Girls, is it true that the guy should give minimal effort and the girl should chase him?

[Anonymous]

I often hear women and girls get turned off when a man or guy admits his feelings to her or pursues her. I guess the rule of thumb is, guys and men should NOT pursue females and a female should pursue him. Now when I say pursue, I don't mean she plans the dates, she always approaches, etc. A guy should initiate first contact for convo, a guy should plan a normal date. After that it's all up to the girl or woman in my opinion. Because if a guy starts messaging her more and this and that, it looks needy and desperate. Girls/women who pursue guys/men is better in my opinion because it's like a dance and reciprocating those feelings in return.

[Tren58]

No girl wants to be approached by someone they are not attracted to. So, if a girl ghosts you after you show her attention, then she was never interested to begin with.
But, yes, some girls like to play the annoying dating games you described. I wouldn’t recommend dating them though. They usually have serious mental health issues that will wreak havoc in your relationship. If you are into chaos, go for it.
Personally, I have no problem taking initiative and asking a guy out, texting or calling them. But, if he doesn’t equally reciprocate, I won’t feel confident enough to continue the relationship.

[Asker]

No, I'm too old for that, meaning chaos but what i hope is girls or young women who act that way, i hope they seek solace and peace.

[charlotute]

Depends on who the guy is pursuing her. If she's not interested of course it'll turn them off. If she's interested of course she'll be into it. Relationships are about reciprocation, and matching effort. If we feel the guy isn't even putting in the effort, we turn our attention elsewhere

[HappyWoman34]

If you play it too cool, we start to feel desperate and go from desperation to impatience, to feeling worthless, to feeling annoyed, to feeling awkward. Then giving up.

[Tharithi]

A man is supposed to chase , u are telling the exact opposite