When do you talk about money to a girl?

Question

I make about 200k+ a year and was considering that if I down play the money topic that it would not seem that big of a deal and that I would be more appealing

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

Yeah, you don’t want to lead with saying you make 200k.

The most appropriate time to do a reveal would be perhaps when you’re talking about marriage or planning a wedding and you have a legitimate reason to discuss financial logistics.

If you lead with money, you could come off as insecure to some (it can look like you tie too much or your self-worth to the income you make) or, as others have mentioned, you could attract gold diggers.

Even if I was in the top 1% of wealth, I’d purposely try to come off as middle-class, in terms of wealth, in order to keep gold diggers away.

After you’ve found a keeper and are married, then you can roll up in a Lambo without worries. 😎

That’s how I’d go about it at least.

VictorMachiavelli · Accepted Answer

Don’t mention it. Any time you mention something like that it comes off as bragging, which always looks bad in general, but especially when you’re with a girl because then it looks like you’re trying too hard to impress her.

Even if what you have is worth bragging about, whether it’s money or something else, always better to act like it’s no big deal. At some point she’ll either notice by herself or someone else will brag about you for you. If you’ve played it cool the whole time, then it looks even better.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Back when I was dating, I felt very uncomfortable around rich people. I felt like whatever I did, he was judging me. Ot like he expected things that a guy with a medium income would not expect from me, and I don't mean sex wise.
Anyway, yeah, keep it to yourself until you are ready - then have a reveal party 🎉.
This could turn out in a couple of different ways. Someone like me would love you if you weren't rich. Other women want to know because they need to know when to start the gold digging. But what if you wait to tell her, and when you do let her know, how do you know that would be a turn off to her and she breaks it off with you?

OldBlue · Accepted Answer

There's a really funny scene from the movie "Arthur." Arthur fell in love with a poor girl, and he tried to make it work. In one scene, Arthur asked his poor girlfriend: "What do 'poors' eat? Tuna?"

So one day Arthur was out looking for a hooker. (he wasn't attached at that point)

Hooker: "So, how much money DO you have?"

Arthur: " Well, let's just say I wish I had a dime for every dime I have."

Don't tell her you make 200K. Just be playful like Arthur! lol

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Z-vMsjd0ccM

Anonymous · Answer

"When do you talk about money to a girl?" The short answer is NEVER! Especially if you're not married, even if you are married it is not a given, as you should NOT have a joint account for all monies, but have one for household expenses that you both contribute too if you live together, but nothing else as you can guarantee in this age of 'equality' she will not tell you what she makes, and it is not unknown for a household with two pay-checks coming in for the woman to contribute NOTHING to the household budget in a display of the old Communist tenet "What's yours is mine - What's mine is my own".

Anonymous · Answer

This is a tough one. I am wealthy and when I date I don't want her to know because then I can never tell if it is me she is after or my money. In general I don't want her to know until it is serious enough that it might end up as a life partnership. But it's tricky because at some point you have to make the decision whether or not to insist on a prenup and that conversation never goes well. Also, I can't invite her to my house because if she sees it it will be obvious. So its not an easy question, not easy to hide and a real impediment to getting close to someone. On the one hand you want to be open about everything but on the other you need to really really trust her and that's always been hard for me. I will warn you that there are a lot of gold diggers out there. So be careful.

wolfcat87 · Answer

Avoid mentioning exactly how much it is until you're sure you love her and want to spend your life with her and she feels the same about you. Otherwise you may attract gold diggers. Downplay it like it's a regular middle class income.

petitedollbabee · Answer

You don’t, until you’ve developed a proper relationship and are confident that she likes you for you, rather than what’s in your wallet. It’s definitely not something to mention to someone while still getting to know them. Last thing you need is a gold digger.

patrick994 · Answer

I had already answered a similar question asked by a girl from a rich family, the answer I give you is the same as the one I gave her:

When dating a person, it is much better not to talk about money, income, always better not to show off in a flashy way, no expensive cars, no designer clothes, no jewellery.

in this way you can understand whether she is really interested in you.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I have been part of the 200 Club too, I would not reveal that until you are married, just say shit like I do well... or you don't have to pay don't worry about it... don't let them know how much you make! And congrats on getting to the 200 Club at age 20 Jesus H I didn't make it till later!

Likes2drive · Answer

At your age they won’t believe it anyway and think you’re either lying or you’re a trust fund kid. Unless you want a gold digger you should probably just talk about other things. I’m not sure I believe it either since I work hard and only get half that

Raaj4you · Answer

Biggest problem about dating is, if you don't tell about your financial status, they don't date you or run away. If you tell about your financial status, then all gold diggers start showing interest in you.

Date without talking about feminism, men vs women, patriarchy, money, etc. Talk about love, compatibility, sex, hobbies, likes, dislikes, career goals, characters, morals, ethics, family values, financial planning, family planning, etc.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I don't. I make enough. She doesn't need to know the specifics. I'm obviously not broke. I don't comingle assets. My last two relationships didn't know precisely how much I make. It isn't relevant past a certain point.

Fuentes · Answer

Why tell a women u got Hella money she gonna marry u and divorce u and take half of what u built up,

But if u wanna loyal chick keep money off the table. If u looking for a chick that's gonna let u hit with the idea her P is good enough to make u wanna marry her, then smash her and dump her and by all means brag about money.

katiesmuff · Answer

Not until things would become very serious between the couple heading towards wedding.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Definitely downplay that until you know her really well

Lisia · Answer

If I were you, I'd make sure they really like me for me and then tell 'em..

IslaTheWitch · Answer

As long as there is no plan for a relationship, such talks are unnecessary. It's better to know that the girl is into you, not your income.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Don't until you're actually together already and the love is actually, you know, There.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Obviously you don't make 200k at 20 years old stop it. A man with money doesn't have to tell you he has money its seen through his class and assets. Nice try kid

4ngelic · Answer

you probably should. so you avoid gold diggers and get girls who like you for you

Paris13 · Answer

Do Not Say Much. You Do Not Want to Seem like He Could Turn to You for Help or the Reason for Dating you. xxoo

Wallythewalrus2 · Answer

Either the minute she asks to borrow money or when she says you owe her 50 plus an extra twenty because she let you cum in her mouth,

Billlewis · Answer

When do I discuss money with a woman? Immediately, within the first five minutes of our initial chat;)

Staximus · Answer

Don't tell a woman how much money you make unless you already live with her and share expenses. Otherwise it's none of her business unless you are trying to attract gold diggers who you just want to fuck and duck

slatyb · Answer

When we're talking about combining households, or I'm offering to pay for something and she says "it's too much"

Anonymous · Answer

would love to know how a 20 year old is making 200k+ annually. that's not sustainable. you will be cut soon from whatever job you have also.

Sonorous · Answer

I believe this is highly dependent on the individual situation.

Sasha0426 · Answer

I think at this point men rather keep their jobs a secret. Even if they’re married, they don’t want their partners to know where they work.

kkdkdkkdks · Answer

How do you earn so much? What is your occupation? I think if you tell him what he does for a living, he knows his average income or it can be understood from the things you own etc.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't tell a girl how much I make personally. I can't trust girls anymore, they broke my trust so there's no need to be honest, communicate or talk about my life.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don't talk about money with a girl it's none of their business.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Um, yeah. I don’t. Actually, no one’s ever asked. It’s obvious pretty quick I do alright.

Yannae · Answer

I just answer "Enough to keep me afloat"

Anonymous · Answer

I think the right time to talk about it is as late in the game as humanly possible. Especially if you're making 200k+ a year at 20. (You're making 200k+ a year at TWENTY? WTF are you doing?).

Blueeyes81 · Answer

When you role down the window at the corner. 🤣

NathanDavis · Answer

no need to... I have a personality

Tsrdr · Answer

At 20 years old haha good one bro. Keep dreaming

Tapeworm · Answer

After smacking her face with ma cock!

AviatorTom · Answer

Before you move in together

andreasderjuengere · Answer

You did right now. Shit happens.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You don't until she already loves you.

jamesgoldman · Answer

When I get their gold on my scales

Aphrodite801 · Answer

How about don’t talk about it at all? Super cringe

LiamJHayden · Answer

I generally don't.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

As her rates beforehand

Anonymous · Answer

That's what most girls asked at first

Anonymous · Answer

When we start spending it

Anonymous · Answer

After you know her more

Anonymous · Answer

When you buy the engagement ring.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

when it comes up

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