Girls, How to handle an "ex situationship" reaching out again?

[Anonymous]

About 2 month ago, a girl i had gone on a few dates with told me she wanted to just be friends, and I said I wasn't interested in that. Over these past 2 months, I haven't reached out in any way (text, dm, call, etc.). Last night, she texted me asking if I could help her find directions to a restaurant I recommended a while back. I sent back a short reply (as I felt this was an odd reason to reach out for), and she said "I can't wait to see you at some point". Not sure how to proceed with this, as she's spent the last day asking me questions to get a convo going. Any guidance?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is kinda weird that she's reaching back out after saying she just wanted to be friends before. I'd probably just play it cool for now.

A few things I'd do:

- Keep your replies short for now, don't get dragged into a long conversation if you're not sure what she wants

- Don't agree to meet up right away or anything, see what her intentions are first

- You could casually ask what made her change her mind, like "what's up, thought you just wanted to be friends?"

- Watch out for any mixed signals, don't want your feelings getting messed with

- Don't get your hopes up that it'll turn into more than what it was before either

If she gives you a clear reason for talking again and you're open to seeing where it goes, maybe one last casual low-key meetup would be fine. But protect your heart - don't invest until you're sure she knows what she wants this time. Go slow and don't get played! Let me know what happens.

[HollyK21]

You don’t have to respond at all, and I wouldn’t. If it makes you feel rude or guilty then just remember you aren’t obligated to respond to or engage in that sort of conversation. That is of course if you are standing firmly in not wanting to be her friend, she has to respect that boundary.

[Asker]

Fair enough; I really don't want that & I also am happy to respect that she didn't want more originally. I think I'll just hold my ground, thanks! :)

[HollyK21]

I think you handled it very maturely, removing yourself from that friendship so you can move past your romantic feelings. This adjustment can be hard for both parties, I’ve been in her shoes and it sucks to lose a friend. But I also had respect for his boundaries and it would’ve been selfish if I’d still tried engaging with him despite knowing what he’s going through. This is for the better and hopefully one day she’ll understand if she doesn’t already. Also no problem, good luck with this going forward!

[Asker]

That makes me feel more level-headed about it, and I know it's painful for both sides :( . Either way, just gonna approach it in this way, and hope she understands!

[Anonymous]

8 year old girls say situationship, and "reaching out" is a retarded phrase also, banned by Lake Superior State University.

[HollyK21]

My 8 year old niece would never know what a situationship is😂

[Asker]

Lol i hate that this is a thing now, but oh well