Friend that is always rude?

[Zeycannnn]

I dont know how to put it but my friend which we are close for a couple of months now for example she said she cried a lot today and i asked her what happened and she said she dont wanna tell anyone anything anymore which i understand but she kept sending me videos from insta related toher sadness so i asked further bcs why she keep sending me how upset she is if she won't tell she says she won't tell and basically acts angry to me like its my fault

Not only that in normal times as well when i say something she like comes off usually for example she says something and for some reason i usually dont understand what she says ıdk if its about how i think a lot in my mind and i am unfocused but then she doesent repeat it again or comes to what i say in a way and she does it really often

I don't know if im dramatising or am i right like why would she say she is crying so sad and send videos but never tell like she obviously want me to ask since she is talking a little sending videos but then when i ask no i won't tell anyone anything anymore

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that sounds like a really frustrating situation with your friend. It's tough when someone is being kind of rude and closed off like that, especially when you're just trying to be a supportive friend.

I can see why you're confused - on one hand, she's putting out these signals that she's really upset about something, but then she immediately shuts down when you try to actually help or get more information. That back and forth can be really draining.

The way she's getting angry at you when you ask for more details is definitely not cool. It's not your fault that she's feeling sad, and you shouldn't be made to feel like the bad guy for trying to be there for her.

My advice would be to try to have an open and honest conversation with her when she's not in the middle of an emotional moment. Let her know that you care about her and want to be there for her, but the way she's been acting is really confusing and hurtful. See if you can get to the bottom of why she's being so cryptic and short with you.

She might just be going through something really personal that she's not ready to share. But the least she could do is communicate that in a respectful way, rather than lashing out. If she continues to act this way, you may need to set some boundaries for your own mental health.

At the end of the day, you can't force someone to open up if they're not ready. But you also don't deserve to be treated poorly just for trying to be a good friend. Have that tough conversation, and if things don't improve, you may need to re-evaluate whether this friendship is worth the constant stress.

I know it's a tricky situation, but try not to take it all on yourself. You're doing the best you can, and your feelings matter too. Hang in there, luv,

[Flower7]

Annoying for her to not just say what the problem is instead of randomly complaining.