Why does it seem today's women have lost sight of what men actually want in a woman?

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I see questions all the time from women that suggest they believe they are high-value because they are well educated, have a great career earning a lot of money and they have their own home. Those are things that make a man attractive to women but aren't really important factors in most men's attraction to women. In fact, they can get in the way of being a good woman, mother and wife.

Why do so many women rate their value based on the things they find attractive in men and forget about the things that are actually important to men in a mate? I mean sex and physical attraction are important of course, and women still offer those things, but they seem to forget about all the other valuable things women used to offer men in a healthy marriage or relationship, like being a good mother and spouse, cooking and making a house a home.

Why do so many women think that being more like men, and less like women, makes them more valuable to men?

Stargal · Accepted Answer

What you are talking about are gender roles- cooking nurturing and all the care work is considered feminine. But do you realise that all such work has no economic value and is unpaid. The new woman, I mean the present generation have seen their mothers and gramdmothers being treated not as equals of men and often subjected to domestic violence

Economic value forms the base for upmanship
So the modern woman is more inclined towards making her career so she could an equal in the relationship. Maybe you'll also understand that career requires compromising a bit of all the care work. So maybe most of the woman are not able to squeeze time for them. Also don't you think it's unfair to expect a woman to deliver best of both ghe worlds? Manage an office and also manage the home. Don't you think men also have an equal role in making the house a home when woman is bringing paychecks to clear the bills. Think about it.

alytaylor · Accepted Answer

Easy. I do what I want, work for my money, and support myself. I have a fantastic personality, a great body, and an excellent mindset. I would never strive to be attractive to a man and change myself because of it. That's stupid. Instead, I build my life how I see fit and the man who comes along and finds me perfect is the one I'm with.

IceCreamSandwich · Accepted Answer

How are they supposed to make a house a home if they don't have a house? How are they supposed to be a mom if they don't make enough money to support a child? How are they supposed to also have time to cook and date if they don't have a high paying job? How are they supposed to juggle all that if they aren't smart? Hm? Idiot.

Dchrls78104 · Accepted Answer

Because many of them are much too focussed on themselves.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Simply put, most women these days were raised to not care or have that in mind. There's a rise of ego and self entitlement in them because of simps and other women encouraging them to act that way.

genericname85 · Answer

they know. what men want. they just don't know what they themself want anymore, that's why they have impossibly contradictory expectations towards potential partners.

Squaresquirrel · Answer

May I ask what's a high value woman for you? I'm genuinely curious as I'm still struggling to understand this. Good mother? Good wife? These are relational roles. Who is she behind these roles?

Anonymous · Answer

hahah Yea, cuz making money and having a house is a male thing. And, let’s not pretend men aren’t some of the biggest gold-diggers, the only problem is that men usually have to dig for the gold themselves because women don’t offer it.

SaoirseS · Answer

Simply put, because it’s not the 1940s and 50s anymore.

IsoUser · Answer

I think that women expect more sexually

Why does it seem today's women have lost sight of what men actually want in a woman?

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