How to stop being weird?

[Anonymous]

People often think of me as weird or creepy, I guess you could say, so they avoid me because I'm awkward. How do I stop this from progressing onto my adulthood?

[Anonymous]

So, I learned a thing or two about 'being creepy' when I met a Ukranian girl (many years ago). She would always tell me 'i'm creepy' and I took it as her being mean or trying to discourage. There was a degree of that, but over time I came to realise that I am creepy and I am glad I'm creepy. See, creepy for HER is loving for my girlfriend. It's creepy for her, because she didn't like me and me liking her, she felt I was trying to 'creep' into her affections as well as my perceived advances seeming to her to ignore her discouragements (which where not so clear and she was giving out plenty mixed messages, though in fairness she was also giving out a consistent narrative as well). To be clear, I never was disrespectful nor did I act toward her in any way that I would regret or others would feel was bad in any way. We remained friends for a very long time, until, one day I got tired of her seeing everything about me through a 'creepy' lens. For example, one night we where out at a work do and at the end of the night, she was quite worse for the drink and I was slightly worried about her, and said "you'll be okay right?", she was like "Of course" so I said, "okay just text me to let me know you get home okay". She felt that was creepy and chewed me out for it, suggesting it was some romantic play, saying how I wasn't checking on my other friends (though my other friends where not too drunk and they also where not heading off relatively alone or with strangers).

So, don't worry, don't think of it about stopping being weird, think of it as learning yourself and others so you can 'be kind' to othes who see people as 'weird' or 'normal' instead of just enjoying each of us as unique people.

[RavVid]

Might help if you say what you think they find weird or creepy and whether it is girls or guys or both that seem to think so.

I'm guessing you are still in high school but you will be moving on. As much as I can suggest is sever connections with those people and be careful to be conventional with new people you meet and make friends with. If you have been an outsider in your school and picked on, I think you'll find it changes rapidly. Adults can't afford to be as nasty as school kids.

[petitedollbabee]

Why do you have to change yourself? Stop interacting with people who hate on you. There’s nothing wrong with being “weird”, provided you’re not hurting anyone.

[laly520]

or maybe u r surrounded by toxic people who fail to accept u the way u r

[itsclearlynicholas]

You, a woman, as weird or creepy you say? Lol. Isn't that reserved for us males 😏😏 lol. I hope I didn't offend any gag users 🫣😋🫣😋

[itsclearlynicholas]

I smile in public. All I get is frowns back or blank glances. Lol. People are fickle things. 😊😊😊😇

[mbarsi01]

If people think you’re weird then you shouldn’t care about them anyway

[itsclearlynicholas]

Mmm ditto 😂 son people are just time wasters or meanies 😆😮‍💨😮‍💨

[itsclearlynicholas]

*some

[mbarsi01]

I believe it’s the opposite. That’s why I didn’t reply

[BloodCursedDeviant]

Do you wanna talk about it? You can always message me. o:

[slatyb]

How do you know this? Do they tell you so?

[Asker]

I could just tell by the way people avoid me. I think I am a weird kid because I am quiet and shy which makes me awkward

[slatyb]

The aren't avoiding you. That are doing the same thing you are doing -- not engaging. Other people are shy too.