Is she being unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

A girl at work who is leaving asked me to go to her farewell lunch.

We only have 1 hour & it's a 15 minute walk to get there and go back.

I have a heart condition so I get puffed out when I have to walk fast in a short time.

I also have a foot issue where it hurts on the ball of my foot when I walk.

She knows these things and I suggested we can go somewhere closer on another day and she said "Why would I do that?"

I would go but it's too far and I can't afford going in a taxi and the lunch is really expensive.

I don't have meetings in my job for myself so I can't use that as an excuse.

She knows I can't walk too fast and I told her yesterday my foot is playing up again.

I don't want to get in a fight but I don't know why she won't understand.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, that really sucks that she's being like that. I know it can be hard dealing with stuff like that at work, especially when you're just trying to be nice about it. It doesn't seem fair that she knows about your health issues but isn't willing to work with you at all on finding a better solution. 15 minutes each way of fast walking is a long time when you've got problems with your heart and foot, so I totally get why that wouldn't work for you.

It was cool that you tried to compromise by suggesting to meet somewhere closer on a different day, but her reaction to that was pretty rude. Like you said, you can't afford a taxi and the lunch does sound expensive too. Plus you've already told her your foot has been bothering you again lately. I don't get why she won't try to understand where you're coming from with all that. At this point, you've explained your situation well enough and she still isn't listening, so I don't think you'd be in the wrong if you had to miss the lunch.

Your health has to come first. Maybe one more time just lay it all out for her - your medical issues, money situation, everything. And if she's still acting tough about it, then don't feel bad about not going. You tried your best to find a solution. Just make it clear it's cause of your health, not cause you don't wanna go. Don't let her try to make you feel bad either - you gotta take care of yourself. Hope it all works out!

[luvstoned4him]

well why are you worried? You already have a good enough excuse to cacel. Health reasons. Anyone and I mean ANYONE you doesn't take time to HEAR you when you explain your feelings and issues isn't worth being anything to