Why are good girls doomed to be sad?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Neither my exams nor my work, nothing is going well.

[Kelley1]

It doesn't matter whether they are good girls or bad girls. In the dating world, girls are doomed to be sad and men are not. That is because 100% of girls can and most do date above their league but, outside or rare exception, no guy can date above his league. Guys can marry the best that they can date, Therefore, other than being sad that the girls they want are out of their league and will not date them, guys are not doomed to be sad.

However; since, for sex or the opportunity for sex, all guys date, but will not marry, below their league, girls are doomed to be sad because they believe guys are like them and that they can marry who they can date. Therefore, girls are doomed to be sad because they reject guys that will marry them to chase after the best guys out of their league that will f**k them

[BetaBucks]

I wish more girls understood this... The world would be such a better place. But we get called "misogynist" or "Andrew Tate follower" when we say this, even though we're looking out for the well-being of girls.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

I enjoyed your synopsis here, I’ve never heard it or thought about it like that:

“100% of girls can and most do date above their league but, outside or rare exception, no guy can date above his league. Guys can marry the best that they can date, Therefore, other than being sad that the girls they want are out of their league and will not date them, guys are not doomed to be sad“

But not 100% of women can date above their league, slightly above their physical attractiveness counter parts than yes, but league and a man’s physical attractiveness change with his financial and/or social status, so there is a scale here that is worth mentioning.

Second caveat, anecdotal, lets say a guy is an 8-9, looks good but I for some reason he wants a woman who appreciates him but he thinks they have to be a six no more than a quirky 7. He’s insecure or something mixed with a bit of narcissism or he thought too much about these attraction dynamics and he’s to calculative about it all. He can never be happy either, he’ll get looks and flirted with by more attractive women than those he chooses all of the time. Making them jealous and insecure often as well, happiness is a choice you see.

[Kelley1]

@Oncewildtwiceburned True but would that be an exception?

[GlitteringWorld]

Though I may not know the details of your life, remember that happiness and sadness are just phases we all go through. Nothing is permanent, so stay strong. If you're facing a dark period right now, don't worry—you are gradually but surely moving toward the light.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

Nope, a good man will love the ever loving hell out of you if you really are a good girl. He’ll likely have money already or a good job or both.

I know some young women chasing handsome rich young men, the ones all the women chase. This is the root of their problem. They get used just once or for a few months by him and retreat into depression. If they are patient good things will happen. Maybe shoot for a guy more mature and don’t give it up too soon to test him if the goal is family future and security.

[EnjoytheDay777]

Just don't feel doomed. Tell yourself that there is hope for happiness, because there is, and you deserve it.

[EnjoytheDay777]

Thanks for the MHO

[midnightmoon05]

Sounds like a negative girl.
I have to deal with this with my own teen daughter. She is negative like this sometimes and I have to help her bring out the love and gratitude… takes some time.
sometimes look at your own behavior … the good thing we can change.

[Still-alive]

Just try to take it as a learning experience instead of internalizing it as if you're a failure or something cause that can lead down a bad road believe me on that.

So yeah just try to learn from this experience and try to do better next time.

[Abbycado]

Good advice.

[Maybeyoutoo]

Failure is failure, nothing else

[Still-alive]

@Abbycado Thanks. im sensitive to people feeling like failures i suppose.

[Still-alive]

@Maybeyoutoo i sorta agree but its important to reflect on why you failed and do better the next time. thats a step that can't be skipped.

[Maybeyoutoo]

Maybe it's true

[Maybeyoutoo]

Good girls be like this:
"Ephesians 5:22-33
Wives, be submissive to your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head and Savior of the church, which is His body. But as the church submits to Christ, so also let the wives be to their own husbands in everything."

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Translator

it's like with good guys

because they are too good, people prey on them to exploit their niceness and take advantage. Also being "good" means not daring to do any risky/controversial or slightly illegal stuff, which leaves a portion of opportunities

[Abbycado]

Sorry to hear it. I’m in school too. I just grit my teeth and get down to work.

[katiesmuff]

Well maybe the answer is in what is making everything from going well!

[genericname85]

because women by nature are higher in trait neuroticism. so they're more likely to be depressed.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Yet most who commit suicide are men. Women are just more likely to be addressed if they're depressed.

[genericname85]

@Aiko_E_Lara oh. there's a tiny detail you're missing in the suicide statisitcs. yes men do actually kill themself more often than women. but women try to kill themself more often then men try to kill themself. so that means men are more "successfull" at killing themself than women. actually women are diagnoses with depression twice as often as men are. that could be scewed by men being less likely to seek treatment but yeah. the psychology and the social science is quite clear about this. women are more depressed. men are more likely to do sucessfully something about it. even if that "something" is suicide.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I already knew you were going to say that. Those are attempts and it's thesame as not commiting suicide. You may not know how many men actually made attempts except nobody just knew because the rate is actually 4x higher. That's not even a slight difference. If they are diagnosed with depression, as I've said, "addressed" meaning there could be more men who are actually depressed but not diagnosed because apparently they are "men" and supposed to be "not emotional"

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And the sympathy gap society have for men and women is also huge. There have been a lot of social experiments about when men are the victims, people are way less likely to do anything about it.

[genericname85]

@Aiko_E_Lara the success of a suicide attemt is not the determining factor for the mental state of the person. the fact they tried to end their life is... men are just stronger and more capable of violence even towards themself. so them being more successfull at actually ending their life doesn't mean they're more depressed.

you can't just throw the vail of "dark numbers" over the facts and then just ignore the facts. sympathy doesn't make a person less depressed.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

If you believe that "just because" men commit suicide more than women doesn't make them more depressed than I can easily just say "just because" those studies say women are more depressed doesn't mean they really are. Sure men being more violent is one thing but there are still many more other factors but you're looking at it as if that's the only factor. But we all know that the sympathy gap is real and men's issues are not so addressed. As I've already said, it's not even just a slight difference if violence is the only factor why men succeed more in doing it. You may not know how many attempts men also did make before succeeding.

[genericname85]

@Aiko_E_Lara dude educate yourself. the science is very clear on this. if you wanna follow some nonsensical delusion, go ahead. but successfully finishing a suicide and trying to suicide both means you're fucking depressed and just cause you're too weak to actually kill yourself properly doesn't mean you're happy. as i first stated. women are higher in trait neuroticism. it's a good trait that makes you more sensible for the need of a baby. which is why women evolved like that. this makes women more likely to be depressed. that's a fact. no matter what weird sort of plays on words you try.

[genericname85]

@Aiko_E_Lara by the way, just wanna give you a tip: saying "i already knew you'd say that" makes you sound stupid. cause if you had actually known, you could have articulated yourself in a way that would have invalidated the argument to begin with. saying it like this makes you just seem like you're tryng hard to sound smart. only people who aren't smart need to try hard to sound smart.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Social science is also very clear on who society behave towards men. If you're educated yourself then you should know that too. You're just saying "science said so" and think that automatically makes you right. So if I use your logic, just because they have higher in trait of neuroticism, doesn't mean they're more depressed as what contributes to depression is also environmental factors. And what I said is also a fact whether you like it or not.

And if it does makes me sound stupid, consider what I said too much for your small brain to process. I guess anyone pointing out how predictable and cliche you are just breaks your ego.

[thearchjoker]

I know many good girls who are happy, being good is not what should make you said instead i recommend you focus on what you find to be important for you and it will help guid you to hippieness.

[DrPepper12]

Ok pity party is OVER. You're too young to be this jaded.

Unconventional thought: If good girls are doomed to be sad maybe you should try being a bad girl?

[red-lipstick-girl]

No, I have character, I can't be a bad girl

[DrPepper12]

Well you can still take yourself outside your comfort zone and not betray your values!

[bobalife]

We aren’t doom to be sad, not sure what happened. But just remember we can change things by our mindset, lense, choices, and actions. It’s tough now, but it’s temporary :)

[ChicoFromThe305]

I wouldn't say all that, have you been studying cause usually that's the cause of failed exams, I can say from experience 💀

[red-lipstick-girl]

I work very hard but I don't get anything in return, exams are very difficult in Turkey, there are difficulties.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Do you get good rest before the exams? Cause that could be another reason, either ways don't be sad, at some point you'll ace it, just keep studying and rest well.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Sorry you are sad, I got some bad news from a friend, and I'm down in the dumps over her.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think this just happens to good girls to be sad sorry :(

[red-lipstick-girl]

You're really good, I think you're right

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thank you @red-lipstick-girl

[noohair]

Just because you feel doomed, it does not mean that all girls are doomed. And why do you think that you are good and that is the problem?

[Summeroflove]

Bad girls live a life of regret.

[red-lipstick-girl]

I think so too

[Summeroflove]

A lot of people have fun while their young but they forever reap the consequences. People who are more responsible have it harder at first but they usually win in the end.

Kinda like “nice guys” finish last but at the same time slow and steady wins the race. Because many times they end up with a decent girl at the end while the bad boys, players, etc marry the first slut they knock up and it never ends well.

Yeah there’s disingenuous nice guys who think they’re entitled to sex but that’s another story

[Summeroflove]

Just because someone looks like they’re ahead right now,… it catches up to them later

[Viking_Girl19]

This world is very cruel. Kindness is perceived as weakness...

[Anonymous]

Because they're probably a headcase. Life isn't perfect. If it was you wouldn't be human you'd be a gameshow host.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

May be it's the chemicals in that red lipstick perhaps?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Because I don't hang out with boys, I take care of my family, I do my homework for my siblings, I don't drink, I don't go to clubs.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Neither do I but how does it make you sad and why?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

That's all an illusion if you think hanging out with boys and drinking would make you happy it is also temporary

[red-lipstick-girl]

Because I work hard but I don't get paid for my efforts. Girls who never work are always happy, but I have a problematic life.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

You might think that now, I mean people who are supporting family aren't appreciated much initially I do agree with that but they are still family and they will take care of you.

As of now you are seeing only your problems but if you see how your parents are putting efforts to raise you all and provide shelter and food you will also come to know their struggle.

And everybody has problems it only matters how you choose to deal with them.

That's all in the human experience.
You think problems today are big in future you will laugh at these problems that you were worried about these things.

Then you will face bigger problems and will also over come those that's how the life is.

Value every experience and choose to be happy do things which can make you happy.

If you place happiness in hands of other people/boys you will be more disappointed.

May I know what problems are you facing that's very problematic?

[red-lipstick-girl]

I think I really liked what you wrote. Yes, I should be sad sometimes, but I have to endure it, thank you. 💋💋

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Because they're not good girls just like what you think nice guys are.

[Pohjolan]

That's not something caused by being a good girl.

[Alexandria84]

Cause tend to get step on. Nice people in general. Got learn to be a itch.

[Jmmmfi4]

I DON'T SEE HOW THEY CAN BE SINCE ALL THEY CARE ABOUT IS THEMSELVES

[Makeushiver]

Well at least you have a gorgeous smile

[SunnyGirly]

I don't know but I be good and it sucks :(

[RedInnocent69]

That depends. What makes you happy?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Dont be sad you have too much to be happy for

[jennyPuss]

What makes you good?

[CVNT5]

ill make u happy💕