So long story short:
Got asked to have dinner and wine with a female coworker/friend of mine last Friday. We had dinner, chatted for about 2ish hours, and then she invited me over to her place after paying.
Once at her place, nothing spectacular happened; she gave me chocolates to try and another glass of wine, and then sat at the complete opposite end of the couch. We talked about life and friends and whatnot; her not moving from her spot at all over the next 2ish hours.
Since she didn't really make any flirtatious moves I didn't want to be a creep and do anything that would label me as such, so we just talked for a short while until she said she needed to go to sleep. She also had mentioned how another guy was into her during our dinner, so in my head, I told myself I wouldn't be making any moves as there is no way an interested girl would be bringing up other men.
It's now been a week, and she has not texted or called me once (whereas up until the dinner she was consistently messaging and calling me). Did I do something wrong here? I texted her the day after the dinner and said I had a great time, and that if she needs to talk about anything to please give me a call.
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Girls, girl acting distant after Friday night hangout. Did I do something to upset her?
What Girls Said
"I told myself I wouldn't be making any moves as there is no way an interested girl would be bringing up other men"
I think you created this situation by giving her signals you are not interested
Interesting; the last time I brought up other women around a girl who I knew liked me, I was told I was being a jerk. So in this case, her bringing up dudes isn't an issue? If that's the case, how do I proceed next?
it's so childish I won't even comment.
I wrote about your mindset. You already decided there is nothing, acted accordingly and now you are surprised she did aligned to your behavior :D
I'm... a genuine question and i'm childish; *sigh*. Thanks for the input!
Doesn’t sound like it. Sounds more like she views you as a friend and wants to hang out in that capacity.
Gotcha; all I needed was a second pair of eyes. Thank you! :)
You’re welcome ☺️
You should ask her
Fair enough; I'll text her once more and hope it doesn't come across being too needy!
Sorry I didn't read your post. She's not interested. No communication and talking about other men. She could be playing a game but the interest I think isn't there
Yeah that's what I'm thinking as well; in that case, I'll let her have her space like I do with most of my friends!
Space? You should move on to someone more interested in you. Leave her in the dust!
Clarification: "space" as in, "let her do her own thing and I do my own". Wasn't clear that I would be moving on from this one! :)