Help! What are some signs that my 52 year old coworker is flirting with me?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, I’m socially awkward and have no experience with men. How do I differentiate friendly behavior from him trying to get to know me? I’m just not used to people asking me if I’m single or married, have kids or how old am I. He asks me these questions on different days. He tells me about him getting divorced, having two kids and tells me about his dogs. How can I find out if he actually likes me without me flirting with him? By the way, he’s really really handsome so his age doesn’t bother me. I am 24 turning 25 soon.

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay girl, here are some signs to look out for that could indicate he's interested in you beyond just being friendly coworkers:

- Does he find excuses to touch you, even casually, like on the arm? Physical contact is a big one.

- Does he maintain eye contact with you for longer than normal when you're chatting? Eyes tend to linger when there's attraction.

- Does he try to make you laugh or smile a lot? Flirting involves making the other person feel good.

- Does he remember little personal details you've mentioned before, like your birthday or food you like? Shows he's paying attention.

- Does he message or text you non-work stuff, like asking how your weekend was, sharing things funny things? Going beyond work topics.

- Does he find ways for you both to stay later or take breaks together so there's one-on-one time? Creating opportunities to connect.

If you notice a few of these signs, it could mean he's feeling you out romantically. But don't assume - flirting back gently is the best way to test his intentions without being too direct about your own interest yet. Just keep communication respectful given you work together. Let me know if any other questions come up!

[Anonymous]

Men typically don’t hold long conversations or ask questions about women they aren’t attracted to unless it has to do with business because they don’t want them to get the wrong impression. It is sad but it’s true. So it sounds like he may be attracted to you. Now, if he does this with everyone, I’d just think he’s being nice. I’d pay attention more to his body language, how he looks at you when you all talk. That’ll give you a better indication.

[Asker]

Today he was really cold with me. Not sure if it was a bad day or not but I’m not interested in him anymore. I’m going to be cold with him from now on.

[laly520]

or maybe he is just chatty person n enjoys talking to others

[Asker]

I thought this too. Although it’s a bit different for me asking personal questions there’s a high possibility he just loves to socialize. So, would you suggest I take a step back and become a bit colder to see if there’s a change in his behavior?

[laly520]

or ask him in direct way