How do I find men attractive?

[Anonymous]

I try looking at profiles, talking with them, looking at them, but they are less and less appealing the more I try. Would be cool to be in a relationship but hard to do when they’re repulsive.
Their looks, voice, manners, their cranky nature, hostility, demanding, everything 🤮
I browsed women as well but I feel nothing but I’m not repulsed.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Being that I’m not attracted to men either I ask myself this question too. What I look for is not their face but the picture itself. What’s important to them. Are they fit, how are they dressed, what types of clothing are they wearing, and what are they doing/where the pic was taken? These things say a lot about the person. If they can’t actually get off their ass and stand up and get off their bed to take their profile pic then I know they’re pretty lazy. If they wear something that I would consider gangsta I pass.
Start with this and then talk to them. I think you are what is called Demi sexual. You find them attractive on a personal level. It’s who they are not what they look like. 🙂

[DishLady]

Looking at what you've written... possibly go take another look at the women. What you're feeling towards the men is VALID but also TOO strong. Perhaps there's some unsorted sexuality question you need to examine within yourself a bit more deeply.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@DishLady has a very solid point for you to examine deep down inside !

I also have more food for thought, consider this, browsing people is the opposite of being with people, browsing people is shopping on Amazon, I'm turned off by shopping as well, because it's not engaging, it's boring and bland, shallow to death.

[DishLady]

Ah! Also a good point. Seems like she’s been badly burned, though. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@DishLady totally burned indeed, and while it's never too late to get positive experiences, when we understand where to find them, this is going to be tough to ponder the significance of the bad experiences :/

[DishLady]

True!

[Asker]

Perhaps it’s the environment- not flattering. Burnt oh yes. I do try to associate good situations to cover the bad ones but the guys keep repeat their behavior even though it’s a different guy. I’d have to be insane to continue to try again.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@asker
I'm 100% convinced it is environmental aka internet, unless you want to say that you endure this problem outside internet as well?

[Asker]

Outside of the internet it’s just me and my hard work and bills at $0.00

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Then, as impractical as it is for you, I can only suggest to look in the real world because online dating requires a certain state of mind. Without an optimistic view, which you don't have so far, you probably can't counter the dehumanizing effect of online dating. Which makes things even more worse to look at when your experience is already negative.

[Anonymous]

Not being attracted to a man isn’t the same as being repulsed. It seems that you’re very sexist and you should just never be with anyone. You’re doing men (and women) a favor by not being with anyone. Thank you. Just leave men alone and leave women alone. Just go crawl somewhere and be a hermit

[Asker]

Good thing you gross me out 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Good now go crawl under a rock and get some cats and a one bedroom apartment

[ChicoFromThe305]

Are you by any chance looking in dating apps, cause if so it's known that those places for the most part are filled with people that aren't proper material for relationships.

[Asker]

I am looking yes. Im not social and I don’t have groups of friends. Nor have I ever, as I see no novelty and end up just wanting to go home. So Online seems like a slow way to begin talking to the guys but the jump into such personal things right off the hop. It’s very off putting so I ignore, block or report them based on how they approach me

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I think I know a high value woman when I speak to them, sounds like you know exactly what you want, dating apps are unfortunately full of people trying to find an easy way to get laid, if you are going to continue using dating apps I recommend being more flexible on who you give chances too, and when they speak to you in a way you dont like you have the rights to make it clear that you don't like the way they are treating you.

[Asker]

Indeed! I’m blocked lots for speaking up 🤷‍♀️

[Yannae]

You don't. You have just stated you're repulsed by everything that men do and are. With a mindset like that, I don't see it happen.

[Serkee]

If you really hate men that much and you aren't trolling, which I doubt, I don't think you can.

[Berethor]

You can't, because you are asexual and misandrist, Henry Cavill repulse you? it's insane.

[dudegreat91]

Vast majority of people from either gender are not good looking

[Anonymous]

Ignoring the generalising/misandry stuff, a chemical in your brain decides who you're attracted to. You can't force yourself to be attracted to men. Try women again or you might be asexual. Maybe get some friends and cats if you're asexual

[LiamJHayden]

I adore women, but my primary focus is always personality.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Liar.

We all know its guitars instead.

[Iron_Man]

Are you telling me that you’re bisexual probably? Or even deeper

[CubaPirate]

Maybe you're like me and you've got high standards. But don't even think about lowering them

[Kingofkings1992]

You need therapy. You clearly have some internal issues you need to work on.

[BarryLiverstone]

Do you mean dating profiles on a dating website?