Am I really weird?

Question

I’m almost 25 and I’m still scared to talk to girls. I can be friendly with them, but I don’t know how to date them. I never have dated. I also don’t know what to talk about.

I also have been rejected before so I have no self confidence when it comes to girls.

I can’t even make myself more attractive. I don’t know what to do

Confucious900 · Accepted Answer

Bro get out of your head. Just be you. THat is the big thing right there. Just be you and polite, and do you. You say you don't have a problem being friendly with them, so you can talk to them, but any guy gets bit nervous approaching a girl to talk to, because you expect rejection and expect it won't go well. Next time, in your head expect it to go well. You have nothing to lose. When you are being friendly with them, talking to them even if its just one question or answer, they don't know you never dated anyone. ONLY YOU.

Girls pickup when a guy is nervous or scared. Rejection is normal and we have all dealt with it. See it this way. You sat down at a restaurant and had a meal and coffee and the waiter comes around and asks do you want another coffee. And you say no. Do you think the waiter feels bad for you saying no. Apply that to your mind. They said no (reject you) so you just say, so what, move on.

Having never dated is not a problem at all. Start with one thing at a time, and work on communication. It should come naturally and if you are observant enough you will find or see things to talk about with them. Next time when you are being friendly with a girl, just throw in a random question in there, are you from around here, did you have fun, or what ever the situation might be where you are talking to a girl, just throw in a question, any question related to the situation where you find yourself talking to them or being friendly with them.

And continue on your day. Reason for this is that one question you asked, sparked a conversation. Even if it doesn't, having asked that one question, The more you do that in situations where you find yourself talking/being friendly with them the more you will get comfortable talking to girl. It will come naturally. Specially the pretty ones. And not long before you will actually be able to have a full on conversation with them without being nervous.

Lynx122 · Accepted Answer

You need to experience a girl that actually likes you then you'll be fine. The problem is when you've never experienced that you're always like walking on eggshells and trying to do the right thing to maintain or increase (but that doesn't happen) the tiny amount of approval or affection or whatever the girl is giving you. But if a girl is actually fully liking you, you will never chase after a girl again that is treating you like this. I don't think you are weird I had similar experiences when I was younger but now things are turning out well for me :) I think you will be fine in your 30s just focus on yourself and develop as a person whatever area you want to focus on.

Avicenna · Answer

Here's the thing about rejection- we have all experienced it, and it's a part of trying to get a girlfriend. If you aren't getting rejected at all, you aren't trying and you will be alone.

DextroShade · Answer

This is a common problem men have. The truth is you are just going to have to accept a lot of rejection before you find a girl who says yes; even the apex alpha player Chads have a 90% rejection rate. Just keep shooting your shot, don't let yourself get put in the friend-zone, ghost the ones who turn you down, and quickly move on to the next. It's simply a numbers game.

SotiCoto · Answer

If you have to ask if something is "weird", you're not weird. You're completely, disgustingly normal. Common. Mundane. Vanilla.  Weird is a good thing. A good thing that you aren't.