I’ve literally only hung out with her 3 times. It seems like everything I do she tries to up one me which never works. I had pictures of me and boyfriend in his Jeep, and then she posts a picture of her and her husband in an ugly run down Jeep a couple weeks later. It was obvious they were just test driving it. I never saw pictures of it again after that. Then I got a new car and next thing you know she gets the same type of brand and same color.
Then I go on vacation to a really nice place and post photos of the ocean. She makes a post a week later that she wants to vacation in the same state. She also try’s to make same facial expressions as me, and try’s to dress like me even though I’m 27. It’s freaking me out. I could understand if it was grade school, but she is 47. 😒
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Woah girl, that is super weird and messy behavior on her part! A few possibilities here:
- Low self-esteem - She might be insecure and seeking validation through copying your pictures/life. Wants to appear as "cool" as you.
- Crush vibes - Has she shown any other signs she may have feelings beyond friendship? Sometimes older women get squishes too. Could be trying too hard to impress.
- Control issues - By mimicking your choices, maybe she feels a sense of power/ownership over you. Unhealthy mentality there.
I'd keep my distance from now on. People that insecure or obsessive aren't worth the drama down the line. If she copies anymore posts, maybe call her out respectfully like "You seem inspired by my choices lately but I prefer if we had our own lives separate."
Suggest doing activities just you enjoy too so she can't piggyback. Hopefully she gets the hint! If not, you may need to set firmer boundaries or limit contact more. You don't deserve that mess, sis!
Well, so, its kinda weird your even noticing this stuff. Why are you obsessing over this coworkers Facebook feed? I mean, you have a life right? Why waste your days trying to find pattenrs in other girls you know feeds?
Sorry this is really baffling. Life is filled with repeating coincidences and even if the unlikely is true and this girl is just copying everything you post in her own flavour (which I grant is a very weird thing), well just be flattered I guess?
Post something really weird and see if she copies that? I'd wager she won't.
It's really strange the way people obsess over the internet which is basically a system of corporations trying to sell stuff or monitise your existance and use.
I don’t obsess over the internet. I only have people I know on there so her posts pop up quite often. I've actually tried deactivating my Facebook, but they changed the settings and it’s not popping up now. I’ll have to update it I suppose. I’ve actually thought about doing that lol. Wearing a bucket hat with ducks on it.
I know it’s all a system. I don’t have tik tok or any of those type of platforms. I believe in having a real life with real interactions, but I’ve been isolated in my house because I have an autistic son, so I’ll admit it did get a little addictive at first. I would rather go traveling or do something useful with my life in that way, I can’t until my son is older. I paint or draw, or read in my free time. I hate that social media has ruined a lot of things.
There are some good things, but a lot of bad things as well. My oldest son won’t get a phone until he is in middle school because I don’t think children should be exposed to that garbage until they are a little more mature.
That's wise regarding limiting childrens exposure. Growning up with the 1990's internet was way different to todays, back then you had less money and more academic content (almost exclusively). That said, it's also a key place for networking for future so there is that too.
I'd say some advice some friends gave me many years ago: "are you so egotistical to credit what others do to yourself". It was a fair comment for me, I did use to over think such matters myself. I recall I said in art class what I would be painting to another girl, who said she would paint flowers, and I remember making a great peiece of art that day and felt my subject was the best; The girl did a MUCH better painting using my subject that I told her I was painting, for years of immaturity I was annoyed and felt betrayed she copied my idea; Until a friend said that line to me, made me realise it's a free world and she did the better painting, sure she copied my idea, but hey who am I to police others choices of which ideas they decide to use and where they get their inspirations. The right way I realised to view it was to be flattered the girl thought my idea was so good; Still, there is a little selfish part of me that still feels if she hadn't stole my idea then I would have had a masterpeice, like it was the "subject" that helped her win.. I do my best to keep that in check.
Anyway, hope you find your way to place this where you happy and if she is copying you you could just tell her "great minds think alike" and give her posts a like (if she was doing it deliberately, being kindly in noticing is the best way to annoy hehe)
I swear they have something here that re-writes our sentences sometimes, *"back then the internet was less about money and corporate intests and more about academic content".