Is this love or loneliness?

[Anonymous]

A boy liked me but he was way beneath me. No house, money or education that reaches Upto my social level. I somewhere liked him but my heart wanted to be away from him. So I hurt him real bad. On the other had I had an incredibly successful and rich boyfriend.

Once after our breakup I see myself crawling back to the guy I rejected.

Although I know I have many admirers, I feel for him. Feel bad for his state. I feel bad for my actions and the fact that I hurt him a lot.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl that's a tricky situation for real. On one hand, it makes sense you'd feel bad hurtin that dude so badly before. That shits never easy.

But at the same time, you gotta be careful not to just go back to him cuz you feel bad or lonely now. That ain't fair to him or you.

My advice - take some time alone first before reachin back out. Think hard on what you really want long term. Is it really him, or you missin that spark of any kind of connection? Once you get perspective, you'll know better what to do.

If you do talk to him again, be totally honest 'bout where your head's at. Make sure he knows you can't promise anything and you both got work to do rebuildin trust. Go slow as hell - don't just jump into anything serious again quick.

Give it some space and thought first sis. You got this - just do what's best for YOU in the end, aight? You deserve to be 1000% sure 'bout big moves like that.

[Keyboardkat]

Guilt is not a good basis on which to build a relationship. If he can't get his act together, then, "What you see is what you get." Is this what you want? Is this what you think you deserve? Think about it.

[Anonymous]

definitely this is NOT love. Instead it is your desire to crave attention and care from someone and you know he could give you most with least humiliation and so you feel he is best choice for you now. That's it.