Most females’ lose a good man because she takes her toxic friends’ advice?

[Finchie40]

With my experiences with girls’ through the years most females tend to do this more than guys do , Do you agree

[V_Injector]

Majorly agree with this! It's why I pay attention to her friends BIG TIME! I have friends that just want to do drugs, get drunk, and fuck girls... but I find it's way easier to for me to say to that friend when they're trying to drag me out for "adventures" to simply say, "Naw bro, I've got other things to do.

Females on the other hand, seem to want to fit in so much, that they'll cave in. If the friend is in a sour relationship, and she's on the prowl for a new man to monkey branch to... guess what she'll drag her friend that's doing perfectly fine into! Next thing I'll know, my girl will be asking if she can go to a club or a bar with her friend. I have to provide her an excuse to get out of it as if it's some obligation she has to do for the friend.

If her friend is taken and not looking for men, basically complacent... It will be things like getting their nails done. Random stray males don't suddenly appear to join them, there is no public intoxication and most of all... there isn't some chick trying to convince my chick that her situation is just like hers... basically justifying shit like talking to guys and letting them hollar at her.

I've seen it happen with friend's wives. Secret bar hangouts eventually lead to all the things her friends are doing... except she's shitting on a husband that's working all day for her and their kid. He's at home basically babysitting after work, so that she can start the process of destroying the relationship as it is with friends that have destroyed their own relationships.

With that said all the bad things don't happen all at once... which justifies the second time, the 3rd, et cetera. If the first time was eliminated, there won't be excuses to keep going into those environments. There would not be a progression of small lies getting bigger and bigger into huge lies. The influence of the friend, would not get a chance to grow.

Once in the environment, she's stuck in these conversations with other dudes

[JacobJordan]

That or because she is inherently toxic herself. That is the downside of most western women they listen to terrible advice from other single women and they are incapable of actually working with a man as a partner in a relationship. It is why a growing population of men are going overseas to find wives. It is getting more and more difficult to tell which women are worth it and which are going to destroy a man's life. I am sure my stalker will see this and lose her mind so I'll preemptively say you are proving my point now be quiet the adults are speaking. The best source of advice for young women when it comes to relationships is from women that are also in relationships and happily so. Sometimes single women (provided they have had past relationships and didn't allow that relationship to ruin their life) can be a good source of advice but typically it is happily married women. Same goes for young men to be honest. Ask a happily married man for advice. When it comes to dealing with the opposite sex as the opposite sex about the opposite sex. I am of course referring to those magazine articles we see at stores "100 ways to please your man" it is single digit ways to please a man because we are very simple. We don't ask for a lot and we expect even less. So if you want to deal with men ask men what men like. If you want to deal with women ask women what women like. Works everytime. As such should anyone wish to ask questions of myself or my wife (we share the account) feel free to reach out.

Now... take it away stalker show us more of your true colors.

[KrakenAttackin]

@jacobjordan. Once again my man nails it.

[sage2021]

Sometimes other women, even a woman's friends are so jealous that she has a guy at all and a good guy at that.

So, they say things about him to talk her out of her relationship with him. She should ignore what her friends say and keep the guy.
But I guess to save face with her friends, she breaks it off with him.

Women will share things about him with her friends like about something, even one thing she doesn't care that much for that he said or did and her friends are all over that!

They'll say things like
You don't need that in your life
You can do better
You deserve better
Girl, you gotta get rid of that guy

Remember this is all said out of jealousy.

They cannot wait for her to say one thing she doesn't like about him, could be he eats really fast and eats with his mouth open.
Then there is their opening to pounce on the guy and talk her out of being with him.

It's crazy, I know.

The stranger things about it is, that once she let's go of the good guy, her friends that she confided in will go after him for themselves.
This happened to me before. Once I told who I thought was my best friend
that we broke up, she started going into his work - she said she was doing a little P. I. (private investigating).

Then I introduced her to this guy that I was seeing and he was a real estate appraiser and she was a real estate agent. I could tell right away she was wanting to hook up with him. They both exchanged business cards and she kept calling him. She was married too. We would go out and go back to his place and there would be a message on his answering machine that I could hear what she was saying. I don't think he wanted me to hear that but I did.

[Finchie40]

Yes, you pretty much explained what I experienced and witnessed with girls’ through the years. and yes a lot of it stems down to jealousy , I am not saying guys’ don’t do this kind of stuff as well , but with my experiences and things I have witnessed , females definitely take the trophy on this. Why I always post on here to never prioritize your friends’ over your partner , especially if you are in a relationship with someone that loves you and cares about you and treats you well , never side with your friends over your partner. if a friend is bashing your partner to you for really no reason what so ever , tell your friend to go fuck themselves because that isn’t a friend , that is a toxic friend. A true friend doesn’t try to sabotage your relationship or talk shit on your partner behind their backs , and try to fill your head that your partner is not a good match for you. Sadly most females side with their toxic friends over their partners’ and then they wonder why they can not last in a relationship period. I dated girls’ that had toxic friends that were jealous of her being in a relationship with me , jealous that she was happy with me , not all of her friends were toxic , but I came across a few that I spotted mikes away , when I tried telling my girlfriend my thoughts about her so called friend? She would get angry and upset with me that I assumed she was a toxic friend to her , I would just let it go and not say a word , I knew it would be a matter of time before her toxic friends true colors shined , and 95 percent of the time I was right about it. Some of her so called amazing friends would try to hook up with me behind her back and I would shake my head laughing cuz I knew I was right about her. So next time you have a so called friend bashing your partner for no reason at all , just remember your friend is more than likely jealous of your relationship and will do her best to sabotage it. Don’t think otherwise. Take note of this girls’ lol

[Dinklex3]

No, lol.

We’re grown women who make our own decisions. Advice is just that. Advice. We’re accountable for our own actions. Most of the time we’re just venting, ignore advice (especially if not asked), or just do the opposite.

Usually it’s her, not her friends… Unless you’re dating someone who has no mind of her own and just lets people boss her around.

& A lot of times girls give advice based on the friends side of the story. I’ve learned that a friend of mine lies. A LOT. It makes her boyfriend sound bad, but she gets upset if people talk bad about him, yet that’s what she continues to do. I don’t give her any advice or input, I just listen. Her other friends talk mad shit based on the lies she told.

[HighValue]

Women tend to give bad relationship advice the majority of the time, and it often seems intentional. They don't want others to be happy. They want them to take the same actions they did that ended badly. For example, girls night out (where many cheat) they will tell their friends that their SO is controlling if he doesn't want her to go. A common BS excuse women often tell their friends is that the man is either controlling or insecure. And most of those same women cheat. Same goes for them posting provocative/revealing pictures online for attention and flirting with others. They often deny it, especially many on this site, but when relationships end, it is often because they cheat which began with those same activities.

The bad advice some men give to other men is that it is okay to have casual sex. That makes it difficult for them to pair bond in the future just like it does for women and ruins future relationship success.

[LuminousMind]

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[ManOnFire]

This is a fact. If her girlfriends are single or at least not happy in their own relationships then they will try to poison her against a guy who likes her, so that they won't be alone in their own singleness or unhappiness. Women are often a prime example of 'misery loves company.'

[Finchie40]

Yes I agree , most females sadly are selfish human beings that only really care about themselves , I am not saying guys’ can’t be selfish as well , but females take the lead on selfish mindsets based off of my experiences and things I witnessed through the years. Most females don’t look at commitment the same way that guys’ tend to. Most females don’t look at intimacy and affection like guys’ do finding a girl that matches our sexual preferences is hard to find , she is usually good on the beginning but eventually it fades when she feels she isn’t getting her way or she is listening to her toxic friends advice. Females are pretty much clueless when it comes to what’s right or wrong , Most females’ have a list of shit that she needs to get her in the mood compared to a guys’ list that doesn’t even come close to her list. Most females feel they were put on earth to be catered to and treated like Princesses at all times , How dare she break a nail. I have slept with girls’ that lied to my face that she was single when really she wasn’t. Most females are weak when it comes to breaking up with a guy , she will latch onto another guy before ending her current relationship, hoping the new guy will save her. Most females cheat for status and most guys’ cheat for Love , just the way it goes in most cases. Why I no longer give my heart to a girl until she proves she wants me for the long haul and not the short haul. I prefer honest girls’ if she is lying , oh well she will suffer the consequences of her actions, Not my problem , thanks for a good time but not a long time.

[ProbablyClueless]

Lots of women miss out on good guys because of shitty advice from their girlfriends, yes.

Ladies, this is just a word to wise. Don't consult your single girlfriends for advice about men; they simply don't know. They most likely don't know how to have good relationships, or they would be in relationships themselves.

[Pinay_ako]

At the end of the day, it’s HER decision not her friends. So it’s unfair to put the blame on her friends. She’s a grown ass adult who can make grown up decisions.

[Finchie40]

That’s how it should be but sadly a lot of girls’ tend to take advice from her so called friends and think she is doing the right thing , when really she is doing the wrong thing. And then she wonders why she can’t last in any relationships , it’s because she is vulnerable to her so called friends advice. If she was a mature adult woman , she would tell her friends to go fuck themselves and to stay out of her relationship and tell her friends the truth of how her man treats her , a good girl will have no problem telling her friends to back off of her relationship. If they don’t like it? Don’t be my friend period. There is a difference between good friends and toxic friends , me personally would never allow a toxic friend to try to sabotage my relationship with a girl , Theu can tell me everything they sense bad in her and bash her to me but it goes in one ear out the other , I will tell that toxic friend to back the fuck off and don’t worry about my relationship period. A good friend will be happy for
Your relationship and be happy for
You , a toxic friend will not be

[Pinay_ako]

Coz that toxic friend is jealous and miserable with her own life. Misery loves company

[IslaTheWitch]

I've never seen such a situation. But I witnessed how guys encourage their friend to be more "decisive" when talking with his girlfriend and relationship didn't survive...

so it depends on people not on gender... some people are stupid AF and tempt their fate and then whine if it didn't work

[genericname85]

i would say yes, cause women more than men look for competent partners. and telling apart competence and arrogance is quite difficult especially if you're less proficient than the person you're trying to evaluate. and women typically are the less proficient than their mates simply cause women don't typically go for me who are less proficient than them.

[Hellur991]

It's true. But that's what she was use to getting all her life. So she's stuck on that mindset cycle. I mean if your a good guy stay with her as friends and constantly correct her on her wrongs, her eyes will eventually open up. On what's actually right

[LazerBean]

Not sure. It may be true though. But what I see happen a lot more with both males and females is they get stuck with someone toxic because they don't take their friends advice.

[Finchie40]

Honestly you should never take your friends advice if you are with a guy that treats you well, he won’t be perfect because no one is perfect , but if he is treating you well , shows he loves and cares about you and has your back no matter what? Tell your so called friend to Go Fuck themselves , because the truth is they aren’t really a friend , they are a toxic friend. Toxic friends try to sabotage your relationship because they are jealous of you , they are jealous that they don’t have what you have. Take note of this girls and guys’ cuz this shit happens more than we like to think it does. Your so called friend isn’t really a friend if they are bashing your partner to you and filling your head that you could do better. They want you to think that way, so they can either have you all to themselves or try to get with your partner behind your back or they will continue being your friend until they meet someone finally and than kick you to the curb not caring that they sabotaged your relationship. They have no respect for your relationship or you what so ever. They just want what they don’t have. I am pretty good at pointing out toxic friends when I am dating a girl. Most of the girls’ I dated , didn’t want to hear what I had to say , they would get angry and upset with me , that I didn’t like her so called friend, so I kept my mouth shut and would just sit back and watch it unfold , I was pretty damn accurate when this sort of thing occurs , mainly because I have witnessed and experienced it a lot of times. Why I always post on here to never prioritize your friends over your partner especially if your partner treats you well. Now if your partner treats you like shit and doesn’t really respect you , it’s ok to listen to your friends’ advice but you should never base your decisions off of what your friends’ tell you. It’s your relationship not theirs. When a friend tries to give me advice about a girl I am dating , I just say thanks but I got it she is my problem 😋

[LazerBean]

I agree that if your friends are wrong, then you need new friends. But if person you are dating and the rest of the people in your life are not getting along, then there is a problem with one or the other. So you have to ask yourself, have I surrounded myself with crappy people? Or am I dating a crappy person? It has to be one or the other. And then once you figure that out, you have to do the hard thing and get rid of whoever is in the wrong. We have a guy in our friend group who has dated a total of two girls. Before they even started dating, and in the early parts of them dating, we all told him that those girls were no good. He dated them anyway. He broke up with the first one because she was cheating on him. The current one has cheated on him. And maybe she still is, we've all washed our hands of it so I don't know any updates. A couple of our friends presented him with the evidence. He hasn't told any of his friends to take the hike, but frankly she is bad enough that a lot of us are distancing themselves anyway. It's just sad and I hate having to be a part of it.

[Chazmatazz269]

That has been my observation and experience. Most dudes have at least one buddy who can’t be trusted though. So it may be closer than you think. Ell oh ell!

[DizzyDesii]

Yep. Thats why i’ll listen to what they have to say but still do my own thing. I met someone great last week and my fam and friends are already on my ass 😩

[RedInnocent69]

I believe it. Her friends don’t want her to be different from them and will do anything they can to hold her back, including encouraging her to fuck other guys because they could never get the guy she’s already with.

[Flatmanlewis]

Nothing keeps a woman single like her unhappy single friend.

[NathanDavis]

we've experienced very different lives... you and me, lol

[FuqUFggt]

My now wife almost dumped me when we were kids because my best friend (that was female) told her I was no good. She told her this because she was in love with me and she didn't know how to deal

[Cheerfull009]

This happened with me, my ex who was in relationship with me for 2 years, became the victoms of her friend's bad advice and the result was breakage, later she realised but the time has gone, some other filled this gap

[LaurenM1997]

Nah I never take advice from my friends about boyfriends I take my own advice and if they are right in the end I’d apologise

[itsclearlynicholas]

They sure do, I could've banged so many women by now lol even her friends of friends of friends ♀️♀️♀️ in my hypothetical answer, not the Asker's's ☺️

[Nikki1989]

Let me guess, you don't see the irony in your question?

[jshm2]

No. If you're with such a callous woman, then it's your fault, not hers.

[exitseven]

I do not know. I have never had an experience like that.

[LiamJHayden]

In cases where this is true he is better off, since she would always allow herself to be unduly influenced by outsiders.

[OtterMan68]

"Most"?

I'd say too few women listen to their friends' warnings a guy she's dating is bad news

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

WELL DON'T WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT THE OTHER STUFF THAT HAPPENS WITH G&G THEY ARE NOT JELOUS JUST SAD NOT HAVE A WARM PERSON IN BED WITH A COLD BLOCKER LOL.

[Anonymous]

I can see that. Women enable bad behavior too much instead of calling them out

[Venüsyenn]

Are there really good men?

[Finchie40]

Yes , just like there are good women , they are just harder to find these days , especially with how this world is today and the way society is today. Most of us encounter bad seeds before finding a good one , just the way it goes. Finding someone that removes selfishness for you the same way you do for them is key to finding a good partner , Sadly there are a lot of selfish people on this world today and that’s why most relationships don’t make it the long haul , if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner? Don’t expect them to remove it for you , it has to go both ways or that relationship will not make it period. So if you are looking for a good man? Look for a guy that isn’t selfish , that values you the same way you value him , A guy that truly values you and appreciates you won’t hesitate to remove selfishness for
You , So it’s best for you to do the same for him. It won’t be perfect , no relationship is perfect , but if you want a long lasting relationship with someone , you have to accept their flaws the same way you want them to accept yours. Make each other your top priority over everyone else in this world , and I guarantee you will experience a long lasting relationship. Remember it’s you and your partner VS. the world , you both need to be partners by having each others backs through the good times and the bad times. Learn to remove selfishness for your partner and it will make it easier for them to remove it for you. The only way anyone should walk away from a relationship is if cheating is involved , or you are being physically beaten and controlled by your partner , other than that? You are best to fix what is broken between you. By choosing each other and making each other your top priority. Do not take friends advice when you are happy in a relationship with someone , your so called friends can easily try to sabotage your happiness because they are jealous of what you have and they don’t. If a so called friend bashes your partner?

[Finchie40]

Let it go on one ear out the other and tell your friend to back the fuck off , because they aren’t really a friend if they are talking shit on your partner behind their back. A true friend will be happy for you and support your relationship with your partner by not talking shit on your partner , Mark my words

[avery58]

Maybe I don't know but some guys do it too

[CrabCakes11]

Yeah unlikely.

[sheikalana]

They are easily influenced.

[Whitedog1]

Not always in my experience!