Why do some girls put up more walls the more emotional you make them feel?

[overlord337645]

this girl in my life seemed to like me when we met but as i tried to get closer she began avoiding me and putting up walls until finally she puts up walls and her best freinds are like guards meanwhile she looks at me from time to time like she has something to tell me or feels bad

[HollyK21]

“This girl in my life seemed to like me”, so you could’ve been, and seemingly were, wrong. She’s not putting up walls she just isn’t interested in getting closer to you, and you’re in denial about that.


Her friends are like guards because you aren’t getting the hint. You keep trying to make moves and fuel the fire based off the fact that she acknowledges your existence from time to time, aka “catching her looking”. She is probably kind and soft spoken so she has a hard time rejecting you formally, so her friends help keep her boundaries in place. They literally act like a wall between you two since you won’t back off.


You are a human who keeps trying to talk to her, she’s fully aware of your presence and sees you, why make more of it than that? Especially when you give her so much attention that you are bound to catch her look at you at some point? You have been pretty oblivious to the clear signs of “no thanks”.

[overlord337645]

ig that makes sense although its kinda hard to catch any signs of back off if she just sits there silently for 4 months and shows all her freinds the things i do or say to her

[HollyK21]

That’s why I say that if she’s shy or soft spoken then you may not get such an outward reaction from her, so her friends step in and act as a wall since she can’t do it.

I’ve known women like this in my past and I’d genuinely advise you steer clear of her anyway. Why? Because she doesn’t know how to use her voice and gets her friends way too involved in her business. As of right now you are most likely a topic of gossip when you’re around her and her friends. They treat you like the creepy guy who won’t leave their friend alone when really all she has to do is be a grown woman and turn you down politely. Instead it’s turned into a fiasco and if I were you I wouldn’t want to fuel it anymore.

Clearly you were mistaken about the mutual interest and that is totally fine, it happens. Just don’t give her or her friends anymore attention from here on out. It’s not worth those weird vibes.

[Nikki1989]

If a woman is pulling away, respect her need for space. Pushing too hard will likely only make her feel more uncomfortable.