Why do women lead you on only to test you?

[Anonymous]

Exactly what the title says. Why would she be flirting with me in person like she touched me that was when I noticed she liked me then I noticed she’d be all shy around me and could hardly ever keep eye contact she’s called me a pretty boy and told me I love fighting with her but she always says friend very subtly. (I think that’s a test bc I’ve ignored it every time and she still flirts with me) she tells me when she’s free she checks in with me etc. and suddenly Bam she goes cold. She went cold the last time I saw her because her boss said she has to keep work and whatever we have separate (her words). Ngl that made me want her even more and I told her that and then she goes cold and doesn’t respond. Am I being played like a fool right now am I just some dude she sees as free attention or is it a wrap and I should move on because I really liked her.

I honestly feel like she does like me and still does. Is she flirting with me or is she just being nice.

Now I can’t stop thinking about her. Do I give her space and forget about her and move on or do I talk to her still.

[Anonymous]

Listen man chicks don’t even know what they really want. Once you think you have it figured out it changes. Don’t even really try to understand it. If you don’t like these games don’t play them. I think you’re giving her too much attention as it is that’s why she’s acting this way. She knows you’re like a puppy, keep coming back. She has you wrapped around her finger. The less you show you care the more she’s going to come to you. Maybe she’ll leave, could backfire. I’m not telling you tonight ignore her, that’s up to you what to do. But if you’re giving her too much attention girls tend to not like it that much. They say they want that but then all of a sudden now you’re needy. A lot of them want the dude they can’t have. The dude that already has a girl.

[meepmeeperton]

I don’t know, women don’t know what the hell they want and they want you to take the lead. So just keep perusing her and not giving up and she’ll probably find it romantic. The work separate thing seems like a BS excuse she doesn’t actually care about and wants you to ignore.

[Anonymous]

As if you’ve verbally made your intentions known, she’s going off your actions just like you’re going off hers. If anything she could be going cold because she’s confused, like you aren’t making any moves either and naturally women expect men to act first. We can blame that on gender/societal norms or whatever but it is what it is. Moral of this is if you want answers then ask her out. She’s either gonna be with it or not but then at least you’d know where you both stand.

[Asker]

I don’t want to double text her. I’m gonna go ask her out on Friday

[Asker]

Or should I text her

[Opinion Owner]

No need to double text, just ask her out when you see her.

[Asker]

Should I even bother with this girl if she hasn’t even texted me back she’s disrespecting me right now and trying to make me chase I feel

[Opinion Owner]

You’re too worried about looking like you’re chasing or “doing too much”. Word to the wise — stop listening so much to your friends, because they are too proud as well and gonna keep you single and/or struggling with women like them. You have not made your intentions known with this woman, just going off vibes and indirectness. If you like her, gut up and ask her out on a date. Stop worrying about games and stuff that I doubt she is playing.