off as interrogating her about it. She'll clam up. But casually engaging could learn you more over time. Their meanings are often personal too, so feel it out! Good luck bro.

[Asker]

i haven't seen her for a bit , it was during summer when it was visible as she had shorts on , you wouldn't see it now even if i do see her somewhere. last winter i did see her at the gym once during holiday break but she isn't even a member there , some of her friends are though.

know i should of said something at the time as that have been the easiest way to get her talking about it.

no is no posts on her social media about it , i looked all through , she also doesn't follow any tattoo places and no tagged photo's of it , isn't even any photo's that show her with the tattoo yet although will have to be some eventually as its for sure real

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah I gotcha, seems weird she didn't post about or show it more if she was proud of it you know? Maybe she just doesn't like sharing personal stuff online. Def don't be weird creeping her socials too much dude, that's kinda stalkerish.

If you see her at the gym again or hanging with mutual friends you could just mention "Hey I noticed your tattoo before, it's cool. Where'd you get it done?" And see if she opens up. But don't push it if she doesn't wanna talk about it. Could be a personal thing.

Just play it casual, don't make a big deal out of it. Girls probably get weirded out if a guy seems too interested in their body. Let her bring up details on her own terms. Focus on other normal stuff if you hang out again so she knows you're just being friendly, not some creeper obsessed with her ink, you feel me?

[Asker]

just did a quick scan through her instagram at the time as though it might be best way to find an answer but was zero about the tattoo.

i've checked her out before so i mean she already knows i've noticed her body by now

just find it odd she's never talked about it even to other people when i was around as she seems to talk a lot

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, like I said before, don't overthink it and definitely don't be creeping on her social media trying to find the tattoo. That's weird behavior and will damage your friendship. Some people are more private about things like that. Maybe she just got it for herself and doesn't feel the need to publicly announce it.

The best thing is to casually bring it up next time you see her in person, when it's visible. Just say something chill like "Hey I noticed your new tattoo last time, it looks cool." Give her a sincere compliment. Then leave it at that - don't grill her for details or ask why she didn't post about it. Let her decide if she wants to share more.

If she seems uncomfortable talking about it, respect that and drop the subject. Don't make her feel interrogated. She'll open up when she's ready. Most important thing is to stay cool, act like a good friend, and don't make it weird. Respect her privacy and she'll appreciate that.

[NathanDavis]

are you sure she is your friend?

[Asker]

yes i've talked to her many times before at the place where she works , i've talked to her about many different things before and we always seemed to get along

[NathanDavis]

then, if she is your friend... just ask her about the tattoo

friends do talk to each other about these things... there's no problem whatsoever about this, lol

don't overthink

[Asker]

it just seems odd that she's never mentioned anything about it , especially earlier this year when i first noticed it , you think she would of said something at the time , but some of the girls she's friends with have even more tattoo's so her having 1 on her ankle isn't really a big deal , this one girl she's friends with has one on her side ribs , arms , leg , back , a lot of them are small so its hard to recall but she has more than a couple

[NathanDavis]

you're still overthinking this way too much...

[Asker]

true its just she noticed that i saw it and never said anything ever about it , i just wanted to know the story or reasons she did this after never ever having one

[NathanDavis]

if you want to know, ask her...

very simple, that is what friends actually do

[Asker]

feel like its my bad as i should of said something at the time , would of been impossible for her not to admit she had one if i had just seen it , now its just sort of semi weird that i know she''s into tattoo's and has one but don't really know the whole story

[NathanDavis]

I'll ask her myself... then I'll let you know

[In_Trance]

Ask her