I personally wouldn’t. If a restroom was available I’d use that. I always believed women did that on purpose when having a child. Even if it is to feed offspring it is in my view a sort of genital/sensitive area. It’s certainly not a harsh area as it’s for infants and it gets some attention with intimate partners 🤷♀️.
This was my thinking as a young kid and I never really changed my mind about it. Seems attention seeking and avoidable if it really mattered to the parent. Now being older and more aware of infant needs and behavior, I’d say it should at least be legal, but I still don’t think it’s right. I think it’d be even better to have designated areas for this sort of thing. I just don’t think other kids should have to deal with seeing a lady’s boob out. It was traumatic for me and I’m a female myself. 🤷♀️
I suppose that’s just my view though. I swear I’d do my absolute best to do it within private areas. I can be the kind of mother who knows the timing of her baby’s feeding and diaper routine/ bowel movements.
Funny story, I used to manage a children's museum where if there was anywhere on earth, openly breastfeeding should be okay, it was there. I used to emphasize this in our staff meetings, with our male staff in particular who being young, they were a bit uncomfortable, but I made sure to repeat, repeat, repeat, women can breastfeed anywhere as per the law, and of course, as per our facility.
So of course, I get a call from a male staffer at our Info booth, that he has a woman at the front desk who wants to know if she can breastfeed. I told him to shut up immediately (he was a funny guy, but often said stuff without thinking). I told him, I was coming, don't say a word. I ran down 3 flights of stairs and hurdled myself down the corridor to the front desk, and I'm like (deep gasping breath), hello ma'am, what was your (gasp) question? I then tell her in the most PR, we don't want to end up on the 5 o'clock news for telling a woman she can't breastfeed in a building with children in the name, voice possible, oh yes, yes, anywhere here. We are a children's museum after all (fake laugh).
Breasts in this instance are not about men, and men's pleasure. They serve a purpose to feed a hungry child. I'm also the child of a lactation consultant, so I know the benefits of breastfeeding first hand having often visited my mom as a kid at work, and it being so incredibly beautiful and natural. Obviously, if a person can't handle it, THEY need to get up and leave, and not confront any woman feeding her child, so of course, I would.
There was a news report in my area last year of a young male lifeguard in a public pool who refused to let a woman breastfeed. He actually told her “cover up that’s disgusting” the city got into massive trouble over that because she made a complaint to a human rights group.
honestly i can see both sides here so all i am gonna say is this if your gonna breastfeed in public at least please cover yourself its not to be a rude jerk but not everyone wants to see that and there are some places you can't just get up and leave a good example would be a hospital waiting room or an airplane. id also like to adress one other thing yes it should be allowed anywhere babies get hungry who dosent and there are cases where women have probably sued the city for not being allowed to so i will say its not about being allowed to its about how you do whats allowed just like with anything right you are welcome to own a sports car if you wanna race race it on a track not in the street for women if you need to breastfeed by all means do just mabie be considerate of the fact that others may feel diffrently, that and some guys are just perverts and wouldent mind at all for the soul sake of a view at least for me i dont think id enjoy that idea in my head.
I do. It should be. My fellow Lab partner delivered twins and shortly thereafter came back to work. She was pumping and did not want me to leave the office. I knew that if I stayed we would catch flack so I voluntarily left. She kept a dorm frig in the office and told me I had access if I needed coffee creamer. She decided shortly therafter that she wanted to be home with the twins and resigned. Years later she came in to be with me when I was crashing from being removed from a morphine pump. I am a serotonin driven individual and could not stop crying. I regained my sanity in about 2 hours. I thank her to this day.
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What a difference a few months makes. I notice a lot of positive comments from men, along with a few that aren't. The last time this subject came up and I replied that I fed my babies wherever we were when they needed to eat, I got blasted by numerous guys, some in a very foul way. I would say any guy who doesn't understand that it is the normal, God-designed way to feed a human baby... that guy probably needs to hold off on fatherhood until he is ready to allow what is best for his child, not to mention its mother. When a woman doesn't feed her baby often enough, she can have some very painful and unhealthy consequences, along with a hungry, screaming little one. I like the comment that if someone doesn't like it, they should leave.
Breastfed mine out and about. I wouldn't just get my boobs out. There is tops you can buy. Or just lifting your top. The babies head covers the breast from view. It's not that exposed.
I didn't mind people noticing. It's natural and beautiful.
I believe I would. I'm yet to have children. I've always viewd breastfeeding as natural, and I understand that it was viewed more as communal long before it became "improper" to do it in public. I'll see mothers feeding their babies in public from time to time and will always smile and just keep walking.
“Improper” what’s improper about feeding a baby. People in the Victorian era always wanted to sexualize and project shame.
I didn't say there's anything improper. What I should have clarified in my comment is that it's viewed by some to be improper in public. Women, particularly in the western world, will get harassed for breastfeeding in public, even while covered. Some even lose their entire shit if they see someone feed uncovered
I understand I’m not saying that you hold that opinion
You can also get robbed even if you lock your house but it doesn't mean you shouldn't just lock your house. It's a matter of reducing the odds.
If there was empty chairs in the lounge…. Do you think she just randomly sat next to you? Did she smile back? Did she talk to you?
I’m just saying most women don’t sit by men unintentionally especially not to breastfeed on average. Unless you had the only empty seat in there. Chances are she just thought you were hot
Wtf, these women think they can do whatever they want when they become mothers. Why the f... didn't she go in the toilet to breast feed her kid. And then I can't even look because it would be staring or something. So I have to sit there and control myself because of her. It is like putting a juicy bone in front of a dog but he is not allowed to eat it.
@foxsquirrell
Admitting you’re a dog is the first step. 👍
@SofaKingsMart wtf?
@Crimsyjo Listen buddy, I'm not going to have my dinner in the toilet ok? what the hell does my dinner got to do with breast feeding? I don't care if the baby needs to eat. He goes to eat away from the public eye ok. We are not in a jungle. What are you gonna advocate next, that you have the right to make love in a restaurant because no one has the right to keep you from making love and expressing your emotions?
If you're going to take your boobs out to breast feed your baby like an animal go hide somewhere.
@foxsquirrell
“It is like putting a juicy bone in front of a dog but he is not allowed to eat it.”
You liken yourself to a dog who is grumpy because he has to control his dog like behavior.
For example, “and then I can't even look because it would be staring or something. So I have to sit there and control myself because of her.”
LMAO
And I bet you actually believe you are justified. You think there is nothing wrong with demanding some people eat their meals in the bathroom, while at the same time being offended that someone might suggest you do the same.
You know what that’s called, right?
Hypocrisy.
@SofaKingsMart he's not worth the argument. He considers adults choosing to have sex as the sane need requirement as giving a baby life giving nutrients lol
Nobody can win an argument against a dumbass who is so small minded.
@SofaKingsMart I don't think it is hypocrisy even if what you think was right. I mentioned a dog to make to make a point and explain something in simple terms. Even though we are not dogs, but instincts common throughout the animal kingdom ok madam. And while technically breast feeding is a meal for a baby, it is quite different than having a meal on a plate on a table with utensils ok madam. So please be intelligent and don't talk with your emotions.
@foxsquirrell
“So please be intelligent and don't talk with your emotions.”
LMAO
Says the guy who is all upset the he has to have a little decorum because he sees a boobie.
🤦🏻♀️
No self-awareness at all, huh?
@SofaKingsMart No no dear its me who should drop the argument. Because as is being said its useless to argue with people like you.
@foxsquirrell
You identify with a dog.
I take it back. You do have some self awareness.
Block me now if you haven’t already. People like you are also know for their thin skin.
@SofaKingsMart I'm not gonna block you. I'm just going to ignore you as I said. I am adamant that breast feeding in public is not a thing to do. I can go on saying to you what you basically said to me, but its a waste of time.
What do yo mean thin skin by the way?
@foxsquirrell
Thin skinned people, in the context of GaG, can’t handle when others have different views, so they block them so they can pretend that all their points are solid, and they never have to entertain the idea that they might be incorrect.
TONS of those people on this site.
You’ll just ignore me huh?
Well, bang up job on that. Well done. 👍
It’s probably best that you move on anyway.
Nothing you say will change the message you have already delivered.
You are offended that you might have to control your own behavior in the presence of a female breast. You would rather just make the women move so it’s easier for you.
Is it really other people’s job to make sure you are not offended in a public place?
You even declared breastfeeding the equivalent of taking a shit.
And then you pled for intelligence from those you interact with?
Is that because you are aware of how lacking you are in that department?
Again, far more self aware than I gave you credit for.
@SofaKingsMart lol go on saying whatever you want to say. Firing statements left and right as if they were true. And all along thinking that you are smarter than I am and not the other way round. lol As I said not much use to argue here. I think I inferred something though from something that you said. You were expecting me to block you. Seems that you have quite a good amount of experience being blocked on this site. I'm not surprised. lol Isn't that true? And then because you do not want to accept that you are irritating with your gibberish and non sens you dismiss those people who blocked you as thin skinned. They are wrong you are right. Typical Karen perhaps. lol Not sure, but something like that.
Babies don't work on a schedule. It's not always possible to find a private place to breastfeed. But women generally do try keep it on the down low anyways. Like I said, we don't just get our boobs out. We lift our top on one side and put the baby there. There's no much to see. And I'm sure a screaming crying hungry baby in public is much more of a nuisance.
Also you don't own public spaces either hence you don't get to dictate rules in them so it really doesn't matter if we disagree. We (breastfeeding women) already won.
@Crimsyjo No you haven't. You haven't won anything. It never received serious debate in the legislative office it seems. Yeah public space is not mine either, its everyone's'. So we have to vote if you don't want to accept that that is not a thing to do in public. Sure as hell that a crying baby is a nuisance, but then again take him in the toilet lol. And breast feed him there. Or get a formula milk in a bottle for those little emergency situations madam. There are solutions. And very easy ones at that. You just have to prepare a little that's all. I would give you a fine if it was up to me. Because its no excuse that a baby is hungry, because there is a thing called a bottle. If you forgot to fill it up, its your bad sorry, you will get a fine if caught breast feeding in public. That's what you should get.
@foxsquirrell
Awwww! Hunny 😞
You want the world to work together so your delicate sensibilities don’t get offended.
Not sure why you see any intelligence in that. It’s not a particularly smart position to take.
I’m only irritating to people who cannot express their positions in articulate manner.
And you find me irritating?
That’s probably why.
@SofaKingsMart Is it true or is it not true that you have been blocked countless times? I know I know they are all thin skinned people like me. But is it true? Would you like to look truth in the face for once? :p
@foxsquirrell
foxsquirrell
Of course I have.
What? You think it’s some insult to be blocked? I think it’s hilarious.
“Would you like to look truth in the face for once?” I’m not sure what you’re referring to here. Please elaborate
Reading your latest response to @Crimsyjo,
“take him in the toilet lol. And breast feed him there.” And “ get a formula milk in a bottle for those little emergency situations” tells me you have never had to parent a baby.
I’m beginning to wonder if all this stems from plain old jealousy because you, yourself, have never actually touched a female boob.
Don’t care tbh. I have had my fun. Other things now draw my attention, and I grow bored of you.
You are welcome to respond with claims of all the boobies you have touched if that makes you happy.
I’m done, and unlike your failed attempt, I will actually ignore you now.
You have yourself a wonderful day. 👋
Never touched a female boob. Omg! You wonder far astray. But I'm used to you now. You say whatever comes to your mind to try and attack the person you are arguing with.
But at least you have answered my question about you being blocked so many times honestly. So there is a little bit of good in you, you're not all trash. lol
If you are getting bored why send such a long reply and why you want me to elaborate? Or you wanted to say what you want one last time as some sort of last salvo of defiance before you disengage with me? :p
Anyhow was fun playing with you a little bit.
You have a wonderful day too. ✌️
If you said it makes you uncomfortable and you don't like it that would be fair enough. Nobody can argue with your feelings. But when u presume to know how viable other options are (finding a toilet) and thinking a baby can just 'have formula' when breastfed or be fed on a schedule (so not getting caught out in a location that's not ideal) is possible like it's a dog getting fed 2pm daily - it just doesn't work like that.
So it's more the level of aggression and wording that triggered the convo here rather than your feelings on the matter.
I can actually see how it must be annoying when you see women constantly saying "it's my body I can do what I want".
I guess I was trying to say that I don't think breastfeeding in public - done discreetly- should be a problem. And absolutely the mother should not complain if she does feel stared at. As she chose it. Like women in skimpy clothes calling men perverts for looking.
So I get it. I just think there is a middle ground.
You did the right thing. I would try to avoid doing that, but if I had my baby with me and they were hungry and I was breastfeeding I would like to feel like I could do that without getting a lot of hate or even worse feeling unsafe.
She didn’t cover anything up. When I made eye contact she didn’t have an embarrassed look, even though she saw me look at her breast, unintentionally of course
She’s cool with it. I’d probably be embarrassed, but I’d like to be like her when I’m older and I have a baby.
It’s understandable to be shy, but I absolutely agree that women should be able to breastfeed wherever and wherever needed.
Thank you
That makes sense. Do you ever feel unsafe in other parts of life?
@BarryLiverstone no, I don’t. But I would be nervous with my bare breast out in front of people, especially the first time I did it.
I’m glad you feel safe mostly. And that’s understandable. Guess there could be bad things that happen then? True I can see how you may feel nerves
I thought it’s covered, not bare
@BarryLiverstone I’m probably just being paranoid. I get that way sometimes lol.
This shouldn’t even be a question, especially in a place like an airport where people spend full days traveling. The baby is hungry and women can actually get an infection from not emptying their breasts frequently enough and it’s SO painful. Also from personal experience, covering up is such a joke when the baby is just literally trying to pull it off constantly.
There were no lactation pods around? 🤔😆
There are those breastfeeding covers for convenience. That would be enough.
I definitely wouldn't want too. I guess it's fine if others do but I definitely wouldn't want to breastfeed my baby (If I had one) in front of strangers, especially men.
Yea I think it is becoming more acceptable. I think that's just fine. I don't have a problem with a woman breastfeeding in public. Eventually it'll be something people don't really think twice about.
Yes. I have in the past but I always used a blanket mostly because having seen how my husband reacts at the sight of my breasts especially when I was pregnant or breastfeeding as they were bigger than my head.
I think it’s completely fine and natural but the decent thing to do is cover yourself up while doing so.
Ok, we like to look at a females boobs! But they're there for a purpose. It would be terrible to think a mother had to go to the toilet to feed her baby. I'm sure every male would give her privacy.
Oh, believe me. They don't.
No! I am currently trying to be comfortable with showing my cleavage so showing my boobs is not a good idea. I am never going to do it but then I live in a country where I get stared at even when I’m covered up. Maybe it’s their habit.
That’s unfortunate
I have always done that n never bothered or cared about wht someone can say... my boys needed it n that's all that mattered to me
I would try to avoid it. It's not that I think it's gross or improper, it's just very sexualized. If my baby needed to eat, of course I would feed it but I'd try to have a little decency about it. I'm not talking about going into a bathroom because that's unsanitary, but just finding a quiet corner out of the way and making an effort to keep my nipple covered. No shade on women who don't care, it really just comes down to the mother's preferences and the baby's needs.
Of course i would.
If my baby is hungry, I will feed him/her whether I'm at home or at the park. In public I would use a light blanket to cover myself...
I would cover up just for privacy and respect to the people around me. There are creeps out there too that would possibly make the situation uncomfortable. In the summer time I would try to find a less crowded place so I don't have to cover as much because of the temperature.
I would, but I know people would feel uncomfortable seeing my breast out. I'd have one of those covers too. My kid needs to eat, and that's all I care about
Only neanderthals and pervs seem to care these days. It's the most natural act In the world & many use a covering. There's zero shame in it so I support her 💯
Yes, I would, anywhere when it was necessary.
If the woman was willing to feed me, sure.
Just kidding.
I appreciate women who breastfeed their hungry baby in public.
I think it's great when a woman is so comfortable revealing something so intimate in public.
Hopefully they don't mind it all being recorded and shared via the net. There are websites dedicated to this kind of voyeurism.
Yes, I would give it a try to see what people would do if they saw me.
SIR WHAT?
I personally wouldn't do that because I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable but if someone else does it in public, I will not care because it's their life, they're just parenting
As a guy you don't want to be labeled a perv but it's really hard not to want to look when you see a woman has breasts out (exposed)
As long as she does not show her boobs more than it is necessary to feed the baby, I have no problem.
No way. I don't want to get hate crimed while holding a baby.
I will stare. Maybe touch myself or turn on sex toy if I’m wearing it
Women should have freedom to breastfeed wherever they want.
Yes I breastfeed and breastpump in public
👍 bet your a great mom!
I bet you're a bad mom
That’s great 😃 I admire women who don’t give a shit about what stupid people think
Well I don't admire stupid women who aren't open to learn anything.
@Aiko_E_Lara bad mom for breastfeeding my kids when theyre hungry? 😂
I'm not even just talking about the current situation. And the fact that you're completely missing the point. No one said you can't breastfeed your children. You oppose the idea of covering it in public for precaution like a "responsible mom" you are. And the fact that you argue poorly, I'd feel bad for your children getting some braindead influence from you.
@Aiko_E_Lara not all babies tolerate a cover and there is no reason for it either. If you don't cover your face while eating then neither should a baby
It's just like how not all babies tolerate being on the bed or a crib to sleep but for the parents will being, they let the baby just get used to it as they are adapting and humans are adaptable. Unless you're a type of mother who spoil their kids based on how much they whine
*Well-being.
@Aiko_E_Lara it's natural to co sleep and many parents choose that instead of using a crib
I don't just mean putting them in the crib. I also said putting them down in the bed even if you have to co sleep. You only want a cherry pick what they said and only choose that to argue with and ignore the rest. And if you're such a naturalist, go live in the wilds and stop using this site. Unless you just want to use what's natural just for your convenience
baby has to eat
Exactly
I don’t think it’s something women should do in public view.
Do it in private
@Apple1996 yes, it is most certainly always possible
It's really not. Moms and babies often have to be out and about more than everyone else. Babies have lots of appointments and stuff they need so we have to go to the store. Shoot even on the way home from the hospital after giving birth i had to stop at the pharmacy for meds. A baby that small needs to be fed very often
@Apple1996 you can make your case all you want. I don’t agree with you
Probably not, I am not very open about my sexual kinks.
i couldn't do it
i'd go somewhere private
Sure! I see nothing wrong with it.
They should take precautions.
You're lucky that she didn't call you a perv. And that exactly is another problem with it. The thing is, boobs are sexual organs. Girls even use them to seduce guys. The argument "if you don't like it don't look" is BS. Straight guys love boobs and we are naturally attracted to them and of course there are those creeps who can't control themselves that is why we all take precautions like locking our house and car when we leave. It's not so different from just simply covering when nursing.
Just because you don't it doesn't mean it really isn't. If you think that's only to feed babies milk, that's basically a reason why it's a part of the reproduction. Without, boobs you cannot reproduce. And in fact, you get pleasure and orgasms if your boobs get played with. So how is that not a sexual organ?
Wait... "Without boobs you cannot (sp) reproduce?" Seriously? So a girl can't get pregnant if she has had a mastectomy? Someone needs to study anatomy and learn how reproduction works! And as far as getting pleasure and orgasms when another person is touching and/or rubbing her breasts, that doesn't happen most of the time and I for one have never had an orgasm from someone playing with my boobs. I'm not saying it doesn't happen as there are nerve endings all over a girl's body. Many girls have orgasms from someone touching their legs or arms or butt but that doesn't mean that area is a sex organ.
How do babies grow if you don't feed them? You think milk grows on trees? It doesn't mean literally you need boobs to get pregnant but you need it naturally for the baby which is why it's a part reproduction. To reproduce for your offsprings. And just because you're talking about yourself not getting orgasms from getting your boobs played, that doesn't remove the scientific studies about how boobs give girls orgasms and they can even feel it in their genitals. Your butts and other parts of your body don't function the same. They don't get orgasms for getting their other parts touched the same way their nipples get rubbed do. And if it really is not a sexual organ then it wouldn't be the case that a lot of girls would get offended if someone compliments or just talks about their boobs without any sexual context. Even butts can be considered sexual because having a very round butt indicates your fertility rate. I mean you girls want compliments about how you look you wouldn't really mind except when we talk about the boobs and butts part, you would get uncomfortable. You don't? It's because now I've talked about it that's why. That's just a favor your argument.
OMG you obviously know very little about reproduction and female anatomy! I am not even going to argue with you about it as I think it's too complicated for you. I will say that there is such a thing as baby formula that is bought in stores that millions of women use to feed babies so maybe you should study up on that area. Anatomy and reproduction are topics that you should study when you get older and are a lot more experienced.
You're not going to argue because you just want to be comfortable with your own ignorance because you don't know anything about it. There are many sources about it confirming that yes it is though not in a traditional sense, It is still a part of it because that's what makes babies grow. Do those baby formulas even exist when humanity just started? You think baby formulas just grown trees? You haven't even given that thought and you're calling me ignorant. How ironic. And if you are older than me even just by a year then you should know better.
And you don't even know what you're talking about. Telling me to shut up doesn't really change the facts.
Yes I would if I were a mother
Can but cover it
yes of course
No of course
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