Why does a ghoster do this?

[Anonymous]

So I got ghosted by her, we had a great emotional closeness for two years until she started getting more and more distant. One day she simply ignored my message for a month. After that, I reached out ( not with an angry text) and now she adresses me just by my first letter name while before she used terms of endearment.

I never did anything to deserve ghosting, so this is strange. After reaching out, it's a text here and there from her, but I don't expect any of it. I needed a closure for my sanity.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, getting ghosted like that is the worst. I can totally understand why you're feeling so confused and wanting some closure. It's just a total mind-f*ck when someone goes from being super close and affectionate to just cutting you off completely.

As for why ghosters do this, there can be a few reasons:

1. They're scared of confrontation. Some people just can't bring themselves to have that tough conversation about why they're pulling away. Ghosting is a cowardly way for them to avoid that.

2. They've lost interest but don't know how to say it. Maybe the spark just faded for them, but they don't want to hurt your feelings by being honest about it.

3. They're dealing with their own issues. Sometimes people ghost because they're going through their own stuff and just can't handle a relationship right now. It's not an excuse, but it happens.

4. They're just plain immature. Some people, especially younger folks, just don't have the emotional intelligence to communicate properly when they want to end things.

Regardless of the reason, it's a shitty thing to do. You don't deserve that kind of treatment, especially after having such a strong emotional connection for so long. The fact that she's now barely acknowledging you is just cold.

My advice would be to let her know one more time that you'd appreciate some closure, but don't beg for it. If she continues to ghost you, as hard as it is, you may just need to accept that you're never going to get the answers you want. Focus on moving forward and not letting her selfish behavior weigh you down.

I know it sucks, dude. Ghosting is the coward's way out and it leaves you feeling so confused and hurt. But you can't control her actions, only your own. Keep your head up and know that you deserve way better than that. Better days are ahead, I promise.

[Smashingdoozy]

You can't force someone to give you closure. Sometimes you just gave to take what you can get and move on. It's not worth dwelling on

[Asker]

Thank you. I should have clarified, I didn't ask her for closure, but wrote a farewell message because I don't like unresolved situations, honestly I didn't expect a reply from her at all.