Why don’t I care that I was snubbed?

[HappyWoman34]

I had an acquaintance I’ll call *Ellie.*. Ellie invited me to her birthday party it turns out, by mistake. She’s since gone out of her way to actively snub me, by ignoring my text message and unfriending me from Facebook; making her profile private.

Once I found out about it, I didn’t mind. I actually didn’t care. At all. I was surprised, that I didn’t care, when I love people. Why didn’t I care at all? My only thought was; ‘Oh, good, one big birthday less to buy a big gift for.’

[SueShe]

Well, this acquaintance is just that. An acquaintance and not a friend. A real friend does not invite you "by mistake". A real friend sticks with you through thin and thick.

You do not care, not because she snubbed you but because you did never find her worthy of your friendship. In this case, you were even happy that you did not attend her birthday party because she revealed her true identity to you. You don't need acquaintances like that.

One only needs one single true friend in life and those will never snub you, talk behind your back or block you on social media.

[ProbablyClueless]

You must not place much value on that kind of event. Or you might not even place much value in the relationship as a whole.

[Iron_Man]

didn’t you want to get her a nice ring? Talk to her and find out what’s going on

[HappyWoman34]

I did, but I decided to give it to my friend, who’s turning thirty next year, instead. That was my original plan anyway.

[Iron_Man]

I’m a little bit confused what friend You were going to get the ring for but anyway only go if you’re accepted and invited

[HappyWoman34]

I was originally giving it to my friend, for her thirtieth, but I thought she was gone. So, I knew someone who’d invited me to her fortieth and thought it’d be a shame to waste a good ring and I thought I needed a gift for her party and that I might as well give it to her. Then the acquaintance dumped me and the friend came back. So I changed my mind again.

[HappyWoman34]

Oh no, I’d never think to go anywhere I wasn’t welcome

[Iron_Man]

Follow your heart and make the best decision on who is loyal and deserves it

[Iron_Man]

Yes I understand

[strateguy632]

good you aren't letting it "get to you". no problem.

[Dongie]

People can be weird. It is a win‐win for you. Go by yourself her present and enjoy it.

[noohair]

It is an acquaintance not a friend. Ans she is an asshole so it is no big deal.

[Yannae]

Because she isn't worth a care.