Is my girlfriend crazy?

[Anonymous]

I started dating this girl in December. She's an MA student from India and we met in September during freshers week. For most part she was nice and she posted our picture on her Instagram wishing me a happy birthday and thanking me for being part of her "crew" alongwith a ❤️

We started dating in November and things were alright. Until my brother texted me saying that he saw my Facebook account. I have never had a Facebook (only when I was 17 and I had deleted that one) so naturally I was a bit surprised. I searched myself and saw that my account was up alongwith a couple pic of us in the snow and she had added herself as my only friend.

I was a bit shocked to see this as I didn't expect this at all nor did I like this.

I haven't spoken to her about this but this didn't seem like a green flag to me. She is quite insecure and very possessive as well. She kinda of stalked my ex girlfriend on Facebook, causing my ex to hide her posts and friends.

She is quite insecure, frequently complains how the Indian government harass her caste (she's dalit) and how she's darker in complexion. She also keeps complimenting me that I'm good looking which is sometimes a bit strange to hear.

What does this mean? Should I dump her? We are both 29.

[SueShe]

She is a very insecure and possessive person and while perhaps not crazy, she definitely has some trust issues. In itself, her action is a huge red flag that would lead me to question my relationship with her.

If she behaves the way she does as a simple girlfriend, imagine the kind of harm she can do if you decide to get married to her. Her behavior is enough to question her sanity and motives.

Before dumping her, I would certainly inquire about her motives behind her actions but to me, it does not speak in her favor. To create a social media account without the knowledge of the main concerned is something to be... concerned.

I personally would not tolerate her behavior and would sever the relationship.

[Asker]

The account had no friends except her. And our picture as the profile photo.

Is this a red flag too?

[SueShe]

As soon as she does something involving you behind your back and without your knowledge, it is a red flag to me.

[Asker]

She was asking me to create it and kinda tried coerced me into making one. I didn't agree fully but then she eventually made it

[DoggyDude]

No, she's not crazy (but love does make us all crazed at times); You thouhg sound a little crazy here, because your talking about dumping a girl your dating because of internet stuff O. o.. Which is no reason for anything.

It's simple, do you feel like you love her? or at least feel she's someone you want in your future?

If you do, just talk to her about the stuff that seems odd and figure out how you feel about it all

If you don't, sure split up, but not because some bullshit 'she's crazy!" but because you realised you where not good together and you didn't love her.

Best of luck whatever the outcome.

[Asker]

It's not Internet stuff

[DoggyDude]

Evidence:

o " she posted our picture on her Instagram"
o "my brother texted me saying that he saw my Facebook account"
o "She kinda of stalked my ex girlfriend on Facebook"

Your only non-internet references where:

o "we met in September during freshers week"
o "She is quite insecure and very possessive as well" (for which you posted internet based evidence of your assertion)
o "She is quite insecure, frequently complains how the Indian government harass her caste (she's dalit) and how she's darker in complexion. She also keeps complimenting me that I'm good looking which is sometimes a bit strange to hear."

So basically YOU sound crazy because none of these things are a basis to decide if you love or don't love a girl. Their the kinds of things which are jokes for Seinfeild episodes.

The most crazy is one of your call outs is she tells you your good-looking. I'm a guy here, so I sympathise with maybe not feeling as hot as other girls sometimes seem to indicate, but it honestly feels like your picking apart someone who clearly seems into you.

Also, there are complex class issues in India which are really hard to comprehend, unless you meet a lot of Indian people from a range of places from India. There is definite inter-ethnic tensions between parts of India.

[Asker]

Bye you are crazy indeed

[DoggyDude]

Well, that's your call and your welcome to opinion that. If being respectfull and providing my case is crazy, colour me crazy.

All the best, fairwell.

[Anonymous]

Yes, she is, but you are not much better. Live in the real world and get off social media.

[DoggyDude]

Yep, agree.

[Avicenna]

Talk to her about this first

[Sameone]

Yup she is

[Asker]

Care to elaborate?

[Sameone]

Both of you from india
Or this is long relationship

[Asker]

I'm Danish not Indian. and we are studying in Los Angeles

[Sameone]

Because the only information i know about Indian woman is ( passport/ hard to communicate with them)