Why did she act into me when we were alone, but got uncomfortable when her friends were around?

[Anonymous]

I went on a first date with a girl which I thought went well. She invited me to a theater performance she was in the next day. I went, but after the show she started acting awkward, distant and really nervous talking to me. Oddly when I talked to her other friends who came, they really seemed to like me. One of her friends invited me to their party after and so I went. She seemed unsure about it, but then decided to ride in my car to go there and relaxed when she got alone with me and started joking around. But at the party she got awkward and nervous interacting with me. So I didn't really talk to her much. When I left she didn't even seem to want to hug me and looked really stressed out. There was no other guy she seemed interested in. Her friends asked me to hang out again the next day but I turned them down. It also seemed like she hadn't told anyone she went out with me. If she doesn't really like me thats fine, just confused by what was going on.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that is weird behavior from her, man. My guess is she feels more comfortable and into you one-on-one, but gets shy and self-conscious around her friends like she's not sure what "label" to put on you yet, if that makes sense.

Some girls can get awkward introducing a new romantic interest to their social circle before really defining what's happening between you. Maybe she's not sure if you're just a friend or potentially more. Seeing you socialize with them in person made it feel real all of a sudden.

I'd say don't totally write her off yet. She does seem interested based on alone time. Maybe try asking her directly what's up - just say you thought things were going well and her nervousness at the party threw you off.

See what she says - either she'll confess she's shy in groups or it's clear she just wanted you as a friend. If it's the former, might be worth another date to lower pressure and see if she opens up more. But you don't want a chick that games you, either.

Keep me posted on what happens, dude! Her friends seemed into you at least.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I always think a person who would do that is too influenced by others to ever be happy! As a consequence, they mess up other people's lives too!

In this case, yours.
I would tell her straight. IF you want to go out again, you put me first, without worrying what other people think, otherwise we have nothing else to discuss!