Good girls, nice girls, nice guys, etc. finish last because they are too busy thinking about trying to please the other person instead of trying to please themselves. I've been called a nice girl but I sure am not going to wait around until the guys in my age group are done having fun, so maybe, just maybe one of them will decide he wants to choose me to settle down one day. I'm living my 20s the way I want to and doing what suits me. You have to change how you define "Winning" and "Losing".
If you do not want to sleep around, then you are not losing because you aren't being selected by guys who want girls who sleep around. If you have self respect and you're picky about who you give your body to, why would you want a guy like that? Those girls aren't being treated the way a girl like you most likely expects to be treated. They get relationships that last a little while, from guys who like them a little, then they get dumped and it's on to the next.
Date guys you have things in common with, go out on dates but don't feel you have to do anything you don't want to do. What I do is just meet different guys, go out on dates and keep a few guys on my team for dates and going out and spend the rest of my time with friends, family or work or school. I'm not letting a guy who just wants sex be the main point of my life. I get what I want from them (attention, dates, affection, etc.) and then bounce. It's the way of the world, you can sit around watching guys play girls or you can take control of your life and get what you want too.
There are a lot of guys. All this stuff is silly. Look if you genuinely like a person for they are its hard to find & even harder to get- if you just want to get guy well big freaking deal there are lots of guys, It isn't easy for anyone to get what they want, everyone has to work for it one way or the other,m now or later.
Its cowardly to blame your problems on someone eles behavior if a guy doesn't like you it isn't necessarily sex, If you know who you are what's important to you, you'll find someone who gets with you- if you want it, doesn't mean it happens right away. If you just want to f*** around with any guy- well than you're just f***ing around. Might as well f***. BUT w/e you do stop complaining, swear more & more of these posts on gag, make girls look absolutely pathetic- its embarrassing.
do you really want the guy that will sleep with anyone? those aren't the good guys...
I for one do not want a guy that will jump into bed with anyone who offers
Hmmmm Your young! Look at girls who have been turned out... Sex is not all that... Love is! Before you give in! Don't give up.. If you are around a group who behaves like that change your freinds. If you look for good guys you will not find them in that click. If you want marridge its not about being had by a guy. It's about enjoying someone who takes your breath away. In otherwards you only live once. Your young and if you give yourself to one of them you will be no good for marridge. Be infactuated first then look for compadibilty. I've been infactuated by many cute girls but I seek compadibilty. See lifes short, they know it to. That's why they give them selfs up like that. But those types of girls end up in tears. I've met so many women who because they where like them ended up old and in tears. And full of hate. Before you give in think about your future. Your body will become old. If no one will want you if you are like them if you disagree then you will be like them in the future. If you can wait then you have a chance, If you can't look for a older man. A younger man dosn't want to settle down. They are as clueless as you. The chance for a sucessfull marridge incresses with age. Because as you are they are...
Good sir, you deserve a medal.
What is friends? And do consider what is.. Comfort can come from many places from the pit of, to the glory from. Comfort isn't what is. Reality is what is. In the end is, what was. Find what takes your breath away because I will tell you straight. It's not what Any of us say what is, in the end it's what you say is, that is and causes you to say...
I'm not quite sure I understand your question, guys only want to sleep with sluts, but they could care less about her, guys care about as you put it "good girls", those are the kind of girls we actually want to be in a relationship with. What confuses me is that "good girls are expected to wait until the guy is ready to settle down", that I can tell you is not true, we don't want to wait until we "settle down", but we do want to wait until a bit into the relationship, because if you sleep with a guy really early he will think you are a slut, basically what I'm saying is, just wait until you've dated the guy a bit first, but you don't have to "settle down"
No I meant they sleep around with girls and then expect the "good girls" that are I guess relationship material to understand that they were just young and having fun and that's why they never gave them the time of day
Well, I can't say that isn't true, when your young life is all about fun, its about sex, booze, and other fun things *wink wink*, typically young guys arn't looking to settle down, have a relationship, have someone depend on them, etc... its not all guys though, I really want a relationship, not just for sex, but for the girl herself, but some guys are just young and reckless, and need to mature, there's no real answer other than, some guys are caught in the teens and twenties fun mode, and arn't
looking for good girls, sad to say, but they're looking for bad girls who will satisfy their needs, and once their done with them, it doesn't matter, because after all, "she was just a slut"
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people sleep around typically because they are insecure and are seeking affection. If you do not agree with their way of life you don't have to follow it, you should wait for the right guy, definitley don't rush into things that make you uncomfortable. pretty much all guys are jerks that only want a girl for sex, primarily because now they are told its OK to do so and life is so short so they want all the PLEASURE they can get
blunt answer ... good girls don't put out ... bad girls do... but the good news is good girls don't have to have sex with the donkey to know that doing donkey shows for a living is a bad idea ... they tend to have imagination and intelligence, not only can these girls expirence the most mind boggling orgasismz ever seen because of these traits but more often than not they do end up with truly amazing guys in the end :)
Good girls have the same conundrum as good guys- seemingly they are in a zone where nobody wants em (at that stage in their lives).. but it's all perception here. It's not anything other than perception, fear, and frustration... In the end, the good girls, just as the good guys, will win it all. Long life, real love, happiness, etc... Compared to the 'bad guys/bad girls'... You are on the right path. Hate to sound cliched, but you are on the right track...
Because the "good girls" want the guys who wants the "bad girls". While "nice guys" want the girls who want the "bad boys".
However, I am a perfect exception to this rule, and I know why they lose. Because the "good girls" would want THAT SPECIFIC GUY to win the game with. If anyone else would approach them, those are rejected, and yet these girls still weep to their "friend zoned guyfriends" about how horrible it is to be alone and lonely and single (even the one they rejected!). So none of these girls are worth the time of consolation, they should just accept those who appreciate them instead of those who don't even notice them. :)
well, its hard to place an exact answer, but it works for guys that way too. nice guys (and girls) finish last. sometimes its related to confidence, but there is such a thing as being too nice. if you are too nice you don't present a "challenge" for your partner. with that being said the relationship gets boring or doesn't even start.
as for the girls that sleep around getting the guy, that's pretty true because its just in our programming. guys (on average) think about sex once a minute...and from personal experience, I'm a virgin and still think about sex, so that sorta proves that its just built into our brains
Somebody give this man a PhD in evolutionary biology. In a sentient species that reproduces sexually, the individuals of that species are programed to desire sex. Genius!
I think about sex a lot- A LOT. & I don't particularly want to have it. & Actually studies done show that women think about sex a lot more than is thought and guys not as much. It seems it evens out ultimately.
Most of that 'stuff ' (crap) abut the the indisputable differences between men & women, is just to keep who ever wrote -Men from mars Women from venus, Tarzan & Jane in 2010, How to catch a man, How to keep a husband , How to get the girl, How to spot a future wife- in money I think.
What the hell, guys don't think about sex once a minute. I most certainly don't. I mean, why would I? I have better things to worry about.
well look it up and tell me I'm wrong :D another thing, every person around you is different, nothing will be completely the same for everyone. and one last thing, you also think about it subconciously, meaning your thinging about it but not realizing it, sorta like your heart beating. you don't tell it to beat every time it does, it just does.
The girls that sleep around do not get the good guys, at least they are not able to keep them. Having sex too soon means no long lasting meaning full relationship is possible. We know that as soon as it happens, but does not mean we won't stick around for a while or until we are ready for a long lasting meaning full relationship. No sex for too long means he goes elsewhere to get it. Too soon, too long, its a fine line and every mans line is different.
Lots of women are lousy at sex. The more sex a woman has the better she is at doing it. Women with enthusiasm are much better. You may not like the idea of practicing to get better at having sex. But that's irrelevant, because you will practice, and you will get better. Some women have 5 men in their life and some have 500, and every one was the one man who would last forever. Women can't escape that feeling, it's coded into the X chromosome, with 2 copies to make sure there's no mistakes.
I am talking to a good girl now :p I don't get your point haha.
it's not about "good girl". it's about which vibe you send out.
are you shy and not talkative and look down most of the time? then I would have it hard to approach u.
are you open, look up in peoples eyes and smile near em then I would at least try (not in school tho, I'm shy at school).
how many men have you turned down? things might have worked with one of them. how many men have you asked out? things might have worked with one of them.
Good point lol but I mean I've seen so many nice girls, good girls who have their morals and values and they always come second to girls who will sleep with a guy on the first night
Most guys don't want to date someone who won't have sex until marriage. deal with it.
well I'm not going to lie to you, my first love was very nice, extremely nice. she always wanted the best out of me and I gave it to her, we werent even dating. when she hinted to quit smoking I said OK, we both had the general consensus that we would date if I could prove to her that what she meant to me.
i quit smoking for a month straight cold turkey, and every day sucked but I kept going because I loved her...then came day thirty. I talked to her and we went out to dinner and I asked her if she wanted to date me and she said she wasn't ready...my brain sorta short circuited...whaaaat? after arguing for a couple days she said "it was a nice gesture but I never ASKED you to quit smoking" I was so mad I just stopped talking to her.
then about a month later she talked to me again, as if nothing ever happened. then she posted a picture on my facebook of a little newspaper skit that shows a cigarette blowing up in someones face (the ad was to get people to quit smoking).
sometimes the story is complicated like mine is, but I'm sorry, if that was a nice girl than I don't want anything to do with them haha
Inspiring story. That girl loves playing with people's minds. She deserves suffering.
She was a player. You should have never asked her will you. You should of realized with her she had a game. It wasn't about you. She was shopping! I recently found out their is 3 types of girls a player/wants to experiment a girl who is willing to do anything for security and a Australian chick wow they are what you say you look for!.. Anything but a crazy spoiled American female!
Well the definition of a "good girl" to me is one who won't have sex until married, doesn't give fellatio without a condom, doesn't watch the Family Guy nor find any of the content funny, and won't have anal sex in the shower... yeah, those are legitament reasons to stay away from them.
Same reasons the good guys always lose.
Girls always aim for the "hot guy" yet complain about the guy being a jerk and treating them badly.
Guys always go for the hot girl because guys are visual,guys go for looks not personality.Guys will always ignore the "good girls"
Just how life works.
Well its messed up if you ask me, its like guys want to sleep around and have their fun but when they're ready to marry then they choose the good girls? They can't be expected to sit ansd wait and frankly its insulting to be second choice
Define "hot girl". Attractiveness is not the same to girls and not the same to guys. Girls are grown up in a world that provides them with a perfectly warped "ideal" image on feminine beauty.
QA, and what do you propose, saying you yourself would not be willing to sleep with the guys who would want to sleep with you, as you yourself are limited by the boundaries of your religion's rules (that you were forced to believe instead of choosing it for yourself on your own)?
I'm not limited by any of my religions rules, I don't even go to church, I'm just saying that the girls that choose to wait for sex to actually mean something never get the guy and girls who will sleep with anyone always do
Who said the good girl isn't hot? And if you hot... That means you a slut?
You're a moron if you really think that's how it is. Guys will only go for sluts after getting led on, stood up, and rejected by prudes like you.
wow. someone sounds bitter.
I agree with everything except the prudes part. I would have said shallow quick to judge b*tches.
The simple fact is THEY DONT.
A guy will simply use them to gratify himself and then ditch her the moment anyone decent comes a long
Bull shit! Plenty of men wife up the bad girl. See it alllll the time. Most of the bad girls I know are in relationships, meanwhile the ones with morals are alone and single more often then not. Hoes stay winning. That's just how it is now.
I feel the same way.
I'm waiting around for an actual good guy.
Girls call me a genuine guy. Good, well I know when to step up to the plate and protect my own.It's OK if you say I'm good to you but we live on earth and being around men who girls call good well... After you end up messed up I would say to you, if anyone who thinks good is all that I say genuine is better. .
I would settle for good at this point. Genuine is just pushing it.
Because genuine guys don't exist. They're like unicorns.
Lmao.
Ok you must be way out there. Well some on this site are still innocent still and don't talk like that. Only in America do I get such trashy responses about my comments.Unicorns as history has shown are very real. Alexander said they where innocent. It's recorded as fact all across the earth in they where real. Basically being at one with a girl for me only happens in anther country. You are a American I don't expect you to understand anything but your American life. You don't make life real!
Okay? I still stand by my original post. I don't know how this conversation deviated to america being trashy.
Some girls talk and we become friends because we are one about what I say, girls like you who talk like that miss out. Lmoa only tells me you have no intellectual response to my reality because you have convinced yourself your hot so you are a know it all because guys are all over you... You are for sure a American female! They always respond the same. Stuck up and trashy like your body under your clothes makes reality real for all...
I don't know if you're delusional or what buddy. But you have mistaken by passiveness for arrogance and that was not my intention in the least. I simply said that there are no good guys out there, so why would I even hope to find a genuine guy? A genuine guy would be better than a good guy. I don't know how this turned into a blatant attack on me. I never said I was hot sh*t. I never said I have guys all over me. Clearly that isn't the case since I'm single and not exactly loving that fact.
why wait when you can be proactive?
gopro- Just a misunderstanding I guess. Lmao = laughing my ass off. Not laymo, or whatever you said.
foolycooly1001- I am proactive.
Good girls go to heaven, bad girls just have more fun...
Because everything men say they don't like, turns out to be what they love and what captivates them and gets them. So that means, sluts, girls with all the make up and high maintenance. The more money he has, the more this is true.
You're probably just extremely unattractive. I suggest cosmetic surgery, otherwise, you'll be alone forever. ]':
I'm guessing your one of those girls who sleeps around? Sweetie your gonna be alone forever if you don't let go of that anger inside. :)
BAWWW... Would you like some cheese with that whine?
That didn't even make any sense, but good try. God sees you struggle.
People eat cheese with wine. Wine and whine are homophones. You are whining on the internet about how you can't get a guy to look at you. It was a pun, you idiot. Are you really that stupid? Although, I shouldn't even ask that. You mentioned God out of nowhere. Fucking moron.
No need to get all mean on her... really uncalled for.
Nice girls just need to find nice guys, and give us a chance. Getting all bitter and synical about it doesn't do you either one of you any good. :-)
No, it is called for, actually. You want to know why guys don't like you, sunshine? It's because you're an asinine little twit with a holier than thou complex, and you don't even have the self-awareness to realize it. In fact, it's not just guys that don't like you. I'm willing to bet nobody, except other asinine little twits with holier than thou complexes, can stand you.
But someday you’ll meet a guy who’s just as asinine as you are, and you'll get married, and you'll raise a bunch of asinine little kids, and then you’ll get old and die. You won’t contribute anything to the intellectual community; you won’t do much of anything with your life; you won’t even know what you are. You won’t change, and you won’t grow. Thinking everyone else is the problem, you have no personal responsibility. You’re not “good” at all. People like you make me sick.
Honestly nothing that you said bothers me because I know myself. What I want to know is why your so angry? Your comment was really mean, not that it bothers me because I know I'm not ugly but why post that for no reason. Also my reference to God was not out of nowhere, if you followed the conversation you would see I said you would be alone forever if you didn't let go of that anger, hence...God sees your struggle.
I kinda like you maybeTransparent:)
Surgery does not fix a "repulsive" personality.. That is a bad advice. However, your statements hold great truth, I admire that.
hmmm... Look if my chick got surgery i,d not think of as unattractive. Surgery removes some of the best you have you don't notice. Look at micheal Jackson. I'd bet some of his fans would of wished they could see him normal at a old age. If you think that's repulsive well if you touch your face and I liked it I'd remove that sh*t! And make you do it I'd dominate you and enjoy it! I'd have my dream girl back!
one answer, because life never works out the way you want it to.
every girl is kind in certain aspect,i don't know which kind do you mean on earth.
Men think with the wrong head, sorry :(
For the same reasons good guys always lose.
same reason why nice guys finish last
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