Is being physically unattractive the worst hardship a girl could have in life?

[Bethany22]

If a girl was unattractive (whether fat or thin), would that be a worse hardship in her life than if she was attractive, yet had some other hardship (such as physical or mental health issues, low income, family issues, trauma, off-putting personality, etc)? Basically, the question is, is being invisible the worst hardship a girl could have.

[Crimsyjo]

My sister has always been "the princess" "the pretty one". She had so many boyfriends one after the other my mum and myself didn't think it worth learning their names. So attractive... yh. Guys all think she's super attractive.

She got cancer in her early 20's. Doctors thought she was talking crap and ignored her symptoms. It got to stage we were told she will probably die. She's a fighter tho. She's 47 now. Still a magnet for guys. But she has suffered years in and out of hospital, chemo, black outs, chopped and hacked in hospital. Her bowel is too damaged now and she can't eat food. She has a permanent tube in her chest to feed herself a liquid nutrient straight into her bloodstream. She has scars and bruises. She's had to take the highest doses of morphine. But she won't give up. She's an artist and travels the country with a special rucksack to carry her "food". Guys don't know so to look at they still drawn to her in droves. But only ones to stick around once they know are abusive losers after her money (got big payout from hospital for there negligence).

So yh... you tell me. Is she lucky and blessed to be attractive? Or would she rather be healthy but "ugly"?

She hasn't long to live now. Could be another couple years as her livers also giving up now.

[BetaBucks]

Well-made point. I just want to address the last part about her liver. The med industry has made great progress on, what I'm probably mislabeling as, liver dialysis. It might be hard to find care providers for it, but it's out there and it's definitely a viable option.

[Crimsyjo]

@BetaBucks thanks for reading. I prob went off on a bit of a rant lol. I feel jealous of her a lot but then bad cos of what she has to go through health wise. I'm probably more lucky even tho less attractive.
And yh.. she's one step away from needing a liver transplant. But I'm pretty sure they won't treat someone who is going to die anyways as her bowel has gone past stage of being able to have a transplant. Her body is basically going to shut down. She hides it all tho with top beauty treatments, tanning, hair extensions, fashionable clothes.

[BetaBucks]

Hahaha no, GAG is supposed to be a rant friendly environment. You should see some of my monologues.

But about the other part, that's awful. I'm legit sorry to hear that. It must be tough for all of you. Stay strong, my friend 💪🏼

[sage2021]

From my life experiences people who are unattractive find each other attractive and get married and have kids. They are more happily married than super attractive people.

They usually go to college and end up with high paying jobs and are able to buy a house and two cars and afford children.

I have seen this time and time again throughout my life working at various places and meeting people at church.

[noemiii]

No, it’s not. Unattractive women get the upper hand in careers and even in serious dating. They don’t have to worry about men not taking them seriously in their careers or about other women seeing them as a threat. It also is very easy for an unattractive woman to hit a different beauty category if they keep themselves up well or if they have a nice shape. It’s actually harder being an attractive woman in general society if she’s socially awkward.

[BetaBucks]

That last part is my wife. She's very attractive and she's young and skinny, but lacks social skills, so women treat her like dog shit in the work world. She just doesn't understand how to game those unattractive women bosses of her's. She's super humble too, so it's all about that certain social skill.

[Ladsin2]

Just to make sure I understand your argument. Beautiful women receive jobs, social acclaim, and (at least) short term dating opportunities just based on their appearance, and you think that's harder than having to work to get those things?

[noemiii]

@Ladsin2 No, I just think you assume they get those things. And I clearly said an attractive woman with bad social skills, like being on the autistic spectrum.

[Ladsin2]

If attractive women are being hired for their merit rather than their looks why would anyone doubt their merit?

[noemiii]

@Ladsin2 Most jobs are not going to hire someone just for their looks into a job they’re not qualified for. I’m not talking an entry level BS I’m talking an actual career that requires a degree. Sure, attractive women have the upper hand when being hired into customer facing roles (for good reason, obviously) but they won’t just be hired for HR with no degree in such. That’s not how that works.
Unattractive women are definitely excelling career wise so not sure what makes you think they aren’t getting jobs. Most have high paying jobs because they put less effort into their appearance and more effort into their education, actually.

[lightbulb27]

It might be as they get more abuse. although I've seen quite inattractive wonen do very well in life.


A lot of it seems to be attitude and ability to shake iff negative energy.

[BetaBucks]

Bro, attitude is everything. Some girls don't seem to get that guys will throw the fucking world at them if they're just polite and respectful. Or maybe they just don't care. I don't know

[lightbulb27]

@BetaBucks yep, some of that is training and personality. A lot of the message they get is "looks". some people requires a lot of emotional support and protrection or they will be chewed up. I can see how girls end up in the gutter easily... and guys. It's an emotional battle zone out there.
There is something more core that makes attitude and resilience. That shines through and makes more beauty.
Takes time to grow for some... or many.

[ohsheeT]

Well who's the one that says she's unattractive if she believes in herself and she knows who she is on the inside that's all that counts we all see things different we all want things that are different..
And who's to say just because somebody else says she's unattractive that she is unattractive I looked at people everyday in detail and I'll tell you what I can find something beautiful on a person no matter what and if the first thing I find beautiful comes from their heart that just makes everything else more attractive..

It's usually other people that are the ones bullying or bringing attention to another person about their looks because they think there are a goddess... And I guarantee that I could find something wrong with him in a heartbeat... Everybody on this planet has had hardships bullied manipulated used talk down to treated bad treated good. But no matter who we are what we look like if somebody starts talking crap about you you have to understand those people don't have a life they're usually not a good person because they're creating drama on someone else's behalf because of what they look like that's ridiculous. Our body is just our Temple it holds our spirit our soul our energy and when it's said Dead and gone and that attractive body or whatever it is falls to the ground all you have is your spirit and your soul you can't hide no more now the person that was probably thought of being unattractive is probably a beautiful angel and the people that talk crap about her they probably have a very ugly Spirit a very ugly soul with the witch's nose and probably buck teeth because they talk so much crap about other people what comes around goes around in life so I wish people would understand that she might have the last laugh

[ohsheeT]

. I'm here for all the races out there when you come back in life you get to be the color that you hate the most and for all the men that hate women everything that you hate about a certain person that's who you get to become the person who you hated the most what comes around goes around they're finding out that we've had many lives and it usually goes from man next life woman next life man next life woman we get to experience it all so I would hope there would be no haters because whoever you hate you are probably that person at one time

[BetaBucks]

An extremely unattractive girl is treated exactly the same way nearly all guys are treated, socially. The ugly girls are still treated 10x better with legal/institutional interactions. It's not really a hardship.

Having actual mental or physical health problems is way worse.

[blueonblack22]

Well thin girls are going to generally have it easier then thick ones. Skinny girls occasionally get bullied by jealous and loud mouth fat girls. But an experienced/thoughtful women can see through that and know it’s insecurity. But I’ve never met a girl who was so insecure about being skinny she resorted to bullying other women to feel better.

It’s usually BBW women who act nasty both to other men and women. It’s because they are attention starved.

That’s not to say I would ever bully a big girl who is a nice person. No absolutely not. I am usually really nice to them unless they give me a reason not to be. But the nastiest (unprovoked) insults I’ve ever taken in my life were almost always from fat girls.

They are really the least happiest.

[Summeroflove]

There is a secret that many people for some reason don’t know. There are some exceptions to the rule but being attractive is something people choose to be or being presentable at least. Do you exercise? Eat decently? Shower? Brush teeth? Smell nice? Wash your face? Wear makeup for women? Fix your hair and get it cut as well as styled?

People can go from attractive to unattractive in a matter of a couple years or from unattractive to attractive. If they let themselves go or…. glow up

[RavVid]

Unattractiveness is addressible for most women. Weight can be lost. In rare cases girls can be too thin but weight can be put on. It is quite rare for a female to be genuinely ugly in her face - there are 3 tops that I have met IRL.

So I would say all the other things you have mentioned are more significant and several of them will make a women unattractive. Personality can be worked on.

Put as invisibility I'd agree.

[avery58]

No, I don't understand people who think being ugly, average or beautiful is like the biggest curse ever. In fact it's kind of superficial and self centered to think so. Even though I recognize that it does bring some difficult situations sometimes, there are many much worse things like having a health disability.

[Anonymous]

There was a girl I used to work with who was not good looking almost at all. She had a very ugly face. Saggy tits and a big ass. She always used to hit on me and I was having sex with so many woman at this job since the staff was a revolving door.

I figured maybe it's only right that I could make her happy. I figured she had just as much control over how she looked as I did.

And then I felt really bad because when I started hanging out with her I realised how cool she was and how many guys who have worked there who were so hungry for pussy and probably would have been happy dating her. Maybe, that was the first woman I ever couldn't stay hard for. Had to get the pill the next time I saw her.

She was alright though. If we were a little different I probably would have seriously considered her too.

[DishLady]

No... Landing a toxic dbag who scams you out of everything you have is worse... Being homeless and living on the streets is worse... Losing your kids is worse... Being plain old stupid is worse...

"Unattractive" can be fixed with some gloss and a pushup.

[Lionman95]

I would say no it´s probably harder to attract a guy but I would say it´s easier to keep him in comparison to other hardships as long as he´s interested in a relationship.

[ohmyguy]

Only if she feels that way

But as a guy who's physical over all not too bad and largely over looked by most woman being unappealing to the opposite sex is a cruel hardship as hardships go and does take joy and enthusiasm out of going through life

[Byte131]

I think in my opinion, no matter what a girl looks like, whether it's fat or skinny, tall or short, attractive or not, there is going to be someone that is going to notice her. I believe that what is meant for you is not going to pass you by. In life and relationships.

[oppai1]

Honestly maybe it's just me but I see most average or even considered unattractive women as still being pretty or having potential.

[Ladsin2]

Being an unattractive woman is like being a man. They're gonna have to work.

[MicahRaine]

• losing a child
• starvation
• being physically abused
• being homeless
• etc etc etc

[Pohjolan]

Being fat is a choice but being ugly otherwise is still not the worst fate.

Like she could be really ugly and also not have a working brain like some of those damaged by chemicals in the womb

[Nikki1989]

Of course not.

You could have a serious disability or an incurable disease.

[Tomisworthless]

Yeah but youd still have a better chance than you're male counterparts in finding love

[Avicenna]

No, mental and physical health issues would definitely be worse for quality of life

[DrPepper12]

Physical and mental health problems are much more significant than looks as far as a scale of what makes a life.

[msc545]

Physical or mental problems can be far worse.

[paledreams]

I thought endo or other health challenges would be far worse -

[KittygosMeoWW]

No, you can always get work done… health issues, human trafficking, and starvation are some of the worst

[Staximus]

I think having some kind of mental or physical disability that prevents somebody from living a normal life would be worse

[Chthou95]

No lol. An ugly woman can still thrive today in modern society and with the technological advancements of the Internet and dating apps, no woman is invisible. Women have it on easy mode

[clampfan101]

A lot of the time it can be worked on and improved.

[handsomelad70]

I guess, though some unattractive women have handsome partners.

[Anonymous]

Of course not. If a woman truly feels that is her biggest handicap then she lacks self worth and focus too much on outward appearance.

[NathanDavis]

first world privileges...

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, it is not

[DextroShade]

The only thing worse is severe childhood trauma.

[Jennz6]

No, there are worse things

[getpucksin]

No, cancer is probably worse

[Stef12]

No. You could be paralysed.

[Anonymous]

Nope, it is choosing the wrong guys.

[Fireguy17]

nope, not at all.

[jahaims]

Definitely not

[MrGSpotHer]

I'm transparent too

[fuddly]

Probably