Any advice on this situation?

[vcr123]

So I met this girl online and we have been talking for a about a week and a half and everything was going good. She is very invested in the conversation a lot, greets me early in the morning, concerned about my day and I’m in healthcare so she likes to hear about my patient stories. She’s from Texas, studying down here in Florida for grad school in Miami. A couple of days ago she broke to me that she enjoys talking to me but isn’t really looking for that type of thing but still would like to mess around with me. I wasn’t too pressed about it and let her know that I don’t want to rush things instantly. She said she was free this weekend before and we could hang out but she wanted to go out with her girl to a club space after watching the big college football game. I told her to have fun and went out with my boys. She hit me up at around 2 or 3 am asking me to come over and she was tipsy. I came over and we talked for a couple of hours about various things and I was chill, gave me a tour of her place and was asking why my vibe changed after she said she wanted friends with benefits but I assured her I am fine but I noticed she kept inching closer. She couldn’t make eye contact and we ended up doing the deed. She’s small and so I picked her up and I did my thing. We both fell asleep into the middle of the day at her place and she kept holding onto me and cuddling me as we slept till the middle of the day until I had to leave because she had to help a friend with furniture downstairs and she had to study. We had a little bit of communication today but she took the picture of her before going out yesterday and added it to her online profile. Usually women block you or just stop talking to you if things don’t go well from experience or hearing friends experiences and I understand that she’s keeping her options open and so am I but why get to know me and ask about my life and act like this if this is all you really want

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn man, that's a pretty complicated situation. On one hand it seems like this girl is really into you, chatting all the time and getting all intimate right away. She wants to hear about your life and cuddles up to you and everything. But then she hits you with just wanting something casual? That's kinda confusing.

Girls can be hard to figure out sometimes, you know? Like one minute they're all over you and the next they're keeping you at arm's length. My best advice would be just kinda play it cool for now. Keep chatting with her to stay connected, but don't get too ahead of yourself thinking it's gonna be more than what she said. The last thing you want is to catch feelings and get hurt if she's not feeling the same way.

As for updating her profile pic after you guys hooked up, I wouldn't read too much into that either. She probably just wanted a new pic, you know how girls are always changing their pics. I wouldn't worry that she's trying to brush you off or anything.

At the end of the day man, just see where things naturally progress over the next little while. Keep hanging out with her, having fun together, and see if she opens up more about what she really wants. Protect your feelings too by not investing too hard or fast if she really just wants something casual. Go with the flow and play it by ear. Hope this helps give you a little perspective, let me know if you need any other advice!

[vcr123]

Thanks bro it’s just a confusing situation like you said, like she wants something casual but is going back on it when she gets close after the deed and gets mad when I’m dry. But yeah i won’t put my eggs in one basket and I’ll appreciate your opinion

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow dude, that's real messy. Girls can be confusing sometimes, ya know?

Sounds like she likes the attention and physical stuff when it's convenient for her, but doesn't actually wanna commit to anything real. Kinda using you in a way, even if she doesn't realize it.

I'd just be straight up with her. Like "Look, I'm tryna chill too, but you're sending mixed signals. What exactly do you want here?" If she can't give you a clear answer, might be best to take a step back for now.

Don't let her string you along when you could be talking to other bad chicks too! You feel me? Keep your options open.

And don't sweat it too much if you gotta distance yourself. On to the next one, my guy. Plenty more fish and all that. For real though, keep me posted on what she says when you ask her straight. We'll go from there!