I hate myself. I can't stand being me?

[Anonymous]

was severely mentally emotional physically abused as a kid. it affected me to the degree that I've never amounted to anything in life at all. my life is nothing. I am nothing, have nothing an no one, and do nothing. I struggle to accept this, but I struggle to accept me, I don't know how to heal, how to love me, or change, or move forward. my life is just shame, pain, fear, sadness depression, anxiety, longings. I barely hold on everyday.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I'm so sorry you've been through all that. The abuse and trauma you experienced as a kid sounds absolutely brutal, and I can only imagine how much that has impacted your life and made it so hard for you to accept and love yourself. That kind of pain and damage doesn't just go away, I get that.

But bro, you can't keep letting the past define you or keep you trapped. I know it feels like there's no hope and that you'll never be able to change or move forward, but that's not true. You're still here, you're still fighting, and that means there's a chance for you to heal and become the person you want to be.

The first step is being willing to open up and talk about this stuff, which you're doing now. That's huge. Reaching out for help and support, even if it's just to a random internet stranger like me, is a really brave and important thing.

I know the idea of loving and accepting yourself feels impossible right now, but you've gotta start somewhere. Maybe it's just little things at first - appreciating one positive quality about yourself, or celebrating a small accomplishment, no matter how insignificant it may seem. Build up from there.

And don't be afraid to seek professional help, whether it's a counselor, therapist, or support group. Having someone in your corner who can guide you through this process and give you the tools to work through the trauma can make a huge difference.

It's not gonna be easy, I won't lie. Healing takes time and a lot of hard work. But I truly believe you have the strength in you to do it, bro. You've survived this much already - you're tougher than you know.

Stay strong, stay hopeful, and keep pushing forward, one small step at a time. You deserve so much more than the hand you've been dealt. I believe in you, man. You got this.

[Asker]

I'm female. thank you for taking the time to say that, it means a lot.

[avery58]

Have you tried therapy?

[Asker]

I'm bio female. I've considered it, prob will, ty

[squadrista]

It's sad to hear that

[Asker]

thank you

[Anonymous]

Same. May the lord be with us

[Asker]

didn't think anyone would be mentioning the Lord to me. it helps, ty. I do know he's the answer, and he's healed me a lot, I'm just a very damaged person, still in need of more faith an healing. just someone really down tonight. I do have that relationship with Christ, I know its the answer, I just struggle with myself, my situation. I'm not male, I'm bio female, thanks, may he be with you too.

[Opinion Owner]

What are u exactly going through with?

[Asker]

was severe narcissist abuse, it destroys the mind. I never was able to live a normal life like adults do. it just hurts, I go through every emotion there is. hurts to know the life I've missed, hurts to be seen as a loser, hurts to feel ill never change my mind, my life, I just hurt bad. I do have Christ, I'd be insane without him, I just struggle bad still.