Have today's women lost sight of how to get a good man and keep him happy?

[Anonymous]

I have notice many women measure their value as a woman based on the same factors on which they measure a man's. But men and women are different. They have different priorities and needs, and the things women value in men are not the things men value in women. I think a lot of women shoot themselves in the foot because they don't focus on the things that are actually important to men, and then they wonder why they can't get (and keep) a good mate. Have today's women lost sight of what value they actually bring to a man in a relationship?

This video does a great job of explaining the issue. Many women will scoff at it, but I was pleasantly surprised to see there are some responses from female users confirming the validity of what the physcologist says in the video. So yeah, definitely not all women. But far too many.

[RavVid]

I like Pyschacks also and have shared a few of his videos. here.

It is a persistent theme that women think they are a catch because they meet selection criteria they would like in a man but which men don't value. For example I would put a lot of weight on a generally happy disposition. I would be happy with a happy broke waitress.

I can understand a women who has developed a good income stream in some career not being enthusiastic on cooking and cleaning and being primary child carer. If I am hiring a cleaner/cook I can do that without her. I am not overly enthusiastic on children so I don't mind missing out there. My career development is of primary importance to me so any impediment on that I won't appreciate.

I don't mind women not wanting to cook and clean or a whole lot of stuff I might like because they won't like me (other than for what i earn perhaps) and I won't like them. It is a don't care from me.

Quite frankly i think it is unbecoming for either you or I to bemoan women not being what we would find tempting wife material. The non-wifeys can just buggar off in my view and I'd strongly advocate you take the same view. You can't make silk purse out of a sows ear so just stick to your standards and not worry about their's.

[ComteDeSaintGermain]

No, but there is a lot of propaganda online that is meant to cause a divide between the genders and people in general. You're dating women; you're dating a woman who is going to different or has traits that might seem universal amongst most women, but they express it differently.

The propaganda likes to take one character trait that women have universally and exaggerate it to make it seem like all women are picky and choosy. But when you talk to them, you'll notice that many want you to court them, but some to a lesser extent than others. Sometimes, it feels sluggish, like you're getting nowhere with them, and others, it feels like you barely had to do anything to get them to like you.

The propaganda talks about universal traits, but you're dating women again. You're dating a woman. When it comes to people, you can look at things like they are black and white. It's a very grey area. You can't just jump to conclusions because you don't necessarily click with the woman you are talking to immediately. You have to trust the process and have an open mind about it. You can't expect her to know what you like right away. It's not a black-and-white area; it's a grey area.

[jennifer_bloom]

Less than 5% of the married women I know are house wives, even if they married rich men because a working woman has a different personality from a house wife and men that want more than just beauty care about personality. I never believed that getting a degree would boost my income, I got a degree because it upgrades your social status, just like I know rich guys that did not need university and went to university to meet girls to marry. I’m not saying money grows on trees but I thought I could get rich without any academic education at all. But my degree helped like crazy, it totally changed my personality and helped me more than a thousand hours in a temple praying to God ever would have been able to. I did not get a financial make over but I got a personality and moral make over by being focused on my career.

[Asker]

That's all great, but what does it have to do with the question?

[jennifer_bloom]

It has a lot to do with the question, you implied high value men prefer house wives to working women because they do not need more money and I said a working woman had a personality advantage and not just a financial advantage.

[Asker]

Where did I imply a houswife? Please be specific.

[jennifer_bloom]

The YouTube video you mentioned talks about how high value men want house wives and not woman who are equally high value at their jobs.

[Asker]

He never mentioned being a houswife. He said women judge their own value based on the wrong factors, and he's right. A woman doesn't have to be a housewife to actually be high value, but she does need to bring things to a relationship that a good man doesn't already have easy access to. That means putting her family and marriage ahead of her career. She can do that while still working. But hiring out the jobs of raising her children and making her house a home is not high value. Watch the video again, and this time pay better attention.

[IslaTheWitch]

I somehow don't see myself as an addition to a man :D

I also wouldn't call myself "high value woman". I'm simply myself.

My work is my passion, and I earn more than enough. I'm independent and have dreams and hobbies. I don't need a provider but a friend, a partner in crime, someone who would share at least some of my passions but also has his own.

And he must be at least as smart as I am :D and witty AF

[Asker]

That's all fine, but you are a good example of the type of women discussed in the video. Not what most high value men want.

[Nikki1989]

@islathewitch Exactly. This man just doesn't understand the obvious.

[IslaTheWitch]

@Asker, my life doesn't revolve around any man. As I wrote. I don't need an asshole who can prove his "power", just a partner.

[IslaTheWitch]

@Nikki1989 fortunately, there are not so many men with so limited horizons as he :D they will extinct soon.

[Asker]

I'm not talking about power hungry assholes, just good men who want a good woman. You're not that, but that's ok.

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm definitely a good woman :D but I'm not a slave

[DextroShade]

Modern women are flooded with offers for dick when they are in their prime and they usually end up making to fatal mistakes:

1. They assume that an offer of dick equals an offer of commitment.

2. They assume that these offers will never expire or that there will always be new offers.

As a result many of them rack up a body count with desirable men while utterly failing to understand how to keep them around for longer than it takes to fuck because they figure they can focus on their careers and can just lock down a desirable man whenever they please. A decade and many dicks later they decide they want something serious and find out that offer for dick isn't the same as an offer of commitment by that point they are too damaged for pair-bonding and too independent and set in their ways to submit. The men they desire no longer want them, and because they focused on their careers they limited their dating pool because any man who makes less than them is automatically a loser in their eyes and undateable. This results in cats, boxed wine, psychiatric medications, crying herself to sleep at night, and eventually a lonely death.

[Anonymous]

Well, it's certainly the case that most women would VASTLY improve their dating situation if they'd take that dudes advice. I have a few thoughts on that last point about cooking and cleaning though. I honestly don't care if she cooks or cleans, so long as it gets done. And I'm happy to pay for it as the guy being role played in that video is. But I'd at LEAST like her to organize it--particularly if she's got a specific way she'd like things done. I currently get push back even asking for her to do THAT! lol!

[KrakenAttackin]

Modern women not only don't know, they don't care to learn.

[Asker]

That is definitely the case with a lot of them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I value sexual attractiveness, skill/talent, intelliigence, silliness, and mental, habitual, hobby, and interest similarity.

So aside from looks and voice, she should be just like me. So her valueing the same things in herself as her partner, for the most part, is actually helpful.

[RedInnocent68]

There is something to this in terms of understanding male psychology, but to be honest, it doesn’t really say anything to or about high value women. It also doesn’t doesn’t shed light on alternative stores of value, like, what if the guy is a corporate lawyer but his partner is an elected official? I’m interested to understand relationships like Bill/Hillary, Oprah/Stedman, or Michelle/Barack.

[D_Bone_Steak]

The video was red-pilled and based.

[Nikki1989]

Oh, so much irony on display here.

As usual, we have another man brainwashed by ridiculous videos like this one.

[Asker]

The video is spot on, and the problem with today's women like yourself is they don't get it.

[SotiCoto]

This just seems like more trad-trash.
What is with the sudden resurgence of conservativism online?

They've not "lost sight of" it. They've abandoned it as the outdated dogma it is.

[Anonymous]

Definitely, You don't need to see videos on YouTube to know that.

Notice there are only videos that prove it, But none that disprove it.

Here's another one...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/C9ONWHXCsrk

[Phoenix98]

Yes and no some women for sure have and some definitely have not. It just really depends I mean you could make the same argument for men to and the answer would be more or less the same.

[NathanDavis]

their experiences are vastly different from mine...

so, I don't have any need to look up for videos like this

[Jkgordon]

I agree men & women are different. This question also depends on the race, and cultural.

[laly520]

maybe if good men werent as rare as nowadays?

[Roudyrebel8]

I think it's more both sexes have lost sight of how to treat each other

[sheenagwapa]

i was heavily abused by men

[Asker]

Men get abused by women too. What does that have to do with today's women's attitudes toward men and relationships?

[laly520]

im sorry that happened, stay safe

[question_asker]

Everyone's a bit selfish nowadays

[jimmy2]

No it more that Todays men don't know how to love