They say there's never a reason to hit a woman. Is this true?

[chris_987]

[IslaTheWitch]

It's a poorly phrased question :D

Imagine your beloved wife is cheating on you. You could find plenty of reasons to hit her. And even more to hit her lover :D

When I learned some details of the last few years of my marriage, I had a huge urge to hit my soon-to-be-ex-husband. And I could find a myriad of reasons to do it.

But would it solve anything? No. It will let us vent our frustration, pain, and other negative emotions, but hitting anyone is not a solution.

So, even if we have reasons (even if they are valid only for us), we shouldn't hit anyone (man, woman, nonbinary, kid, etc.) because it's violence that will be followed by only more violence. And no problem will be solved.

So we have to find other creative ways to vent and accept new reality (or whatever made us want to hit someone)

[chris_987]

Well, at the end of the day you don't hit a woman because as a man you could actually hurt her and you have a sense of honor when it comes to those that are weaker than you. I mean, some men hit women as a form of discipline and it's hard to argue against a well-behaved woman. But at the end of the day the most a guy can do to give a woman consequences is just walk away.

[chris_987]

Oh, and men know that they're not supposed to hit women, but women hit men regardless. So the question is phrase from a standpoint that women are okay being disrespectful towards men. And you have to ask if women hit men because they know they won't do anything is the answer to hit them back so they realize they're not supposed to hit men?

[IslaTheWitch]

Well, at the end of the day, hitting was invented to cause harm. I believe most men refrain from hitting women because it's not an effective way to communicate. Violence offers no path to finding common ground and reaching a compromise. It's a method to coerce someone into complying with your wishes. Most people prefer a peaceful and respectful approach to building relationships.

[chris_987]

Well, it seems that you're always going to have one culture that thinks it's okay to hit men or another culture that thinks it's okay to hit women. And I have experienced both. In the culture where it's okay to shame and discipline women. Girls are very respectful towards men. But in western culture where it's okay to shame and hit men. Women think very highly of themselves and are spoiled.

So obviously as a woman if You had to choose you'd live in the culture where it's okay to be disrespectful towards men because you would protect yourself. But if you're associated with men, whether you have a husband or a son. They're going to have a tough time because society sees them as the enemy.

So it is an interesting question at the end of the day.

[IslaTheWitch]

You asked the question about men hitting women. If you want answers to another question - ask it. People here can't read minds.

[chris_987]

I don't see why you can't have a conversation about the topic and explore the nuance of the question

[IslaTheWitch]

If you want to explore the nuance of the question, please formulate it clearly.

In my first post here, I wrote, "So, even if we have reasons (even if they are valid only for us), we shouldn't hit anyone (man, woman, nonbinary, kid, etc.) because it's violence that will be followed by only more violence. And no problem will be solved." Does it answer your question?

I find violence against any living being disgusting. We are intelligent beings who can use verbal communication to solve our problems.

[chris_987]

But violence isn't followed by more violence. Usually when you try to fight somebody that's stronger than you and they decide to retaliate you learn your lesson pretty quick that you shouldn't attack people that are stronger than you. And that's literally my point, when a woman hits a man she is not even aware of the damage he could do if he decided to hit her back. And the question becomes what do you think a Women will do if they're aware of what a man can do if he actually hit her back?

[IslaTheWitch]

LoL...

If a person is hit, they will hit back (violence), hit someone weaker, like a kid (violence) or will harm themselves out of mental damage (violence). There are plenty of other scenarios.

It doesn't have to be returning the hit. But violence always follows, and the range of harmed people is only growing with time.

And I think when a woman hits a man, she is fully aware he can hit back and hurt her. It is the same way as if a man hits another man and must be prepared for being hit back.

What such women aim for... is a mystery to me. So, I can't share my thoughts about it.

[chris_987]

Lol now I know you haven't seen women hit men or videos of women hitting men. Because women are always shocked and surprised when a man hits them back, they are not aware. That's even a possibility that a man would hit her back. I was literally just watching a video of a grown woman hitting a guy she was dating while he was driving on the highway and when he said that he was going to pull her over and drop her off so she could take a Uber back home. She was shocked that there would be consequences for her actions. So as a woman, you're just not aware of how certain women treat men and That's okay cause How would you even discover that information?

[IslaTheWitch]

Why should I be interested in such videos? There are a lot of different pathologies. I had my share of watching them in my studies. Enough for a lifetime :D

But in general, not many people are aware of the consequences of their actions. So, I'm not surprised.

[chris_987]

No people are aware of the consequences if you don't lie to them. The same woman that thinks it's okay to hit a man is very aware that it is not okay to hit a lion. Because she knows that the lion is stronger than her and is a wild animal. But if you spend your life time watching movies where 100 lb woman easily beats up a 300 lb man, you might be diluted enough to think that's how life works. Thus, you go around believing that you too can live out a movie where you beat men up and they can't do anything.

But if we depicted real life in movies and in books and show the actual strength difference between men and women. Would women think differently? Probably

[IslaTheWitch]

It means I live in a totally different reality :D I didn't see movies where "100 lb woman easily beats up a 300 lb man", also, no one in my reality believes in what they see in movies.

So I have a feeling we miss a common denominator here.

[chris_987]

But that boils down to your inability to relate to other people. So if you see a woman who hits a man, you can't even fathom why she would do it. But I, on the other hand can tell you from A to z what led her to believe that.

So when it comes to critical thinking skills and your inability to relate to other people, you have to admit because you only can see the world From your point of view, you're going to have a hard time trying to understand nuance in different situations.

And I feel bad cuz I run into this a lot. I will present an argument to a girl and she'll say something like " I've never experienced that so therefore it mustn't be true". And then girls go on about their day thinking they're wiser than men even though they can only relate to other people that are similar to themselves.

Very interesting.

[IslaTheWitch]

I don't feel compelled to know and understand everything, especially after studying psychology. I have a healthy dose of respect for all human behaviors, even the inadequate ones, recognizing the myriad of reasons behind them.

I prefer not to judge; being an observer suits me better. Yes, I can analyze from my perspective or the various viewpoints I acquired during my years at university. However, it still doesn't mean I know better than those people which actions are valid and which aren't, as each action is rooted in the lifetime experiences of that individual.

[chris_987]

So hold on you don't feel compelled to know and understand everything. But you're on a website where people ask questions about their situation and some of these are people that you can't relate to. So why even be on this website if you're not prepared to look at things from a different perspective.

And I wouldn't tote university as being the bee all and end all of knowledge. University is more of an indoctrination camp in a free thinking place of academia. Especially if we're seeing now that people who attend universities all think the same thing like Trump is evil and Hamas are freedom fighters. It's literally the place where individual thought goes to die and cult like behavior takes over.

And as a fully grown adult, it is almost impossible not to judge somebody. If you are a baby who was learning about the world then I can say you're capable of no judgment. But you're freaking sleep notions. Take over all the time and you have to make a judgment in order for you to survive. So when people say they don't judge, I know that they don't understand the full meaning of that word.

[IslaTheWitch]

I think we are done here.

[chris_987]

Lol we were done when you admitted You can't relate to other people

[Katie1964]

Well let's just say she is going to shoot you with a gun, Yeah you probably should at least hit her to make your escape.

[chris_987]

Lol someone who is actually thinking about the question. That's truth. Be told there are plenty of reasons to hit somebody but you better be ready to face those consequences